How to Succeed in your Own Business

Last Update: July 23, 2016

Be Prepared to Fail


It is very unlikely that you will succeed without failing first. Some of you will probably not like how this post started but maybe they'll agree with me after all (eventually lol) ...

Making mistakes when building your own business is, I guess human nature and part of the "deal". You want success? Financial freedom? Fun at work? Less stress? Well, you are going to have to "suffer" a bit =). Otherwise where's the fun in it?

Nothing comes easy but almost anything that costs efforts, time and sweat will be rewarded. Even when you think you're wasting your time and nothing is going your way, I know that all your small actions and efforts are adding up somewhere in the cosmos (you know, that place where everybody's karma is having fun until they decide to get back to us!)

Patience


I haven't been doing affiliate marketing for ages (about a year and a half) but I did start being my own boss back in 2009. I just couldn't hold down a job lol. I was a devoted employee but I would feel trapped and get bored quickly. I wanted to be more creative, I needed to feel really useful... to have fun, to be myself. You probably know the feeling.=D

Ever since I joined WA my business (and to some extant, life) has changed and I'm happy to say that it has changed for the better. It wasn't always easy though lol... there were days when I just wanted to throw my computer out the window, watch it crash with a nervous smile and get back to a regular job. I would wonder "WHEN is it going to happen for me?" (I mean success).

I think I have made my share of mistakes on my journey and I wanted to share them with you. =) Maybe you'll smile at them, as you will remember making them too... Maybe you'll keep them somewhere in the back of your head and manage to avoid them...


The inevitable Mistakes I Have made


  • I lost sight of my customers... well yeah, what else can I say? lol. Sometimes you are so over-committed (to yourself) that you forget you are actually writing stuff that real people are reading lol.
  • Sometimes I was a bit hasty, I overlooked stuff... I am guilty of wanting things quickly lol. Shame! Shame ! (GOT fans will smile at this).
  • I would rush off in many directions
  • I would work so much that I would burn out... I would not take breaks because I wanted to succeed so bad

  • I guess I have sometimes been blind to flaws and have lacked objectivity. Taking a step back feels really good every once in a while =)
  • Although I can say that I am a very organized person (I keep a diary, use to-do lists, set goals every day, can focus and don't get distracted easily) ... I sometimes had difficulty with time management, focusing on ONE THING (see "rushing off in many directions lol)
  • At the beginning I didn't trust myself. I guess it doesn't really count as a mistake because I did my best lol... but I would be scared to be myself and I thought unless I did what successful people did I wouldn't achieve success. It took me a while to accept that I could take their advice and follow their steps but that it was ok (even recommended lol) to be myself !


Things That Helped


Fortunately, we learn from our mistakes (most of the time lol). I noticed that there are some mistakes that need to be repeated for you to finally decide that it was a bad move after all ... Don't despair! Even the nastiest mistakes can be defeated...

Here are a few things that I decided to implement and that definitely made a difference!

  • Using timelines : if you want to know where you're going at all times, you really want to take small steps and use short/medium/long term timelines. Seeing the big picture is necessary but you need to also look at each pixel =)
  • Getting feedback : it's too easy to be so immersed in what you're doing that you don't see our mistakes. Feedback will keep you on track, it will help you get better at what you do
  • Using multiple media : if you're like me you don't like Facebook and most social media (except for Pinterest, which I love lol) ... but if you don't take advantage of everything you can, your competitors will. Just sayin'
  • Surrounding yourself with positive people : think positive and positive things will happen to you. Don't stick with people who see everything black when you just need to see everything pink lol. Building a business is hard enough as it is, you don't need people who will drag you down.
  • Diversifying and renewing networks reciprocity

