Fear of Rejection
I was waken this morning by a thought that had plagued my sleep throughout the night. It was so strong that it felt like one of those subliminal message that gives you the urge to get popcorn during the movie, being integrated into the very fibers of my being.
"Rejection"! Fear of rejection has always been a major excuse for me that disallowed me to fully reach my untapped potential. In every decision that we make, fear of rejection is a emotion that can come on really strong. It can be paralyzing. This emotion can and will make you think that it's better to go off to a job that we loathe rather than step out of your comfort zone, take a chance and start your own business. This emotion will cause you to miss out on marrying the best person you ever knew because you were afraid of them rejecting you. So you settle for whatever is easiest, staying single or settling for the girl or boy next door because they were safer, you grew up together. However, deep down, this was not the life that you envisioned. Thanks fear!
The thought of starting a new venture can be very scary. But that fear can cause us to never achieve our goals and subsequently we never experience our dreams. I personally have some dreams which include exotic vacations, cruising with all eleven of my grandchildren, and retiring with a lifetime of residual incomes. However if I listen to fear, none of these dreams will ever be realized.
I have learned that we cannot trust our emotions because they can be deceiving. I have fell prey to this trap many times. A good business opportunity would be pitched to me and my fear would not allow me to even consider it let alone buy into it. This very emotion talked me out of getting in on Prepaid Legal during its inception. Just think of where I would be financially if I had taken a chance. Now prepaid legal is being offered as part of the benefit package for some rather large companies. I could reach up and kick my own self!
No longer will I allow this unreliable emotion be the driving catalyst in my decision making process resulting in my completely missing out on all that I am destined for. Goodbye fear! Hello dreams!
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I struggle with this too! Just gotta push that fear down and believe in yourself and the processes. Good motivation for today, thanks for the read!
I am no pyschologist but rejection starts at a very early age and can consume us till we old and gray. We have to replace it with a mantra which I used with my kids - I used to to say to them say - " I like myself and feel terrific" -and repeat as often as possible. You try it and that rejection thought does not stand a chance.- I have reached that stage in my life what people think of me is none of my business - a great wayne dyer quote
I agree. Some of us learned this a little slower, or should I say later in life, than others. Whatever the timing, I'm glad I finally got it.
Thanks for the comment.
You are right. Our emotions are deceiving. For me self-sabotage is a big thing. Some people might seem fearless but I believe that in reality, no matter what we do, fear will never disappear. The only thing we can do is to accept fear and to do it anyway. It's the difference between people who live their dreams and those who don't.
My pastor did an entire series entitled, " do it afraid". That prompted a change in the way I handled fear. Now I have learned to suppress the fear and do it anyway! I may have ten people tell me "no" before I get a "yes", that just make the "yes" that much sweeter and motivate me to get my next "yes" no matter how many "no(s)" are between them.
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Emotions never deceive its thoughts that decisive - fear of rejection comes from childhood
The only way to conquer fear is to face your fear, if you fear being rejected then actually experiencing rejection and surviving it will make the fear go away
The fact is rejection is part of life, you will never be able to avoid rejection, its what you do with it when it happens that matters
The most successful people are those that can take risks and fail and then get up an keep going
Her is an example
The people who started Starbucks had their business plan rejected 260 times but they kept going and now its a multi-billion dollar business
They were rejected over and over again but their belief in their business was strong enough to keep them going
Coping with rejection requires a deep belief in your self and your dreams because rejection hurts everybody
Barry