Perfectionists feel everything has to be ordered or neatly organised. If that’s not the case, they feel out of control which drives them crazy.
They vigorously push for THE best solution and often fail to show it to the world because they think it’s not good enough. They feel overwhelmed and despite all their efforts they aren’t getting anywhere. Sooner or later, burnout comes along.
Sounds familiar?
Some of you may remember a story I shared earlier at WA. In short, it shows how my mentor changed the way I’m now looking at things. I always wanted to get things done, guess what, perfectly. My productivity was so ridiculously low I felt like going backwards.
I had to learn the key lesson: Strive for excellence, but be happy when it’s good enough. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
Do your best and stop there! Don’t try to make your best better.
Reply
It was like holding up a mirror to myself and I really felt quite relieved that I'm not the only one who allows myself to get into this state sometimes!
I found a lot of your stuff really useful and it often made me realise how futile, striving endlessly for absolute perfection can be!
It's great to have many good ideas but when they become stillborn simply because of your own sense (at times) of inadequacy, I do realise that it is self-defeating and pointless.
Talk about "writer's block!" haha!
As long as you're aware perfectionism is self-defeating practice - I would also say self-debilitating in a way - you are up to make a significant change.
I hope this will help you overcome a never-ending quest for the "final" touch. Go with what you can do within a set time. Peg your time and learn to be happy with it. You may consider reading my previous training that complements this one.
Cheers. .
We've all felt those emotions. They are very destructive and often times even preclude us from taking action and just moving on to the next project. And you can't win if you don't play. I hate to admit it but I have been a master at doing that.
