Dealing with fear of getting it wrong

byterenzia

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10 years ago

Hi there,

Are you dealing with fear of getting it wrong that is affecting your progress in what you are doing? What makes you think you are getting it wrong anyway?

Well,

That is a problem I faced for many years and now have decided to deal with it. I found Mary Jaksch’s blog on 10 tips for a bold and fearless life that I thought could help someone out there in similar situation as mine.

The item number 10 has been the difficult one but now I can deal with it better than before. Here you go, with the tips:

1. Don’t believe your thoughts: Drop your negative thinking and lack of faith in yourself or it will continue to snowball. Train your mind to create positive expectations. Learn to expect the best.
2. View life as a creative and wild adventure: Life can be brimming with easy times of beauty and light or overflowing with hard times of dark and difficulty. Choose to stay present through it all. Appreciate the varied landscape and enjoy the ride.
3. Consider the love of others: Who else in your life is missing out because of your fear of moving forward? Make a list of the people who will benefit from your success. Stay strong for them. Imagine telling them the “good news” in advance – I got the job, I made a difference, I wrote my book, we’re going on vacation!
4. Let go of the outcome: We often think we know what is best for us. We forget we can’t see the whole picture. Do what is yours to do and do it well. Like blowing a dandelion in the wind, let the rest go and remain open to infinite possibilities.
5. Be authentic: In a world where everyone is trying to be someone else, be brave enough to be you. Nobody else has your thumb print, heart print, or soul print. Nobody else can do your part. Revel in your uniqueness. Transparency is magnetic.
6. Create space for gratitude: Begin your day by filling your mind with appreciation. Focus on the love you have to give and the love you can receive. Become aware of open hearts, open minds, and an unlimited life. This is energy well spent.
7. Build positive images: Increase your faith and courage by remembering all of your past successes. Take note of your strengths and determination. Apply the same traits to your present dream. Build positive pictures of future success in your mind.
8. Argue for a positive outcome: Make a list of your fears. Next, prove each fear wrong. If you think you can’t, write down all of the reasons why you actually can. Remind yourself of your written proof when you’re heart is pounding and your palms are sweating.
9. Be comfortable with the uncomfortable: I don’t know anyone who enjoys being afraid. We want to deny it, run from it, and ignore it. Mary says "As a professional speaker, I’m nervous for the first several minutes. To get through it, I memorize the first ten minutes of the speech". Learn to get through the things you fear.
10. 10: Don’t take it personal: What someone else does is about them. How you react is about you. This is perhaps the most difficult step to learn. When your request is ignored or turned down, move on. Rejection isn’t an excuse for failure.

As you face your fears and increase your freedom and happiness by allowing your dreams to become a reality, the good life is inevitable.

Hope it is helpful to you

Terenzia