Comfort and Joy
Joy and the Comfort Zone.
2 years ago, I took an on line course and joined the paid membership community with hopes of earning big money on the internet and escape my life. I was emotionally tormented daily and, like a lot of people, thought the circumstances of life were the cause of my misery. I blamed others, of course, and didn't know I could take responsibility for myself. I was depressed and medicated. And that's okay. That's how I was brought up. Victim mindset. One of the first lessons I learned with that course was to do a daily GRATITUDE practice.
Behold, A Comfort Zone Is Born!
For the first time in Many years, I started to experience the feelings of joy and behold, a comfort zone was born! I did manage to study a LOT of self help information. But, the times I did attempt to implement those self help and course lessons - well, all the fear and anxiety would rush back to the surface and I shut down. So, at least for a good year, I was over joyed and happy in my lovely little comfort zone. But damn it, The more joy I experienced, the more hope started creeping into my mind and I started to hope I could earn money on line so I could live life instead of escaping it's circumstances. I did part ways with that program for various reasons/excuses. Ultimately, the program took a new direction that did not interest me. Now I'm happily here at WA.
Our Wants Live Outside Of The Comfort Zone
Our outside circumstances do cause us problems. I decided I wanted to live life but those damn circumstances have to be dealt with, something I never really learned. The comfort zone is where you can deal with all the good things. You know you are safe and you feel all happy all the time. The comfort zone is in us. Circumstances are outside of us. Both are part of life. This has been hard for me to accept but I'm happy to report I'm getting there. One of my prayers today was to admit I wanted to live in my comfort zone. Then I asked why? If everything I want is outside of it? I just had to make the connection it is not one or the other it is both. And I am also safe outside of the comfort zone. WA is proving to be a safe community.
So Now What?
Carry on of course! Hard things will happen and fear and anxiety will come up. I'll take those steps of faith, even the little ones count. I am happy and joyful these days AND when stuff happens I can retreat to the comfort zone and think things over. I can recognize that progress is made outside of it though, right where all you wonderful WA members are!
It is a Comfort and Joy to be here. I hope all of you find it the same.
I welcome any constructive comments for my style, content etc.
* Just a side note, depression meds do cause damage to the brain.* I do not claim to be an expert on the comfort zone subject and only express the best way I can my experiences on the topic.* I was able to get off the meds, which has allowed me to feel anxious. Stopping medications for depression is a serious matter and needs to be planned and monitored carefully. Preferrably with medical supervision.
Cheryl Watson
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Proud of you for getting off the meds. As a Personal Trainer and Nutritionist I see all these clients on statins for no reason other than to make Big Pharma money.
Cholesterol never killed anyone. Statins are burying people every single day.
To a bright future to you and yours in 2020.
Mark
Thank you Mark. It's kind of insane how they ( most of them) even tell you on their advertisements that a side effect is death.
My Dr. did not support my wish to go off anti depression drugs but my pharmacist actually told me the best way to wean off them.
Hi Cheryl
I'm glad you gave up the medication. I know that God gave us the diseases, but He also gave us the cures. I'm also glad you discovered WA. It's wonderful, and the community is amazing. When you have a question, you just have to ask, and someone will help. Enjoy your trip here.
Carmen
Great post, Cheryl--glad you were able to wean yourself off those meds--glad you're taking those critical baby steps toward working outside your comfort zone! You WILL succeed!
Jeff
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I'm glad that you feel safe here at WA. I took myself off my depression med because I was having some serious side effects. Of course I informed by doctor that I had stopped them. My happy place of comfort and joy is listening to my favorite type of music. It can lift my spirits higher than anything (except my 3 year old granddaughter). Too, I get motivated here and encouraged by other members who have been through the same stuff that I go through in learning something completely foreign to you.
Take care and have
a blessed week
Charlotte
PS You're doing a great job by the way. I meant to say that at first. Sorry.