Slow Progress
Introduction
Good Evening to all you lovely people at the WA Family as always, hope that you are all keeping both safe and well.
As I once again thank you all for your messages of support and love, they mean so much to me, I think that I should let you all know that it is very unlikely that my wife will recover from her illness. It is very sad, but I am afraid I have known for a number of years.
I do know that having this connection with you all has had a very positive effect on my mental health, as the one thing that I do miss is regular contact with people. Suppose, that is having been in the Air Force, then training, selling and being a hotel night manager. In other words regular contact, or, that I just like chatting!!
The Last Few Days
I am spending more time each day making sure that my wife has what she needs, it has meant that I have to arrange my other tasks to suit, this has also meant that the garden has had to take a back seat these last few days. But things will get done, just a little more slowly that is all.
It is the start of the Remembrance Fortnight, which means that I will have one or two things to do. Yesterday I attended the official launch of the Branch Poppy Appeal, it was good to see a lot of old friends, with tongue in cheek it was also good to see the chap who ran off with my first wife nearly sixty years ago, it made me so very grateful that it allowed me to marry my wife, even thought she is now so poorly, I am here to care for her.
I have completed deleting the inbox, must just keep it down from now on.
My Son and Daughter-in-law came round for an hour this afternoon, it was good to see them, Janice is off next week on half term, so she has offered to sit with my wife if I need it, or any jobs that need doing, that will help me.
I have managed to do some training, not a lot, but at least I have made another start, the plan is to make a master plan of what I need to do.
Having had a look at some of the aricles which I have, I am now trying to allocate them to the various websites which I have. Then with luck I will be able think about making products to download.
The Next Few Days
Depending on time available, I would really like to get grips with some ideas that I have for at least one of my websites.
It would also be good if I could have a look at some training videos which I have, as I do need to get back to doing things properly.
Must get back to making a list of what needs doing and try to stick to it.
Conclusion
A funny week in a number of ways, but I have to accept that things are going to have to change andjust get on with life.
Be Happy, Healthy and Wealthy
Please do take care,
God Bless,
Stuart
Recent Comments
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Dear Stuart,
May you the strength and courage to sail through the waters of life. Remember you are not alone. As long as you continue to tend to what's important, everything will be alright.
What some may see as the end is not so. It could be the beginning of a beautiful journey.
All the best, my humble friend.
Blessings always,
Maxine
Hi Maxine,
Thank you so very much for these very kind words, these sort of messages give me bothe strength and heart to keep going.
God Bless
Stuart
Hello Stuart,
I am sorry to hear that your wife is still not well, this is hard for you in many ways.
It is kind of your daughter-in-law to offer to sit with your wife, that must be some relief.
I know what you mean by the need to chat and be around people for some company as it invites a new conversation and can spark ideas and motivation.
That is why I frequent the WA community and read people's journeys, it is stimulating to participate here.
Every day passes and sometimes I am just grateful to do my chores and cook my dinner. When I get a bit done extra that is always a bonus.
We live in a fast-paced world and it can sometimes feel that we are not keeping up, but that is far from the truth.
Wishing you a wonderful new week :)
Kind regards
Erica
Hi Erica,
I can identify totally with your comments, the WA, can in many ways be very therapeutic, also bringing a sense of belonging, or not being on your own, must confess without it these last few years I am not sure just what I would have done.
The community is just brilliant.
Take care,
Stuart
Hello Stuart,
The sense of belonging is so important I agree.
You take care also :)
Erica
Please know that I have read your post and that my prayers and thoughts are with you. We will all be here while you tend to your life. Take care of what is most important to you. 🙏 Robert
It is not easy to accept changes sometimes as life throws us curveballs, but always take time for yourself, Stuart. And you're right - chatting is good for the spirits! Hope you have a good new week ahead as always.
Susan
Many thanks, Susan as always, I am trying to adapt and accept each day as it comes.
May you also have a grat week.
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Hello VH
You have a lot of support I see and with WA, there is ALWAYS someone awake and online due to our numerous locations across the globe. So, hang in there and vent as needed.