  • Being selective : you want a good business? give your customers/readers quality products/reviews/training/advice/support etc. Be your best, ask for the best, learn from the best.
  • Taking gradual risks : this isn't a suicide mission =)
  • Avoiding the speed trap : I know it sounds obvious but there's no such thing as earning money quickly and easily. Don't skip steps, take your time and it'll be all right.
  • Balancing present and future : Tomorrow is important because that's where you want to go. But now is too important to be too focused on tomorrow lol... You want to act now so that your tomorrow is better. Focus on the finish line but enjoy the run =)
  • Prioritizing : hmmmmm when you can prioritize you will be much more efficient. There are things that can wait and others that are crucial

  • Using simple structure : why make things more complicated? Simple things usually work very well =)
  • Learning from failures : failure is success' best friend you know? they've known each other forever
  • Sharing your optimism : you made a sale? celebrate! you have more traffic? celebrate! you created your first newsletter? celebrate! you are on the 1st page of google? celebrate ! you figured out a way around a wordpress issue? celebrate! you write faster now and can create more posts each day? celebrate! Just be careful not to become an alcoholic because you are going to celebrate a lot!
  • Communicating clearly : what do you want? what are you trying to do? what are your goals exactly ? If you are clear you'll get clear answers
  • Focusing on human element : getting search engines to love you is important but we're working to help people

  • Reading a lot : educating yourself will definitely help you grow and get better at what you do. It'll give you more perspective, help you fix mistakes...
  • Partnering with creative types : like I said you don't want to be friends with too many negative people lol... and you definitely could do with creative folks! it's refreshing and inspiring
  • Focusing on the big picture : your dream will give you wings. Look at it, practice , grow bigger and one day you will fly
  • Forming alliances : you can't do this alone. Rely on your friends. On your family. On WA members =). Anybody. Alliances will help you "win the war".
  • Delegating : oh I hate delegating... who am I to give you this piece of advice ? lol. But yeah delegating is proof that you can trust others and that you can accept you can NOT do everything yourself. Some people will be better than you and it's ok.

  • Not letting love for your product blind you : just because you love something doesn’t mean it’s the best. Being unbiased is important
  • Rehearsing your story : think, move, act like you've already achieved success.


To Succeed or Not to Succeed?


So are you ready to spot your mistakes, accept them and fix them? Are there things you believe you could do better from now on?

On the other hand, are there things that you are really proud of? Are you willing to celebrate on the small things?


“Do. Or do not. There is no try.” – Yoda, Jedi Master


Cheers =)

Sarah

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rexwee Premium
What a great post! Thanks for sharing!
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BelieveItYes Premium
I am happy you liked it! Thank you for reading it ...
All the best !
Sarah
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RushingBee Premium
Sooo much work to do!!! But you inspire me to keep moving. Thank you. :)
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BelieveItYes Premium
Aaaw that means a lot to me, thanks!
Remember, one step at a time and don't give up
Cheers
Sarah
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BrianFord Premium
Thank's for your post!! Sarah
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BelieveItYes Premium
Sure =)
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KCosta Premium
Thank you so much Sarah, your post is really helpful to me.
Karin
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BelieveItYes Premium
I'm glad it can help =)
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Thanks for a great post Sarah
Deb
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BelieveItYes Premium
Thanks for reading it! =) and you are most welcome
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greenvee Premium
fantastic blog - i really love it.
especially master joda's quote; he really rocks man :) :)
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BelieveItYes Premium
lol he sure does, thanks!
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mijareze Premium
Yin and the yang both male and female....philosophy 101 many years ago.
Ed
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BelieveItYes Premium
Hmmmm... Everything in this world and perhaps universe seems to be based on polarity, duality... it's fascinating
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MKearns Premium
You have so many great messages going here Sara. I'll focus on one. The Yin and Yang symbol, the epitome of Taoism and the pattern of the Korean flag. It is a message of balance in all things. I dare say it was ingrained by universal observation of night and day and even noticing that the light and dark patterns in the full moon which mimic it.
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BelieveItYes Premium
Interesting fact about the full moon =) thanks for sharing ... I also love the yin and yang message
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MKearns Premium
Thank you Sarah.
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olivingstone Premium
Great post Sarah. Some food for thought...
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BelieveItYes Premium
Thanks! =) I'm happy you liked it
Have a great day
Sarah
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bluelemon Premium
Thank you for the good post, Sarah. It reminds me do some reality check..
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BelieveItYes Premium
glad I can help =)
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awag Premium
Great post! I love that you hold nothing back when sharing about the reality of running your own business. Thank you for sharing Sarah.
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BelieveItYes Premium
thank you =) I have been scammed so many times before I found WA that I would never be able to lie to someone about what it's like to build an online business. I'd rather disappoint them than fool them into thinking it's quick and easy lol..
thanks for reading
Cheers
Sarah
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RTejeda Premium
This post is food for thought. Thanks for sharing, Sarah.
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BelieveItYes Premium
You are most welcome! thanks for taking the time to read it
Cheers
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HutchNZ Premium
Like this Sarah!
I make similar mistakes and it is important to step back and have a good look at where you are to refocus.

