Tough love
Out of all the 7 billion people on this planet. Why is it hard for some to find love. When people think of love. They think of intimacy.
Love is having a close friend who cares about you.
Love can even be when strangers simply say hello to you... maybe even compliment you.
Love is when you stand up for what's right.
Love can simply be a meaningful conversation.
Love is when someone helps you get back on your feet.
Love is when someone cooks and cleans for you.
Love is when someone is being friendly to you.
Love can also mean letting that semi truck merge in front of you and gives you the salute. Had someone blow a kiss at me while I let them in. Lol sweet elderly lady.
Why do some people act so weirded out and prudish when you're being friendly to them?
Why do some people get so insecure while you're going for walk? Thinking that I or you might do something sinister...
Why do some people look at you the wrong way and make up stories and in some cases unnecessarily call the police?
Sometimes dealing with negative people unfortunately exacerbates some people's anxiety and depression. I can't complain and I can't be the one to talk. I know there are others who have it much worse than I do. Hopefully I'm not making it sound all about me. I apologize.
I am far from perfect. I have said some horrible derogatory things about people. I have pushed people away. I let things get to me, and I tend to hold grudges.
What I'm trying to say is. If you want more love in this world and to make it a better place. You must start with yourself.
We are all human beings. We are capable of being cruel. Also, we are capable of being loving. We are not perfect.
To those who are suffering from depression, anxiety, schizophrenia etc. I wish you happiness and love. I am not the best in comforting and I apologize but I hope you all heal and feel better.
Peace ☮️
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Adam thank you and thank you once more. Intimacy is just part of love but it is not the whole love story! All the above stated actions are love. Checking in on others is love, smiling at others is love. Engaging others and helping those who need help is love. Love is beautiful but at times we fail to give love and to receive love because of our misconstrued imaginations.
Thank you Adam for making that distinction between agape and eros which is basically the love for your fellow human being and the erotic, intimate love between people.
Barring our prejudices and fears, we should be able to show love to our fellow human beings. Come to think of it, when you give love, you get love back
And thank you for reading my post. Usually most people reciprocate if you’re being friendly to them. I always try to show love(friendly)to my fellow humans even when I’m down. Definitely a mood enhancer.
I feel like we need a tad more warmth from people in this world especially since depression and other mental health problems that are in the rise. Maybe some companies perhaps pay their employees more? Leads to happier and productive lives.
-Adam J. Reger
Beautiful post Adam. I wish there would be universal peace, but unfortunately it's not meant to be.
Like you, and most other people on this planet, I too, have been cruel and judgmental at times. As I've gotten older, I've gotten much better about not doing this, but I am still far from perfect.
I find if I can smile at someone, and overlook a slight, it gives both me and the other person a good feeling. I guess that's one way to love one another. 🙂
Thank you. Maybe in the perfect world there may be peace.
Yeah, I have done some things I didn’t like. Some things I regret and can’t take back.
I always smile and make eye contact if the setting is right. It does make people feel good about themselves and humanity.
-Adam J. Reger
Wow, Adam, this is huge and deep. Well said, but all this that is blanketing the world is coming to pass, it is the coming of time.
People don't show love as we should and usually do once upon a time.
I still give love, show compassion, and care for just about everyone I come in contact with, but with caution.
Elizabeth
Yes I certainly agree with you. Always be cautious and listen to your gut when you open up to someone.
Of all the bad things that are happening I can’t blame people for being on edge.
Not all people are like that though. You really don’t want to be chasing someone down on the street and be like, “HEY!!!! Be my friend!!!” Lol
We can all use a tad more humor.
-Adam J. Reger
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When we learn to love ourselves exactly as we are it is easier not to judge others. We are more comfortable with who we are, happier as a result and that draws people to us.
The negative ones then seemingly avoid us knowing perhaps that their negativity will have no effect.
Loving ourselves makes it easier to love others just as they are.
No one is perfect but we all are perfect in our own unique way.