Working with Someone With a Narcissistic Personality Disorder

I stumbled across this condition on the internet when I was researching bullies and why they behave as they do. If you've read my post - My Real Job, you'll be expecting this blog, as I actually worked with someone with this disorder.

I was a victim of Workplace Bullying and I discovered that my Perpetrator (for want of a better word), - suffered (and I say this word loosely as I was the one who suffered) with this condition.

I was astounded when I found a website that listed the symptoms - every single one described her to a tee.

Symptoms from: https://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/narciss...

I worked at a local school and I had done so for seven years - I prided myself in a job well done. This new "girl" was on the same level of pay as I was so not a supervisor or of any managerial position but only two days after she started, she began to question me - had I done this? had I done that?

It soon became apparent that nothing I did (in her eyes) was right. She would belittle me and watch every thing I did and then even though she didn't know my job, try to tell me how it should be done and yet my manager was more than happy with my work.

She did the same with other staff but at least they didn't have to work as closely with her. She had her desk moved in the office so that she could see everyone in the office from her position. I felt like I was constantly being watched.

The office manager and the headteacher were frightened of her and very soon she was getting her own way, no matter what the consequences were. Although I stood up to her on several occasions, it got me nowhere as she got the backing she wanted from them. Visitors to school, thought that she was the headteacher.

She was nasty with parents who came to the school office, so much so, that some complained about her to the headteacher - this didn't achieve anything as I say the headteacher was frightened of her.

Whenever other staff came in to speak to the office manager she took over even when it was of no concern of hers.

The only difference between this person and the pages that I researched was that it steadily decreases with age and people in their 20's score higher. In this case she was over 40 and I saw no signs of her symptoms decreasing.

She made me feel weak and inferior because I stopped standing up to her, but now when I look back, I realise that I am the better person.

Working with her was horrendous and although I put up with it for six years, I had no intention of her beating me, but in the end I couldn't handle it anymore.

Do you know anyone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder?