How Resilient Are You?!
Until 1995 when Daniel Goleman brought this notion into prominence, IQ was the popular tool used to separate the top echelons of the human population from the less intellectually endowed. But the eminence of Emotional Intelligence has turned everything on its head.
So What’s Emotional Intelligence?
It is the ability to be aware of and manage our emotions.
Goleman identified 5 key elements that make up Emotional Intelligence:
- Self-awareness – knowing yourself and how you express your emotions
- Self-regulation – being aware of how you manage your emotions
- Motivation – knowing how you motivate yourself
- Empathy – recognising and understanding other people’s emotions
- Social skills – managing relationships including managing other people’s emotions and their impact
The way you conduct yourself and interact with others is a direct result of your emotional intelligence. Everything we are learning here at WA requires strong emotional intelligence.
In today's frenetic world, there are so many stressors around. Even the pace of life itself can be stressful. The way you use your emotional intelligence will determine your ability or not, to recover from stress. This is where your mental agility comes alive.
Your mental stamina, resilience, is one of the key attributes of someone with good emotional intelligence. That's the vehicle for all rounded success.
How resilient are you?
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What a great post and thought provoking. I currently work in the insolvency industry and have done for many years and its a stressful job. Now I know what's kept me going all those years. Me
Remarkable Dan. Thank you for sharing your story and insight. You and all of us have it within.
And yes, your job is not easy, emotionally and otherwise.
I went to a seminar about two weeks ago on Emotional Intelligence. It was an excellent class, and I learned a great deal. The biggest takeaway was how to interact with people. We were able to take the EiQ online. My result said that I need to be more understanding of others feelings when making decisions and not be all about facts and numbers. I am working on it.
That's awesome Laurin. In many respects, knowing how you use and manage your state and others becomes somewhat liberating. Thank you so much for sharing this.
In 2003 I was given a year to live
I was drinking a bottle of vodka a day and smoking 60 a day
I have been sober for 12 years now and stopped smoking ten years ago
Been through 7 years of therapy due to emotional abuse and abandonment
You may say that I am quite resilient
But its not really resilience that matters its purpose because purpose = power
Some people look for answers in books
Some people look for answers in the bible
But in truth all the answers are in the silence that sits deep within us waiting to be discovered
God gave us all the answers to all the question but he put them in a place we never look
In ourselves
Barry
You are absolutely right Barry, our resilience is within us, however, for a variety of reasons we let this innate ability go. I appreciate you sharing your insight.
Like Harvey said, I am a work in progress, just trying to recognize what's important and what isn't, day by day. Great post.
Thank you Brad. You are so right, separating what's important from what isn't helps to focus the mind in the right direction.
In life, healthy emotional stability is a necessity if one is to succeed. Without it, you are easily torn apart .... doubts, fears, frustration ....negativity can overcome you and defeat any good intention you may have.
I agree Rose. Negativity can very easily dismantle the advances one makes. The joy of life is that we keep moving forward.
Not sure how resilient I am...some days are easier than others due to many factors. Usually I try to be in control of myslef and be aware of all 5 things. Some days, they just don't all mingle correctly. Such is life, right?
Such is life indeed Liz. For me, it's always work in progress. Remembering to pause and respond. There's the old saying: count up to 10 before your respond. I think it is a very wise saying.
Hi Chuka,
I really like you post. Being emotionally strong is something we all need. Keeping our emotions in check is sometimes hard to do.
My Bishop said it best, "respond don't react." Emotions are a big part of our daily lives. Without them we would be literately zombies...lol!! Thanks so much for your insight. Have a great day.
Mary
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Not particularly at the moment, but working on it :)
We are all mostly work in progress Jude :)