How Are You Handling Crises?

byDivineGood

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4 years ago

When I attended a seminar years ago we discussed the crisis and even dramatized it. It was such awareness and an awakening experience for all the attendees. The word crisis in Japanese meant danger and opportunity because the Japanese people are pretty good at finding ways for opportunities when things turn bad,

All of us can actually learn from them regarding handling crises and once you adapt and adjust to their own teachings you will be able to handle your own crisis in a very calm and serene way.

Life can be filled with tough times. If you complete your years of growing up into adulthood without experiencing some type of family crisis or loss, you'll be the exception. Some families handle difficulties well and survive. Others are totally disrupted and others even disintegrate.

Most of these families are not prepared for life's setbacks. They survive well when life is going well and everything is going their way. Is there anything like that in this world? Some people actually deny that they could have problems. They must be people from Mars.

Secured family members frequently hurt one another by keeping silent. No one would like to start the conversation or develop and plan the solution to the present situation they are in. It's a challenge but if no one is talking, how do you expect to come up with the proper way to resolve the pressing issues?

Interaction is so vital and it is the core of much-understood communication. Too often, people retreat into their own inner world.

Blame is one of the most significant characteristics of families that don't cope well. Sometimes we feel that if we have an explanation for our problems, we can understand and handle them better and feel relieved that someone else is at fault.

This is very common as no one would like to take responsibility for their actions. But guess what? When you are pointing your one finger to blame the other person, your other three fingers are pointing back at you.

Statements that start with, "If only you had or hadn't ... or "Why did you or didn't you...? begin to rain from one person to another.

Another common characteristic of families that don't cope well is that they magnify the seriousness of their problems. They take problems to the extremes and imagine the worst possible outcomes.

A problem is only as big as you make it. The more you talk about it and broadcast it to every single person alive, the bigger it gets and goes nowhere.

Many families however make it through their crises. They don't just survive. They grow.

First, they don't allow themselves to become bitter. They refuse to live in the past or permit the situation to bring life to a stop.

Second, they live in the present and have a future perspective. They seek to learn from what has happened and don't wallow in regrets. They also learn to view the future not as a threat but as an opportunity.

Third, they learn to manage and resolve their conflicts. Families that don't do this heap one conflict upon another. And when a new one comes, they respond to it out of the contamination of all the unresolved issues in their reservoir.

Where does your family fit in these characteristics? How are you handling crises? What you learn now will allow you to handle crises in your life with an open mind and help you in the future.

Thank you so much, my dear WA Family for your precious time reading my blog post, and hopefully, it gives you something to ponder about.

Please do leave your comments, likes, feedback and share your experiences that will help up cope with crises in our lives.

God bless you all.

I love you all dearly.

Elizabeth