Pointing them out in this detail is awesome!

Thanks
Wade
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theresroth Premium
Great formula, Sarah, all of those points are plausible and will help getting that bull's eye.......☺
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suzzziq Premium
Wow, Sarah, this is great information, especially for a newbie like me! I'm going to save this one, definitely! Thanks so much for your insight:)
Blessings:)
Suzi
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PMishra Premium
This post was so in-depth and full of super helpful stuff. Thank you for writing and posting it! Im tempted to copy and paste this into a word document for reference:)
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LisaFranks Premium
Hi Sarah,

I give a lot of weight to small successes. Yes, there are fails but figuring out what went wrong and how to fix it is also a success.
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MNorton Premium
Hi Sarah,
You are spot on with this post!! Everything you said is the truth. We must take part in every point you made. Thanks so much for your insight. Have a great weekend.
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Miren Premium
Very interesting and useful post!
I struggle with writing content (I'm such a slow writer and I get overwhelmed easily because there's a lot of information) and prioritizing and focusing on one thing is also hard for me, I have a hard time concentrating on what really matters...
I need to work on that and I guess it takes time.
I believe this post will help me =)
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trailhound Premium
This is the third time today that I've read about using failure to succeed. What is the universe trying to tell me. lol:)
Good fortune
Richard
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BigEvent Premium
Hi, your post is excellent! I sometimes get lost into how so far I have to go to reach my goals, until I realized how far I've come to this point of here and now. I am so excited to be a part of the WA community, I am so addicted to Pinterest!
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Mike-Writes Premium
Excellent post, Sarah. Thanks for sharing.
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Dmcraven Premium
Thank you for the reassurance and honesty!!! Great post!!
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BelieveItYes Premium
thanks for liking it =)
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lynnsam61 Premium
Really helpful and useful post Sarah. I dislike most social media too but love Pinterest.
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BelieveItYes Premium
I hear you lol, Pinterest is nice because you don't have to interact lol... you just look at beautiful stuff.... =D
Thanks for stopping by
Cheers
Sarah
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MPollock Premium
Fantastic article and the list of success is great.
Thanks for sharing.
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BelieveItYes Premium
Glad you liked it! =)
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ecomtom Premium
Great post Sarah, thanks.
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BelieveItYes Premium
Thank you!
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WilliamBH Premium
Great thoughts Sarah, thank you .. Cheers, William
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BelieveItYes Premium
Thanks a lot! =)
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janmar Premium
A lot of great suggestions in this post. Thank you.
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BelieveItYes Premium
=D you are most welcome!
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DaleOdom Premium
Great post-Sarah!

It is really down to earth and easy to understand. There are several things in which I need to work on especially the social media part because I too am not a fan truthfully of any of them.

I also need to work on getting more feedback so someone can point out the things I am doing wrong, or I could do better.

