A Little Light Hearted Fun, Sorta!
When I think about a little light hearted fun, I always think about our kids as they were growing up. You know how kids pick at one another, make fun of one another, etc. Deb and I learned over time that the best way to teach a lesson that needs to stick was to place a copy of a Pearl Of Wisdom regarding the Message we wanted to get across. Their bathroom was like a bulletin board.
One of those in particular was about this little kid that was always saying bad things about other people and putting them down, even his family. So, one day after some thought, his Dad asked him if he would help him with a project. He said he want the boy to drive a nail in a section of fence every time he lost his temper, got upset, said something bad about some one. As the story goes, his Father gave him a bag of nails that should last a while, but lo and behold, they were gone in no time.The Dad say all the nails had already been driven into the fence and asked his son if he wanted to try one more step with him to learn to control his temper, sure said the son. So Dad told his to really try hard to control his temper and try to not say any thing bad or fault finding about any one. Sure Dad, lets try.
So Dad told him this time, "Every time you say a nice thing about some one or control your temper, go a remove a nail from the fence." Sure Dad!
So a couple of weeks later the Son came to Dad and showed him the bag full of nails and told Dad that he had finally removed all the nails by controlling his temper. So his Dad said, "Let's go look at the fence to make sure all is well there now". As promised by the son, all the nails were indeed removed.
But Dad Said, "All the nails are gone but all the holes are still there".
In other words Son, You can apologize or say I am sorry but the damage is already done and it is very difficult to remove a hole, Do You Understand Now.
I hope this makes sense, it is usually just the little things that we say or do, But the Hole is Still There!
Bless You All,
Sam and Deb
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That´s a good story! I think it is better to hold your piece and give a person or a situation the benefit of the doubt rather than use words you may later regret. You rarely know the full circumstances either. Best Alan
Very true Alan, thanks for the pearls of wisdom. Always think first before speaking or writing.
Bless You,
Sam and Deb
I have heard this story somewhere before but long forgotten. It is totally true and is a great story to show what damage can be done when words or actions are said in haste.
I always try to stick to the rule of if you haven't got anything nice to say, say nothing at all.
Some may call this sitting on the fence but I refuse to be drawn into any argument even when provoked.
With Grace and Gratitude
Karen
Thank you Karen. Yes indeed, it is easy to be pulled in.
Thanks for the nice comments.
Bless You,
Sam and Deb
Hi Sam and Deb, I love that story. It would have been perfect for me to use when I was still teaching and trying to teach younger kinds about the consequences of ones actions. Not that only kids need to remember the message though. :) ~Mark
Hi Mark, very kind words Brother. Words create or destroy, hard lesson sometimes. Thanks bunches.
Sam and Deb
Hi! Sam, I like how you share the story of growing up. Yet, life is a one-way street of accumulation, modification, and continuation from inception to eternity.
Best,
Chin
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Wonderful, Thank you Sam and Deb.
Make this a super day!
Howdy Cowboy, thanks for the nice comments.
Bless You,
Sam and Deb