Getting over a negative week

Last Update: February 07, 2021

Do you ever have one of those weeks where things just seem to keep going wrong? It feels like the past week has been like that for me.

Nothing major - just lots of small irritations and minor problems which added up to making me feel in a pretty negative mood. Stuff like things running out unexpectedly, missed deliveries, appointments running late, the dog getting covered in mud, flat tyre etc.

Unfortunately I allowed it to colour my thinking and put me in a negative frame of mind and feel like it wasn't worth doing anything because it was bound to go wrong!

I try to be a positive person generally but no matter how positive we may try to be, we all have a tendency to hold little pockets of negativity deep down inside of us.

Each one of those pockets is like a bottle of acid which can cause burns in our soul. It may not do much harm right now, but one day the acid could leak out and potentially affect the rest of our life.

We harbor grudges, jealousies, annoyances, feelings of inadequacy, feelings of self-doubt - all those horrible things that make us human!

But, each one of those negative feelings really only does one thing: it does us harm.

I'm sure I have hundreds lurking deep down inside and I know that you probably do too.

All we can do is try to recognize each one for what it is: an irrational response, and try to let it go.

The more of that negative acid we can get rid of, the less harm it can do us in the long term.

For me, it's the start of a new week so it's time to draw a line in the sand and put last weeks problems behind me and focus on what I can achieve in this coming week.

Stay positive!

Dave

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etseil20 Premium Plus
Hi Dave,

Your post hit home to me.

I use to be very negative all the time (about a few years back). I think 2020 was the year I changed my negative mindset into a more positive one. Practicing positivity has done so much good for me.

Things like practicing mindfullness, meditation and watching the news much less often has been beneficial for me. I’ve been staying more focused as well, especially when it comes to my online business.

There will always be negativity, but we can avoid it at times and turn those thoughts into positive ones. At the end of the day, things will be okay.

Great post- thanks for sharing!

-Eric
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Dave07 Premium
Hi Eric
Those all sound like great ideas to me. I have looked into mindfulness a bit in the last year and I find it really helpful too.
Certainly watching less news is important right now!

Thanks
Dave
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HildeRegine Premium Plus
So true Dave! Negativity is like poison.And it does not help anyone. But it seems you are fully aware of it and managed to turn it into something positive. To Release it and focus on the positive things instead that will bring you forward. I wish you a wonderful week ahead Dave! Big hug!
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Dave07 Premium
Thanks for the big hug Hilde - just what I needed 😀
Yes it’s important not to allow a negative mindset to take root and I am hopeful that a few days break has helped clear my head to focus on progress this week.

Hope you are staying safe, well (and warm)

Dave
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EHR Premium Plus
Negative emotions are a normal part of life in the short term. It's good that you recognize that, and get past them. Gene
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TheCatherine Premium Plus
Why are negative emotions normal ?
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EHR Premium Plus
In the short term most people experience them. Not everyone will, but I have not met anyone in my life who has not. G
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Dave07 Premium
Hi Gene
Yes it's all about keeping the negative stuff in perspective. In the greater scheme of things nothing particularly bad happened. It was more a cumulative thing!
All the best
Dave
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richardgb Premium
@EHR Hi Catherine and Gene... I hope you don't mind me chipping in here ... I could 'put you to sleep' with this subject and will try not to :-). Here's a summary:

All emotions are automatically triggered from within our subconscious mindset.

The mindset by definition is the sum total of our values and beliefs.

Our beliefs (and inherent values) are programmed from birth through many external influences and from the effect of our own conscious thoughts. They continue to be programmed to a greater or lesser degree throughout life.

Some are values and beliefs are useful throughout life and others are not. Some reactions are useful and others are not.

Since our subconscious reactions are automatic, without conscious work, we cannot stop them starting.

With practice, we can consciously notice when they start and if they are useful or not. If not useful, we can (again with practice) take conscious steps to change our reactions into something more useful.

If we focus over a period of time on changing a particular reaction we can change it to something more useful. Some, not so useful reactions can be changed quickly and easily and others can be difficult and take a long time.

It's a (sad in my opinion) fact that most people never become aware enough:
- to realise they can change their reactions;
- to notice when they have a less than useful reaction;
- to be persistent enough to make changes.

Part of the challenge is that over time our mindset becomes comfortable with our 'less than useful' reactions and it's as if part of us fights the change. It's a form of self-hypnotism.
:-)
Richard
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EHR Premium Plus
Usually how it goes. Good you are doing better. Gene
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EHR Premium Plus
You are right. It does often take work to get past the automated instinct to do what we programed ourselves. But the work is worth it. Gene
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TheCatherine Premium Plus
I certainly did until I changed the way I think
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richardgb Premium
Hi Catherine...
I'm interested to know please, if you're willing to share, what you changed and how you changed it ...
:-)
Richard
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TheCatherine Premium Plus
Letting go is one of the hardest and best things we can do. Letting go of the things that no longer serve us
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Dave07 Premium
Hi Catherine.
Yes I agree about letting go of the mental rubbish. A couple of days away from the pressure has definitely helped.

Thanks
Dave
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CMKetay Premium
Yep! Just keep plugging along. The law of averages catches up and turns things around. Hope next week is better! Christine
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Dave07 Premium
Hi Christine.
I'm sure better times are just round the next corner. I know it's silly to let small stuff get in the way.
Best wishes to you
Dave
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