How to use your ego the right way?

byYvesN

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10 years ago

I used to co-organise social events in my hometown ( Brussels)

Especially for expats people coming from abroad willing to mix and get new friends. Every night, I met that one kind of people, who like to introduce themselves and say the killer phrase: “I have no ego”. I use to disregard them and pretend I didn’t hear.

It annoyes me…,

Now that I have a platform to selfishly share my feelings, I want to say something. Not having an ego shouldn’t be the focus in life (unless your a monk living in the mountain practising kung fu). I believe a bit of an ego can help you.

Let me share a personal story,

One night, I went to a house party, got drunk ( Please drink responsibly :p) and between men there is always a moment when you decide to make a “push ups contest” to prove who “the man” is.( I remind here that alcohol doesn’t produce the most intellectual individual). There was a guy who made 70 push ups. At the time I wasn’t in shape and could only make 20, so I came up with excuses, the true is, girls were watching us.

I was made fun of by the others…

Especially that guy. I had nothing against the guy (maybe I wanted to punch him just once) but more against myself. the next day, I decided to start training and for the next 6 month too. I never got my revenge but at the end I could make 100 push ups. I was proud of myself and in better shape too.

My point is your ego when scratch can help you…

put in the hours, humiliation ( desperation) can be a tool that helps you move forward. Now here is the thing, too much of an ego can get mixed up with pride and that’s were it gets dangerous.

You are too pride to reflect on things that happened, you refuse to put in the hours because you blame others (aka make and keep your excuses) and you don’t practise humility, which is simply put, admitting to yourself that you result were true and decide to fight against it. An entrepreneur said once: “either you make excuse, either you make money” Keep pushing.