Thanks for breaking it down Sarah!
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BelieveItYes Premium
Always happy to help
Cheers =)
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Lorac Premium
Awesome, and thoughtful post...I enjoyed the read. The social media part hit home for me. I too hate Facebook, but LOVE Pinterest! (Who can't love Pinterest?)
Carol
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BelieveItYes Premium
Only the ones who haven't tried it will not love it ahah
Thanks, cheers =)
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LouisaB Premium
Hello Sarah,
You word of wisdom are more than appreciated. Keep going forward because. Someone is listening..
Cheers and laughter!
Louisab
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BelieveItYes Premium
Thank you, your kind words are very appreciated =)
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paulgoodwin Premium
Lovely post my dear and I think it all comes back to speed just trying to get there too quickly
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BelieveItYes Premium
absolutely
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johnwai Premium
Another brilliant piece from Sarah the wise :) Lots of great advice.
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BelieveItYes Premium
ahah Sarah the wise, right... ^^ I'm also a professional reckless
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cosmicradio Premium
Thanks for the good advice, Sarah! :)
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BelieveItYes Premium
of course =) thanks for dropping by !
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Chrissies Premium
Such great advice and encouragement Sarah, many thanks :)
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BelieveItYes Premium
=) you are most welcome! and thanks
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stevecox Premium
All very wise counsel....................AND you quoted my hero Sarah..........

“Do. Or do not. There is no try.” – Yoda, Jedi Master

Steve
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BelieveItYes Premium
isn't he everybody's hero... yoda is awesomely wise =)
thanks!
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stevecox Premium
"wise you are" Sarah !
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BelieveItYes Premium
=D. Now I want to watch Star Wars lol
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stevecox Premium
Me too !
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BelieveItYes Premium
ahahah the old ones of course
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stevecox Premium
Yes, absolutely !
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LizPB Premium
Wow Sarah. Great post! Thank you so much for sharing that. You're so right ;-)
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BelieveItYes Premium
Thank you Liz ! =)
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Jerem1ah Premium
Great post Sarah! Definitely some positive insight to take from all of this! I enjoy reading all of your stuff :)
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BelieveItYes Premium
thanks my friend =)
PS : still working on that movie list ^^
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Jerem1ah Premium
haha! You really don´t need to :)
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BelieveItYes Premium
I said I would and I will! lol... maybe not today though. Probably when you least expect it ahah
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SteveOlan Premium
Thanks... I recently made a commitment to spend some time on the activity dashboard to start each day. This post is one of the many reason I am happy I did that. Great Post.
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BelieveItYes Premium
=D I am happy that my post made you happy ! lol
Cheers, thanks
Sarah
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rosieM Premium
I am one of those you are helping by this post....now I have confirmation that it's ok where I'm at now.
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BelieveItYes Premium
Yes, you are at the right place at the right time and if you keep on going forward, you'll cross the finish line =)
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Steve1958 Premium
It's not about how many times you fall over...it's ALL about how many times you GET UP!
Great post Sarah...thanks...
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BelieveItYes Premium
Nicely put and so very true! thanks =)
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ArtysueloC Premium
Great blog that expresses your user name. Couldn't expect any less from you. I enjoy your style of writing. I hate reading most stuff unless I'm really interested in the subject and the writing just flows to me. Great job and thanks for the input.

AC
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BelieveItYes Premium
thanks a lot, I really appreciate it... I just write in the most simple way I'm afraid ahah. I like thinking that I'm (almost) having a conversation with someone and I want to say things the way the come to my mind.
Thanks again
Cheers
Sarah
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JeffEs Premium
c'était vraiment intéressant
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BelieveItYes Premium
merci =)
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Theoracle Premium
One mistake I did not make is to read this post, thank you for caring, you are spot on.
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BelieveItYes Premium
thanks a lot, it's very nice of you
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Loubelle Premium
Thanks Sarah your blog is positive and constructive.I will work and look at mistakes as a positive process regards
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BelieveItYes Premium
=) thank you the positive feedback as well
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Awolin Premium
What an awesome article. This should be on page 1 in the story of a successful on line marketer and in life itself.
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