Imperfect introduction
One of the key problems with perfectionism is the feeling of inadequacy. It is the cause of mental blockages with practically endless power stored in our minds. This is often referred as the perfectionism trap, a vicious circle of incorrect self-assessments and unrealistic expectations that lead to stress and frustration.
Perfectionists usually engage in the same patterns of behaviour
- never-ending self-evaluations
- analyses of how others see them,
- why didn’t they do things better...
The list goes on and on.
Perfectionists have an eye for detail and invest enormous energy to ensure everything is in the perfect order. By attaining perfection they hope to avoid failure and criticism of others. They seek love and acceptance.
But it doesn’t have to be so complicated.
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WillingToTry
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Hi Mudre ,just wanted to say thank you very much for this training.
It was like holding up a mirror to myself and I really felt quite relieved that I'm not the only one who allows myself to get into this state sometimes!
I found a lot of your stuff really useful and it often made me realise how futile, striving endlessly for absolute perfection can be!
It's great to have many good ideas but when they become stillborn simply because of your own sense (at times) of inadequacy, I do realise that it is self-defeating and pointless.
Talk about "writer's block!" haha!
It was like holding up a mirror to myself and I really felt quite relieved that I'm not the only one who allows myself to get into this state sometimes!
I found a lot of your stuff really useful and it often made me realise how futile, striving endlessly for absolute perfection can be!
It's great to have many good ideas but when they become stillborn simply because of your own sense (at times) of inadequacy, I do realise that it is self-defeating and pointless.
Talk about "writer's block!" haha!
MudreM
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You are very welcome.
As long as you're aware perfectionism is self-defeating practice - I would also say self-debilitating in a way - you are up to make a significant change.
I hope this will help you overcome a never-ending quest for the "final" touch. Go with what you can do within a set time. Peg your time and learn to be happy with it. You may consider reading my previous training that complements this one.
Cheers. .
As long as you're aware perfectionism is self-defeating practice - I would also say self-debilitating in a way - you are up to make a significant change.
I hope this will help you overcome a never-ending quest for the "final" touch. Go with what you can do within a set time. Peg your time and learn to be happy with it. You may consider reading my previous training that complements this one.
Cheers. .
Judy-B
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This was good to read. I'm going to publish a blog on my site now and start another. None of them are perfect for sure. My grandpa was a perfectionist. I still recall when he couldn't get something to work out the way he wanted. He was frustrated and didn't have to be. Wish I could tell him that now. Thank you for the encouragement. :)
Chuck101
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Great analysis and than you for your effort.
We've all felt those emotions. They are very destructive and often times even preclude us from taking action and just moving on to the next project. And you can't win if you don't play. I hate to admit it but I have been a master at doing that.
We've all felt those emotions. They are very destructive and often times even preclude us from taking action and just moving on to the next project. And you can't win if you don't play. I hate to admit it but I have been a master at doing that.
