Do you talk to yourself?
We all do it but will we admit to ourselves that sometimes we aren't our own best friends. I caught myself at it the other day. Chastising myself for not having written a post. Then I stopped and asked myself why I would say this to me? How mean was I?
It had been a busy few days caring for my mum after her hip operation. I had responsibilities to
half a dozen people and I wasn't feeling particularly well after driving miles and miles to be a loving daughter. Not that I begrudged any of this but it was a little unfair to beat myself up about it.
Were these just excuses for procrastination? Or real life moments?
'Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.' John Lennon
I'm being serious here folks. We can be meaner to ourselves than anyone else would ever dream of being (well maybe not your brother-in-law) and more demanding.
When was the last time that you congratulated yourself on following your plan? Do you whisper words of encouragement when the going gets tough or are you the first to condemn a few hours of relaxation that you need?
In all the chaos of our busy lives it's not hard to notice that we all talk to ourselves (it's only
when it's out loud that people notice) and it's worth taking the time to do a spring-clean on what you are feeding yourself everyday.
Take the time to register if you give yourself a nice balance of good feedback and pep talks. That you congratulate yourself when you reach a goal or even if you ticked something off your list today. Mark when you feel that your skills in any area are becoming sharper and reward yourself for little triumphs.
If you don't than who will?
Some milestones only you will know about, they are important to you. That's OK, it builds confidence in who you are and where you want to grow.
Take the time to acknowledge that small voice that comforts you through daily life and reminds you of who you are and that you create your life as you see it.
Take the time to dance like no-one is watching or judging and just be yourself. No-one will know!
Be your own best friend.
Hope you are having a great day my WAer friends.
Always love to hear your thoughts.
Lily
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Yes Lily,
All the very best to your mum.
I am guilty of talking to myself & giving myself a wake up call I need to do better. I also can smile & give thanks when I know I have achieved a milestone.
I am just pleased no one is watching LOL.
Denis
Hope your mum is doing well now. Sometimes I will be a bit emotionally when there are different priorities on the table. We use different ways to vent ourselves out, just be kind to ourselves as there are times we need to be pampered even by our own self. Take care and stay calm.
Yes. The world can push us around sometimes but talking to yourself helps.
Have a lovely weekend.
Lily
Hi Lily your mom won't know here self when she recovers, a totally new life no more pain and the ability to move freely.
If we are not taking aloud then the majority of us have that internal conversation going on.
One of the biggest breakthroughs we can make is to drop those self beat up lines and replace them with the problem-solution lines.
Oh and the " I am the greatest; I am the greatest, and i will help you tpo become great too" lines.
Not in that I am the greatest kind of bragging kind of way, in that I am going to be kind to myself today kind of way.
Alex
I've always talked to myself and sometimes I even answer some of my own questions. 😉
I do have a tendency to yell at myself more than I would others in the same situation. I've tried to NOT do that as much though. I realize that it is not healthy.
~Debbi
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Some real good points here. First I was like, yeah I'm in the club of talking to myself! Then, oh dear, I'm in the club of talking myself down and I didn't even realise it. I'd never even given it a thought before. Mind Blown.
My eyes have been opened Lilly and trust me when I say I'm going to go away and give myself a good talking to on the way I speak to myself.
Thank you for a wonderful thought-provoking post.
You are so welcome. Glad it helped.
Lily 😁🎶