Defining Your Goals

Another thing to consider is to help with fighting off the sense of failure is to define your goals. We may not feel like we are accomplishing much because we are not exactly where we want to be. But if we do not have the right goals in place, we are never going to make it in the future. One big goal is great, but we need smaller, more practical goals, to help us get there.

When you do this, you can turn the setback into the motivation you need to set your sights on the next goal. Do not make the next goal something like “I want to avoid X”. You need it to be positive, something that you can track and work towards. You never want to make any of your goals be defined by the past failures. You can learn from your failures, but then it is time for them to get out of your life.

Defining Fears

The last thing that we need to take a look at is how to not let the fear of failing in the future govern your behavior now. This is something that a lot of people with imposter syndrome are going to suffer from. When you let the fear of failure take over your life, you are not going to be happy with the results and can miss out on so much.

A good place to start with this is to make a list of all your fears. It is possible that these fears are going to be closely aligned with your goals. Overcoming that fear of failure and running towards some of the things that scare you the most can be one of your goals and can help you to reach the success that you want. The point of the failure and all the fear that is around it is to give you some fuel and motivation to move forward. When you allow failure to be a motivator rather than something that scares you, it is easier to see success and not let others leave you in the dust in your career.



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David1960 Premium
Thank you Catherine for this post. It speaks to me loudly. I have read about this syndrome not too long ago on a Facebook page somewhere. But it didn't really hit me until I read your blog. I'm going to do a little more introspection on how and why I behave the way I do sometimes. This article is a real eye opener.
Thanks again!!
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TheCatherine Premium Plus
Yes that sounds like a good idea.
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ActionJacks Premium Plus
Thank you so much for this inciteful and relevant training. The more successful I become, the more resentment and insults I have to put up with from my siblings. Hatred and resentment from loved ones can cause otherwise successful people to feel this way. Once again thanks for the wonderful information, You could publish it as an eBook!
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TheCatherine Premium Plus
Thank you. I wanted people to be able to be aware of it
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LettyBess Premium
Great message; thanks for sharing.
It helps me to think critically. I want to do videos and have a YouTube channel.

I'm being stuck in doing it. What comes to my mind every time I started is -- this video should be perfect in the eyes of my former office staff and friends.

This is where I got stuck as I always strive for perfection in all that I do. Is this impostor syndrome? Looking forward to your thoughts on this. Thank you, in advance, Catherine.

All the best,
Letty
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TheCatherine Premium Plus
Letty, just start it. Perfection often looks too slick on YouTube, it often looks staged. People relate to real people
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JKulk1 Premium
I only just came across this article Catherine, and I'm grateful I did. I was quite successful in my working life but I always felt inadequate. I have always felt like I was the imposter. Your blog opened up a lot of long hidden issues from deep inside of me. I never thought that my childhood might have been the cause of these issues. I had a fantastic home life, having had loving parents, heaps of fantastic siblings and room to roam on our bush property. Then, after reading your article, it hit me. I was bullied for the whole seven years of my primary school life. One child decided he hated me and he made my life a constant misery.
But that's a long story that I'll leave for now. Suffice to say that I lost confidence because of it.
I was always a high performer at school, but I believed I wasn't. I never thought that anyone else had noticed my dilemma, that was until about a year ago. It was at this time that I was reacquainted with several people from my primary school days. One who told me how she had always felt sorry for me and how I was treated by this bully boy and a certain teacher, strange thing was I didn't even remember the teacher. Another told me how they had avoided me because I was to intelligent, he was sorry for his actions.
I'm telling you this because, thanks to your article, I finally understand why I feel the way I do and what I can do about it.
I can't believe myself just what a profound affect your blog has had on me. I'm a big man, no longer young. I have achieved much, suffered much and have surrounded myself with a beautiful family. I have a great life, yet here I am opening myself up to you, with tears pouring out of my old eyes. Thank you Catherine. Jim
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TheCatherine Premium Plus
Jim my heart goes out to you. I too recently found out that my childhood wasn't what I thought it was.
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FKelso Premium Plus
I must be fortunate...I don't think I have this one. I have enough other shortcomings...don't need more.
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