In The Eye of the Beholder
PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE
Why try to change someone if they do not have the desire to want to change? If the desire isn't there, then the ability sure isn't either... I wasted a lot of years trying to convince people around me that if we did this, or if we did that... I guess I was in need of validation for my ideas and I was probably afraid of succeeding myself. I came to the realization, that people are people, and you cannot expect someone to take the responsibilities needed to be met for your own success. Maybe I was so used to failing, that I needed to have someone there with me to blame. No matter what the reason, what actually happened, is I became afraid of succeeding.
SUCCESS IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER
Just the same as beauty, success is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe the bum on the corner is happy with his basket of junk he hauls around. On Tuesday, he found a half of a pack of his brand of cigarettes, and was able to smoke them all to himself without having to beg for anything because of that treasure he stumbled upon. In his eyes, that might have been successful... A 16-year old succeeds by getting hired at a fast food restaurant, and stays with them for several years, being promoted to a manager, retiring at the age of 65 from the same company. That is a successful achievement. I came to also realize that my success is in my own reality, and whether I make a few million, or half of a million, down to one hundred dollars, it is not money, nor anybody else's opinion how I succeed. It is the confidence I am building along my journey, and it is only myself that can gauge what i have achieved at the end of the day.
PEOPLE DOUBT
I decided to start this blog today because as I was finishing up the stage one classes on Wealthy Affiliate, my friend was sitting next to me, kicking himself in the ass because he had missed an appointment he should have gone to this a.m., resulting in a loss of money for him. He tried to offload his guilt and regret onto me, but I would not let him, because for one thing it is not my business, but even more important, it was not my fault that he did not go. I tried to bring his spirits back up, however, his anger towards himself was causing an unnecessary lash out towards me. I watched him as he listened to the class that I was taking notes on at the time. His wheels were turning. He finally lit up and said, "You know, I don't really mind that you are trying to learn, but, just don't get obsessed over it...", followed by, "Yeah, that's what all of your friends are saying, that you are obsessed with your online business, that hasn't made you any money yet, and that is why you aren't around any of them anymore." I laughed under my breath, because I fully recognized the unhealthy and extremely unattractive behavior, and responded that I was and am not obsessed, I am determined. Then, I quickly, and without argument politely, asked him to leave. There are a lot of people out there that doubt, but I realize today, that my true friends do not care or care to even think that I am obsessing on my own success. My true friends, family included, my true people that care about me, want me to succeed and will even periodically obsess with me. I do not need a cheer down-leader, I understand people doubt, however, my determination is enough to cancel out the doubters today.
I WILL PERSEVERE
My words are kind of all over the place. Partly because of anxiety, but mostly because of excitement. Hopefully, as I move forward, I will be able to gather and put my thoughts down a little better organized. However, all I can think to myself is how happy that I am to have discovered Wealthy Affiliate, and how I am looking forward to coming back to read this in the near future, to see how far I will have come from. I am positive that I am going to find a better place, no matter where it is, and how fancy it may be, it is going to be better. I will persevere, through all the doubters, and all the obstacles. I am not obsessed, I am definitely determined, I am not afraid, I am excited. I have gotten further here than any other attempt at similar ventures, and I have done it myself this time, without being lonely. I know that people are people, and I can have love for them, whether they doubt or support me, because my success is my own, and no one else's. It will be up to me who I share it with when that time comes. AND IT IS COMING:)
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Very well put together post Jessie , well success for everyone is different , that's why Kyle post on money goal is a hit , because everyone have different success barrier , some people like myself , just leaning to write a proper blog is success for me
Nice informative post keep it Jessie
Well said Jessica,
We have become used to the idea of the need to seek other people's approval due to society's ideology of what should be.
Often we get discouraged when we get that usual feedback that what we thought, said, or done is irrelevant and should be changed or give up an idea. just because it doesn't fit the mold of what others think.
So what if you are not making any money now you are doing your best and doing what you love. When you keep on believing in yourself it will happen.
there won't need to be a case of saying I told you so as that would only bring you to his level instead continue to believe in yourself and in all do you.
This is your journey in life and one that leads to a positive life whereas your friend will continue to live at a lower level until he learns to take personal action for himself and for himself.
Yes, we can love and like our friends, family, etc for other reasons but we are not required to live their views unless they are the same with the right intentions.
You will continue to believe in yourself and have already achieved much already with what you have learned and applied here for you.
You know you have our positive support whenever you need it and will always from us here.
Wishing you a wonderful weekend and week ahead and beyond
Just know you are worth it and worthy of much in life whether others believe, accept or disagree.
This is your journey and a journey that is going forward in a positive way.
One thing I've realized in life, once you have intentions of moving on in life people no; matter how close they're to you they never want to see to progress,
No matter what negativity you may encounter always keep pressing on for you're a winner.
After reading the replies I’ve gotten so far, I think I’ve come to realize that this may not be all about the money for me. Even though money will be nice when it comes:) However, it is my desire to accomplish this project of mine from start to finish ( I know there is really never a finish), to prove to myself that I can do it! I am so glad to have the support that I have been getting here. Every word, even if constructive criticism, is encouraging and motivating. And I am so happy to have come upon this group as a whole. So money or no money, because I am surviving now, is second to my endurance and desire to learn a skill that will aid me in furthering my ability to succeed, no matter where I end up... I’m definitely along for the ride:)