Moaning Minnie Alert!

Last Update: March 11, 2020

Happy Wednesday to all WA-ers.

I will start by apologising as I am hoping you will allow me the luxury of a good ol' rant! Actually it's not even a rant, it's a good old fashioned moan! I dislike moaners, they are my pet hate as I'm a true believer that instead of moaning do something about it - but today is a sorry day..... I've joined them - it's a one-off - just a temporary blip I promise!

I'm fed up about something completely out of my control, out of anybody's control and what's making me even worse is that usually I throw myself into WA and as you all know, my huge squeezy stress ball (https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/alexandrat11/blog/huge-squee... hopefully the link works - my first one included in a WA post) completely lifts me up again and takes my mind off things, makes the World seem like a much better place.

But for the past week I've been only nipping in and out of WA, not even reading all of the blogs or responding to them all (which I feel awful about and send huge apologies to anybody that I have missed recently). I have them all stored but as you can imagine, the list to get through is getting longer and longer each day.

Don't get me wrong, it's not that I haven't had the time.... since last week work have instructed us all to work from home for the forseeable future - the positive to this is that I straight away thought I would allocate at least 2-3 hours of my working day to my website. GOOD PLAN I hear you shout at your screens! Yes it's a great plan. However, a plan is only great if it's adhered to.So, I've had all this time - but what have I done with it over the past week?NADA! ZERO! ZILCH! A BIG FAT NOTHING!Wait! Actually that's not completely true!I've been playing with my themes - that's something at least - come on, go easy on me!! I'm beating myself up enough as it is!

OK, I think I've sufficiently started Rami off now - he's screaming at the screen at this moment for me to buck my ideas up and knuckle down to some work woman! Forever my motivator and a$$ kicker whom I love to bits!

Hmmmm, I'm really making the most of this aren't I? LOL!!

A little bit in my defence I have had some site issues too like expiring SSL certificates (whatever they are??) and a couple of other things but those are just a great idea for an excuse! Another one of my pet hates, people who make excuses for their lack of commitment, for misbehaving or whatever it is they are trying to excuse themselves about.

Anyway, I digress.

I have read so many incredibly motivational blogs recently, and some in the past couple of days which really resonated with me - to the point where I thought - WOW this could have been written for me.... was it directed towards me? How do they know how I'm feeling? Jeff? Rami? Steve? Dave? Twack? Mark? Heidi? And many others. How do you all know?? Yes, paranoia also seems to have set in which is obviously an offshoot of my guilt for doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

So, what is it that has caused this rant?Well first of all, I would just like to assure all of you that I am not a control freak, not in any way shape or form, however, I do like to solve problems. I don't like it when either I or a friend or family member has a problem that I can't help them out with, when nothing can be done, when it's out of my control (still not a control freak!). It drives me to distraction and I find it hard to accept.

Current Example:

My Mum is waiting for open heart surgery, she's 78 and needs the operation within 6 months otherwise she's at risk of a fatal heart attack. She waited 2 months for her operation date, February 26th and the night before they called and cancelled. We waited a week and they called with a new date, April 3rd.

We have now had a call to say, they are hoping not, but it may be cancelled again depending on the rapidly worsening Coronavirus situation. I asked about going privately and it's a minimum of £25k hmmmm! If I had a spare £25k I would not still be working full time, WA would be my full time life - so suffice it to say, I'm looking into it but probably not an option.

An alternative option is to keep regularly contacting the secretary to the surgeon and drive her to the point where she would do anything but cancel my Mum because I'm a pain in her Jaaxy (LOL) and she just wants rid of me!

A Further Example:

Due to my fiance living in Germany and me living in the UK we both do everything we can to see each other every 3 weeks and spend loads of time on the phone daily, watch football together whilst hanging out on the phone etc. and just basically make the best of a situation which will change eventually but it's not possible right now.