I liked your comment about the "chap that ran off with your first wife". All is well that ends well. I'm sure you had MANY good years with your current wife. It obviously was your fist wife's loss.
That is great that you have some help next week. It will allow you to take a much needed break or time to get some things done without worry. Take advantage of that time and her assistance. Don't worry about getting it ALL done though. Some things can wait.
I can NOT believe it's almost Nov already!!! How is time going so fast? I started preparing for Christmas already although I'm not sure how we're going to do that this year. I'm thinking that we all might end up in NY but at my daughter's house. It will sure be different but as long as we're together, I'll be good.
Well, it's been a LONG day and I'm about to head to bed so you have a wonderful week and enjoy some free time.
Always
Your VW
Hi Vw,
Sorry for the delay in replying, but as you will see I have had some problems which could not be avoided!
Regarding my first wife, she has not long buried her third husband, think that I was lucky!!
Things are not too good with my wife, so I will keep this brief, on Monday all she had was a bowl of porridge and one cup of Cappuchino, so on Tuesday I made a serious decision to call in the paramedics.
Befoe I did so had to make sure that the house was OK, vaccumed, polished and dusted, also moped the floors in the bathroom, kichen and the two lobbies.
The paramedics duly arrived, my wife was furious, but it had too be done if she were not too fade away.
It took them arround three hours to persuade her to go to hospital but she finally went with some subterfuge from the medics, she also could barely walk!. Should point out that my DiL came to help.
Have visited today, and what a differance, they have given her two units of blood and she is on a drip, she seemed really pleased to see both me and my DiL, we only stayed an hour to avoid tiring her, but she was also quite chatty.
I briefly explained why I had done what I felt that I had to do, which she seemed to accept.
Will be taking my son tomorrow. My daughter is on holiday in Portugal.
Medical update completed!!
Will not even think about Christmas this year until I see what is happening with my wife, though I could get the three bird roast in, before they sell out!
The nieghours who are aware have been wonderful with their offers of support and help.
Think that will do for tonight as I could do with a good nights sleep.
God Bless.
As always
Your VH
VH
I'm so sorry to hear about your wife!!!! WOW. Two units of blood??? She must be losing blood somehow. You must be frantic! I'm glad you had help at least and she's where she belongs for the time being. Do they know what the issue is and how long she'll be there?
Hopefully you'll be able to get some sleep knowing she's being taken care of. So much for your "mini vacation" with your DIL to help out.
Keep us posted.
Always
Your VW
Hi VW,
A brief reply, s was not totally happen when my Son and visited today, have some questions and need some answers, which I will ask tomorrow.
As always,
Your VH
Hi VW,
Just too tired to reply last night, but will make the effort tonight and try not confuse you too much.
Regarding the blood, my wife has been anemic for years, they are now trying to build up her blood levels.
The main problem is the fact that she would not have treatment for the growth on her face, and since she has been in hospital, nothing appears to have been done, so I had strong words yesterday.
As a result she had a visit from the head of Dermatolgy yesterday whilst I and my son where there.
The result astounded us both, the Doctor was really clear and concise, and my wife said yes to all the suggestions that were put to her.
Without getting to precise she will have a biopsy on Friday, then possibly a cat scan, then a decision will be made if the growth can be removed.
Think in a nutshell that will do for now, but it will keep you up to date.
My youngest grandson has asked if he can go to see his Nan, so I Will take him with me tomorrow.
Still have the washing to iron, but will make the effort to start that tomorrow, have decided to put the ironing board in the dining Room, and do a little at a time as I feel like it.
The problem that I have at the moment is my neck, spine and shoulders are not good at all with all the driving that I am having to do.
Stil I WILL GET THERE
Goodnight and God Bless
As always
Your VH
Just one quick (ok 2) comments. Ironing can wait! So unimportant.
Prayers for good results on your wife's biopsy.
Always
Your VW
Bless you my love.
Always
Your VH