I Have a Flat Tire

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I have a "flat tire". AKA I'm burnt the "F" out. I haven't spent much time on WA in days. I haven't worked on my websites either, but when I'm not working on my websites I feel anxious. I'm happy when I'm working on my websites and being on WA. I need a picker-upper from my WA family. I wasn't balancing. I put ALL of my efforts into all of this for so long and I'm feeling like I need a vacation. What do you do when you feel like this? I'm not giving up. You all know me well enough to know that I have the passion buring inside of me. As horrible as it sounds, I don't even like it when my husband has a day off, because then I have to pretend like I'd rather spend time with him than work on my websites. I KNOW THAT IS HORRIBLE. But he makes me mad. He doesn't support me. I mean yea his money pays for my monthly membership, but he doesn't show interest in what I'm doing. He doesn't ask me questions, he doesn't even talk about it. He only looks at my websites from his cellphone in secret. He never asks me anything about anything. I hear from his co-workers that he brags about me all the time, but I never hear it from him. My marital problems are preventing me from being able to focus on my writing. I need someone to come pick me up out of this pity-party I'm in. I don't want to feel like this ever again.

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I like to think of life, and my relationships and situations in life, as mirrors. What is your husband telling you about your self by his actions? What can you change in/about you, that will help his attitude/actions change, too? I find that the more we need to learn certain lessons, the louder the lessons get. Flip the coin and see if that provides any insight.

When the money starts coming in he will take more interest in what you are accomplishing. Just keep the I will show him attitude and when you go out and buy yourself a new car just smile at him and take him for a ride in your new car.

He doesn't show any interest because... ready?... this doesn't interest him. It isn't his thing.

Spouses may support you, as in "put up" with your business and the effort you're putting into it, but rarely will they be as enthusiastic or all-out excited as you are. They just don't see it the same way you do, so there's no way each of you can be on the same page.

This is fine, as long as you set it all aside every now and then to enjoy some time together. Or, as you put it, maintain balance in your life.

Bart

I can sympathize. Most men aren't very good communicators. That's just how they are programmed. I'm sure he is proud of you but, at the same time he probably feels neglected. We do have to find a way to prioritize. I am driving everyone in my house crazy with this. Constantly asking them to read my new post or how do they think it looks. Nothing but eye rolling and sighs when this happens. Hang in there and balance it all out.

Since he obviously notices but just does't tell you, keep on doing what you're doing. When you show him the money, he may say something. . . . or he may not. But since working on your sites gives you pleasure and he DOES notice, just go do it. He could be steeling himself against what he sees as your inevitable failure. We, however, know that you WILL NOT FAIL!

Thank you everyone. Your kind words have helped much.

Know how you feel, my wife is always negative about everything I do online so I just started keeping it to myself and keep hoping and trucking along.

Have faith in God and he will see you through all your troubles. God bless!

Awww Sorry to hear about your troubles Joanna and what do you do when you're feeling like this?... you come and chat to your WA family, we all care about you and are here for you.

I can sympathise with the husband part, been there though I am divorced now so have my freedom to work when I like... putting that into practice is a bit more difficult. I too am frustrated at the moment as I love WA, love being here in the community and love the fact that I have created my very own website all by myself (well, with the help from WA) with no prior knowledge. Unfortunately, life keeps getting in the way, I have to work to put food on the table and support my kids, they need my attention (usually in the form of transport or £££) plus I have also taken on some freelance work for some extra £££.

I can't tell you what the ideal solution is but maybe you can just set aside some time for YOU each day, maybe just an hour, and use that to focus purely on your website. Don't worry what your husband thinks about it, do it for YOU

All you need is to be able to show him a paycheck so keep working in that direction and take time off when you need it, this is not a 8 to 5 job you know! :)

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