As you all know, Valentines Day bombed out because of work issues unfortunately and you all know how I felt about that,.... consequently I am booked on a flight for Saturday morning to go to Germ

any, returning on Tuesday morning - normally my reaction would be...

I have some people telling me I'm crazy, that I shouldn't be going, that it's irresponsible etc etc. which I totally get - I have my concerns too. My friend is an air hostess with British Airways and she said that aeroplanes are the cleanest they've ever been at the moment plus there's likely to be about 20 people on the plane in total.

One minute my mindset is that I'll go, we have already agreed that we'll just stay at home and not go out other than to see his family. Then I think no it's getting worse day by day and I should just stay home. Normally I probably would, HOWEVER..... as my other half is so busy at work at the moment, working 6-7 days a week for another 3-4 months he cannot come here, so we agreed that during this busy 6 month period, which we knew was coming, I would go there each time.

With what's going on with my Mum I would normally not be able to get over there again until the end of May, but with the developing situation of Coronavirus we are constantly being told it's going to get worse so it could be a lot longer than that. I don't think Germany has ever felt so far away. The last time we saw each other was mid-January.

Obviously, I'm not a naive little schoolgirl throwing caution to the wind and this isn't a romantic chick flick that can only end with a dreamy happy ever after but it really is a dilemma. It is only going to get worse before it gets better.... but is it already too bad?

These are my dilemmas at present which are occupying my mind and killing my ability to put a post together and progress with my sites. I've done so much research for 6 different posts but I just don't have the concentration to make sense of the jumble.

How can I turn this around into a positive for WA?

Oh yes..... I am still managing to smile and laugh despite the whirlwind spinning in my head because of my truly wonderful WAmily here!

I have commented on some of the blogs and taken a few of them over (apologies Heidi & Phil especially!) but as you are all becoming aware, I do love to chat!!

The motivational blogs are helping and the true friendship that's building with my new found pals has had an incredible effect this past week. And I've even had an extra special cyber hug from Big Softie Jeff (one of his alter egos this past week):

In fact, I wasn't the only one, Mick got one too!

So even though this post seems like a really negative one, it finishes on a positive note for anybody who is undecided on whether to go for Premium Membership or not. DO IT! It will have a profound effect on your life in so many more ways than you expect.

It's incredible to be part of such a large community of the most special people walking on this planet. They have your back every step of the way. You cannot fail. Yes you can have your slower times (it's life) but you cannot fail unless you don't give it a go or you quit.

Go Premium and not only "smash it" but love it, embrace it and achieve the future you thought wasn't possible! The success stories just keep coming and those people didn't do any different training to what you will do.

In the risk of being really soppy for a Wednesday afternoon......


Rami, I know - the time it took to write this post I could have written some content for my website! Just stop talking to your screen.... I can't hear you! LOL!








A huge, forever hug to my special new friends - you know who you are - and thank you so much for just being you and putting a smile on my face every day!

My next post will be business as usual!

Have a great rest of the week!!

Alex

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Mick18 Premium
Alex, you have a lot going on. Let me start by saying I will keep your mom in my prayers.

As for traveling, I was just checking out fares to visit my mom. They are running some great sales, of course. Part of me wonders if I should fly and the other part of me says be brave. But I don't know.

Thanks for the mention. I love my cyber hug (same as you) from the Big Softie Jeff.

Take your time, you'll get back into writing again soon. When you are ready.
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AlexandraT11 Premium
Thanks Mick. Yes I’ve looked into it more now and planes are the cleanest they’ve ever been now, they clean them thoroughly using cleaning companies after every flight. Also the air system I thought was just air conditioning but these days it an air cleaning system. Look at the screenshot from an email I got from BA yesterday which has calmed me down a bit.

