People sometimes disappoint
I've recently came to the conclusion that a person I cared most about has disappointed the hopes I had about the two of us. And I realised I am better off searching for somebody that makes me happy and that I can also make happy.
Don't be content with ,,We'll do how we can''. Do what makes you happy. Don't settle for anything less than what you wish for. In fact, this life is all about being happy, because in the end you'll not remember what faculty you've attended, all the people you've met, but those that matter, those you feel matter.
You'll remember the happy moments lived with a significant other, you'll stay side by side, when old, and remember every happy moment you've lived, together.
I had put all of my hopes in someone, imagined a whole life together with that person, only to be dissapointed by her deciding her future is in a different city.
All promises of a life together meant nothing once she was given a choice that wasn't easy to take. Sometimes you might feel like you found ,,the one'' that makes your lives better, that gives you reasons to get through, to live, to smile. If it is so, don't let it go, be involved if you want it to last. When two are involved in a relationship, it doesn't go away.
I have felt like it is forever, I do love the person with all my being, but I can't accept to love somebody like this and only receive pieces in return. So if you dedicate 100% of yourself to someone else, don't settle for any less being offered to you.
I don't know if WA is the most appropriate community for this kind of post, but it affects my WA performance also, as I haven't been active at all and not done anything on my website for as long as 3 weeks now.
I must find the motivation and strength to do it again and begin where I left off. But will probably do that after I finish with my exams which will be finished in the next 2 weeks.
Best of luck to everybody
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Aless, when you are feeling down, there a lot of people at WA to give you the strength and support, you needed, whether if it is something personal or not. Remember life moves on. It is up to you to choose your destiny!
It is really about being flexible and does it really matter to you, the hard part is learning to love unconditionally and if you can the right decisions will be made...it's never about what you can get is about what you can give that allows freedom for you and the person you care about....
In life we will expect things. Sometimes those things simply can't be fulfilled by the people we'd hoped would fulfill them. In those moments we must understand two things. 1. Our expectations lead to our disappointments. 2. It's okay that we get disappointed it means we've raised the bar and aren't okay with settling for less than we deserve.
Sorry to read your relationship has ended Alex, at this moment there are no words to say, but merely hope to give.
I know exactly how you feel, I have lived through 3 broken relationships, of which I thought they would last for life. 2 of them ended in a divorce, and one I didn't marry, but that separation was the hardest.
Looking back on my life, married for the 3rd time, I know for sure what went wrong. The man I am married with right now, was available in my teenage years too. We must have met back then, but we didn't recognize each other as being soulmates.
We both have had a lot of painful relations. But eventually, we have found each other. The things which went wrong with our previous partners have learned us a lot, and we will never act in any hurtful way towards each other.
When one door closes, another will be opened, Alex
I am happy you have found your soulmate and that you're happy. I am sure you deserve it.
I am certain one day I will find mine as well as well. In fact, I'm still young, I am barely turning 19 next week. But as you said, right now it feels awful. But certainly, I have learned a lot from it.
I'll be sure to smack that door open.
Thank you for your words.
That's right, everybody saying it couldn't have been true love what I felt and everything, but truth is love has no age requirement, it can pop up anytime, when we least expect it.
But one will, and then, in your case, you know you deserve it, and I will I have deserved it, when it will happen. If all of it would be forever we wouldn't appreciate it, because that forever would be the norm
Hi Aless I liked what you say about happiness .That's very much in tune with how I feel about it. Yes. we've come to this world to be happy and to make other people happy.And it's not only about love,it's about our calling in life, it's about realising your goals and potential.
I understand life's been hard on you now, but you will overcome and become stronger.
Tale care!
Vera
Thank you! It's not only about it, but it can be the thing that drives you to achieve the other things in your life, having somebody to share them with, somebody for whom to do it other than yourself.
Alex
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Must be someone better to come along for you! Keep positive and I wish you all the best! Regards, Lisa