Deathbed Thoughts: Hit My First Money Goal

byBecomingDesa

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Updated 3 years ago

First Money Goal Hit!

Just realized today that OMG I am now earning $6000 per month . . . the first money goal I set with WA back in June 2018 when I started here.

Wow! So grateful and excited. And so satisfying to check that off. It happened so slowly, and I had forgotten all about setting the original goal here, that when I saw it today it dawned on me. I was like, "Oh, yeah! That's right. I was only earning like $2000 a month back then."

Too funny. Guess that's the power of vision. By the time the end goal shows up, you've been living it so long in your head you don't even realize anything's changed.

So do journal your progress a bit here. It's so rewarding to look back.

Second "Ecstatic" Money Goal Seems Like Small Potatoes Now

Now, I'm feeling like I am so close to a tipping point on the money front.

All this consistent action that has been taken daily to build that original vision for so long is about to take me over a new financial threshold. I think this is called "momentum," right?

It feels like maybe the second money goal I set back then for the question "Amount of money I would be ecstatic to earn" is too small. And that was $20,000 per month! How crazy is that?!

Proof that I am mentally and emotionally altered by this experience I found the courage and knowledge and help to undertake when I found Wealthy Affiliate. Now $20k per month seems good but not something that would make me feel ecstatic. $100k per month I think would do that now.

So that makes $20k a month my new first money goal target, and $100k a month the second ECSTATIC to achieve goal.

Thanks Wealthy Affiliate. You Are DEFINITELY Not a Scam.

It boggles my mind to find anyone online calling this place a scam! Clearly they don't know a thing about WA. They probably also don't know a thing about something called "implementing what they've learned and sticking to it."

Thanks WA. It took longer than I expected, but I just kept on plugging away and learning and implementing piece by piece, bit my bit. I still do it that way. I start with a vision, then a plan for what I can see needs doing right now to get there, and then I just take it one day at a time, one task at a time.

The time was gonna pass anyway, so I might as well just keep doing the work.

I mean, what else was I gonna do? Binge Prime Video all the time?

Um, no thanks.

I'm not here to tune out of my own life so I can witness other's make believe lives.

Deathbed Thinking = My New Philosophy of Life

Instead, over these years I developed what I now call my Deathbed Thinking philosophy.

Covey called it "beginning with the end in mind," but that concept didn't quite click for me like this does.

Here's the way my Deathbed Thinking works:

When I am feeling weak or faced with a decision to make and I just don't FEEL like doing something I know I need to do, like . . .

• ug, I am so tired and already in bed, I don't really need to get up and kiss my hubby goodnight cuz I will see him in the morning
• I won't write my 500 words today because I have such a headache and it was rough this week, I deserve a break
• There's just no time to talk to Mom right now, I've got so much on my plate today

OR

When I am trying to decide between two or more alternatives that seem equally appealing and important, like . . .

• Having kids is SO MUCH work and money and time. I love our life together as it is right now, all our money is ours and we can do whatever we want whenever we want. Having kids will totally change everything and we might be terrible parents anyway.
• Should I pursue this money making opportunity over here now? I mean, I am already working hard on this other thing and I really like it, but it is taking a while to pay off. This other things seems easier and promises a faster payoff.
• Should I save up he $17k to take that Grand Tour of Egypt, or would it be better to spend this money now to upgrade my computer, car, clothes, furniture, etc

To Help Make it CRYSTAL CLEAR what my true priorities should be and what in my soul I want most, I imagine this . . .

I'm a very old woman laying on my deathbed in a hospital.

My husband is dead. My best friend is dead. My brother and Mom are dead. There is no one left in my life from before anymore, they have all gone ahead without me and I am left all alone with nothing but the kindness of strangers at the hospital to keep me company.

What choice then would I say to myself, "If only . . ."

This scene and question remove all confusion and indecision instantly. It clears up priorities AND motivates me into action SUPER FAST.

Because when I am on my deathbed, there ain't a chance in hell I will find myself thinking:

"what if I'd only spent more time watching TV shows?"

"what if I'd only spent more time scrolling through facebook, tiktok, instagram, pinterest more?"

"what if I'd only spent more money buying the most expensive car, house, clothes, handbags, and makeup I could afford?"

"what if I'd only saved more time and got more sleep by ignoring more calls from my Mom and skipping every goodnight kiss when I was already in bed and too tired?"

"what if I'd only saved all that time and money we spent raising kids that now are the only ones still left on this planet that know me and love me?"

Only on Your Deathbed Does it Become Clear What Mattered

It's also true this happens for a lot of people with a terminal diagnosis. The effect is still the same--a live like you were dying perspective that instantly carves out what matters while everything else just drops away.

No, on my deathbed, I won't be wishing I'd had more YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, TV SHows, Netflix, the neverending me time of childlessness, more shoes and handbags and nicer cars or even more money.

More likely, I'd ask myself:

"What if I'd only got my butt out of bed that night and kissed my husband goodnight when he got home before I went to bed? I didn't know he would die by the next day in his sleep!"

"What if I'd only taken the time to ask my Mom more about her life and her recipes and things while she was still here?

"What if I'd only scraped up the courage and the faith to have kids instead of learning too late in the end there will be nothing I would have been more proud to be than a parent and there will be no one left to love me but them?

"What would have happened if I'd only started learning about online marketing from WA like I was so keenly interested in doing for years?"

"What if I'd only then invested the time to learn how to write romance novels like I dreamed of?"

"What if I'd only then invested time learning about self-publishing?

And finally,"If I'd learned how to write, market, and self-publish, what if I'd only just started then implementing that knowledge and kept doing it for the rest of my life? Because it was what I LOVED to do anyway, whether it made me money or not?"

Trust me, the answers ALL COME TO YOU just like that! Boom.

Thanks WA, I'm Still Here

So I started this in 2018 with a rather narrow, uninspiring vision of more money in order to enjoy more stuff.

Four years later, the first goal has come and I didn't even realize because now the money was just a symptom. A symptom of finally getting clear on what REALLY matters here in the end, and going after those things with single-minded determination, and ALL for the sake of LOVE.

Thank you so much WA. You got me started. I now feel so skilled online. The book is being written and will be published and it's so good it made my husband cry. And I know exactly how to promote it and market it myself. And soon after, I'll know how find talent and a VA to take over all the onlined details for me so I can just focus exclusively on writing and recording. I will be a job creator!

But it all started with you. And when I finally find myself on that deathbed, it won't be only in the company of strangers and it will be with ZERO regrets.

Love,

Desa