We’ve decided that if we don’t see each other now it’s only going to get worse and who knows when we will get the chance again. Although I think I’ll be driving next time. Just lots of hand gel too.
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JeffreyBrown Premium
Aww, I'm glad you liked him, Mick!
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Mick18 Premium
That is good to know about the air cleaning system.
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Mick18 Premium
Most certainly do.
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JeffreyBrown Premium
😜😎👍👍
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JeffreyBrown Premium
I never knew that, either!
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AlexandraT11 Premium
I found out today that all aircraft has that system not just BA. Apparently it filters 99% of airborne bacteria and virus. And you have more chance of catching something in a shopping centre or cinema than in a plane. It cleans the air 30 times an hour.
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Mick18 Premium
I'm glad to hear that, I must say I never knew that.
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JeffreyBrown Premium
The only problem with planes though, Alex is "I'm tired of all those M----r F----in SNAKES on this M----r F----in Plane!"😜😜
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JeffreyBrown Premium
AWWW Alex--Thanks for the shout-out! Big Softie just loves you for that! You wrote a wonderful and long post form your heart! The productivity of that was great, because it is still a step forward on your WA blog roll! Kudos to you for taking everything in stride, my friend! And don't worry about, Rami! He'll just pile it on extra thick later! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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AlexandraT11 Premium
Firstly I have to address the Zoolander pic - you look more like mid-change in an ‘80s Werewolf film!! 🤣🤣🤣

Thank you for your kind words Jeff and always seeing the positives.

Hmmmm I think you and Rami are playing good cop, bad cop. So if you’re Sheriff then it must be Deputy Rami? 🤔 or he’s not top 50 yet maybe Officer Rami? 🤣🤣🤣
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JeffreyBrown Premium
Yes, but I feel like Rami's a darned good deputy to have to keep everyone on their toes!😲

Best of luck on your trip to Germany--I hope you don't get stuck there! The fearmongering is such that everything is getting closed down, it seems!

Jeff
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Ruzzty Premium
Hi Alexandra
You are dealing with something all of us with have to endure as our Parents get Older . This is a part of Life and we need to figure out how to deal with It. Whatever Life Issues are thrown at us calmly not only for our Family Members but ALSO FOR US. Life teaches us how to best problem solve within our own means and everyone has their own issues. All the best for your Mothers Health.
Russ
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AlexandraT11 Premium
Yes you’re right. My frustration is with the unusual situation of the Coronavirus and the effect it’s having on the other two situations. It wasn’t a “woe is me” post.
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Twack Premium
"Better out than in and a bad tennant" best to get the 'rant' out there, no one will begrudge you that.
I agree that those things that you have no control of can be the most frustrating.
It you do as much as you can to help the situations, then that's as much as you can do.
As for the 'posts', if it was me I'd shelve them unitl the mind is in the right place (some would say just get on with it) They won't be as good as they could be. There is no deadline, so in the grand scheme of things, it makes not a blind bit of difference.
The trip away is your call, there's always that 'what if' hanging over those kind of decisions.
The positives could be that the operation will go ahead as planned and you manage to get a weekend away without issue.
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AlexandraT11 Premium
Thanks Twack, you’re right - I am going to try to get on with it though, even if it’s the more decorative or operational stuff. As long as I’m doing something then it counts for something.

Your last sentence would be the ideal outcome and 🤞 it all runs as planned.
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Twack Premium
Never hurts to be positive.
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AlexandraT11 Premium
Absolutely and thanks for the reminder!!
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Wynette1 Premium
Love your blog! I lived in Germany for three years as a child -Dad in the Air Force - but I wouldn't go there now. I would like to, but it's not just there, it's the other people on the plane. Where have they been recently? Are they frequent flyers? I don't know ... Good luck in whatever decision you make. :)
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AlexandraT11 Premium
Yes I did think about driving there and maybe I will next time depending on the situation. The thing is you can only catch it by them sneezing or coughing on me or me touching things with the virus on, not washing my hands and then touching my face. I have hand gel with me everywhere I go normally, as I’m a little bit of a hygiene freak in that way so I’m using it even more now. I’m making a conscious effort not to touch my face.
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