Fretting Over How to Get Started?

byacademyofspi

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Updated 9 years ago

Are you like me?

Do you wonder and worry if you are doing it right?

Do you start on one thing - then you are off on a different tangent?

Are you unsure of what is expected?

We should have a 12-step support group because there are millions like us. In fact, I usually go so far as to wonder how it is that everyone else seems to have what it takes to do the work and I don't. I'm sure you can relate to that too, huh?

Everyone has that little voice of self-doubt that seems to tell you that everyone else has it right and you have it wrong - or at least not as right as anyone else. That self doubt is a part of every human, it is something that we need to work at to overcome, so that we eventually trust ourselves. But until we get to the point that we do have self-confidence there are a few things you can do to work around that doubtful feeling.

First and foremost: Remember that you are not alone! Everyone has that self-doubt. Many people have learned to work with it so that it doesn't show outside of themself. But they still have to deal with it internally.

So rule number one is to not allow that doubt to stand in your way of progress. It will quite often talk people out of doing what they want to do because they feel inadequate. Don't let that happen to you.

If you have the desire to do it - You have what it takes to make it happen!

When you hear the self-doubt statements inside you, teach yourself to identify them as self-doubt statements and ask yourself if they are really true. Most of the time people accept them as their truth without even a single question. When you do question their truth, they usually fizzle out because they are not true. Question the doubts, why are they there? are they truthful? if you do some research and learn something new will that overcome the doubt? Don't let self-doubt ruin your life.

Be strong against self-doubt. You ARE strong enough to do anything you set your mind to do. You can always learn something new, don't let lack of knowledge deter you.

In order to quiet those self-doubt fears, do research, ask questions, try out a few things before jumping in. That way when you do jump in you can do it with greater confidence.

There is no one right way to do anything. However, there are some guidelines on the best ways that will bring success. By finding a support organization, such as Wealthy Affiliates you have gathered a support group with a great deal of clout around you. This should bring you the confidence that you may feel is lacking. For some people however, self-doubt says things like: I don't fit in here because everyone else knows more than I do. If that happens to you speak directly to that statement in a strict tone and say: No way, that is a lie, I am welcome and I do belong and while I may not know a lot right now, there are plenty of things to learn and plenty of people willing to assist me in learning it. So shut up self-doubt, I am going to make this happen no matter what you think.

Don't listen to crazy self-doubt statements - observe them, and state your real truth, that you will learn and succeed no matter what.

The next important thing to remember is that you are not required to get it right the first time. It is okay to make adjustments to your work. It is okay to ask for help, it is even okay to really mess it up the first few tries. The beauty of messing up is that you learn from your mistakes and you can correct them as you learn. Eventually you will look back at your first attempts and have a feeling of great accomplishment because you have such an improved product after you have learned a few new things.

Don't be afraid to fail, because that will keep you from succeeding.

Remember when you were a kid and you were encouraged to try, no matter what? Do you still have that kind of attitude? If you don't then you should be looking into the self-judgement that you are applying to the things you do. Many people as they grow begin to limit themself, and eventually stop trying new things because they are afraid to fail.

There isn't a single person who was born knowing everything they know today. As a human we learn something every day. Be willing to admit that you don't know something now, but know that you can learn it, and go find the resources that will help you gain the confidence to be able to accomplish your goals.

Just Do It!

It may take you a few more steps, because you need to learn more about how to do something. But you are fully capable of learning it, or hiring it done for you if it is too technical.

Don't allow self-doubt to get in the way of your success!

I hope you are inspired to get out there and move closer to your desired goal.

by: Wendy Mae, Ph.D.
Academy of Spirit