My Boss Wanted Me Back
Hi WA family! Since I value most of your input I would like to run this by you or let's just say I am asking for advice. I have asked my family and a friend but I just want to know what most of you will have to say.
For all of you who has been in my network, you all know that I quit my job as a nurse as I got burnt out with the politics of healthcare. I also decided that it is time to spend more time with my kids as I mostly missed my 2 older kids growing up years as I was working so hard at that time.
I have 2 more younger daughters and they are entering the teenage years. I don't want to be absent again,as you all know, some nursing position has long hours and it's highly stressful in which days off are just spent recuperating from being worn out and then it's time to go back to work again.
Yesterday, my ex boss called me and asked if I can come back to work part-time as she needs me badly. Mind you, where I work is an hour away from me and the traffic driving to work gets really heavy which is an added stress. Parking is remote so we either had to take the bus or a train to get to our building which is an added 10-15 minutes. There's a nearby parking but it costs $13.00 a day.
I couldn't say no right away because of some reasons. I love some people that I used to work with, I miss my paycheck and I miss helping patients. But every time I think about the long hallway, the long commute and the sight of those people's faces that make things difficult to work..it gives me anxiety!
So, drop by and throw in some advice or two. Give me some wisdom as I am in a state of blurriness right now. Thank you folks!!
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Hi Nida,
Food for Thought/Wisdom...No job is worth the time that you will miss with your children. Speaking for a person that lost my mom at a young age of 16. The teenage years are important years and your daughters need you.
Jobs come and go but the time that you spend with family, memories that you share will go with them to the grave.
Since your boss needs you badly, why not negotiate being a consultant for her. That why she gets to have your expertise and assistance, while you get to negotiate your salary and make your own hours and even work remote majority of the time so that your family is not put on the back burner. That way it's a win, win for the both of you....just a thought!
Thank you. I appreciate you sharing your experience/story with me. That gave me a chill. You are so kind.
What you have mentioned at the bottom is worth thinking about. I will try that.
Take care.
Nida
Hi Nida, You're so Welcome! I believe you will make the right decision that's best for you. Yes it's worth a try! :-)
Blessings and Much to Success to you!
HI Nida,
I know that this can be a difficult decision for you for the many reasons that you highlighted. My recommendation would be to step back and look at the reasons that you quit in the first place. Unless you are in real need financially of the extra money that going back part-time would bring I personally think that all of the negatives of going back outweigh the positives and that you will certainly not be happy if you return. That being said, none of us are in your shoes so advice may be easy for us to give but you must make your mind up based on what is really important to you.
I wish you well whatever you decide to do.
All the best,
Wayne
Thank you for your heartwarming message and advice Wayne. As a nurse who worked for 26 years, caring for others becomes our second nature. But just like what other has advised the cons outweigh the pros.
My kids times spent with me will be more important and cherished.
Take care.
Nida
How much would it cost you to go back part time? You'd probably break even. Hmmm I was just wondering if I made the wrong career choice and should've become a nurse. Im in the IT/Engineering field. Im burned out too.
On another note I am 5 years from retirement. And I CANT WAIT TO GET OUTTA HERE!
Try your online business or businesses. Try something. I wouldn't go back unless I absolutely positively had to.
I appreciate your advice. You are right, I would just concentrate with my online business.
Wishing for your success here soon so you can retire early!
Thank you and Take care.
Nida
Hi nidav
If you can stay at home and continue as you are financially, I would stay home and be a mommy and wife to your husband. I personally worked long hours in Real estate knowing I had lots of free time to give to my family, but I chose work instead. I was absent while my kids were growing. I CAN NEVER GET THAT TIME BACK., even though I am making time with my kids as they are all married now, I still cry and get depressed at times for being absent in my kids life. I understand your boss needs you and I know your heart in helping people. I persaonally too drive 1.5 hrs each way every day in Traffic. That’s 3 hrs a day lost. Can’t get them back. Plz plz stay at home with your children and look into finding something in your community or town with your skill as a nurse. Your patients an hour away will come and go sometimes never to see those patients again.
Being needed feels great, but your kids need you more. Make the right decision to be with your kids. And in time everything will work it’s self out. Be strong and brave cause the lord your god is with you. And wealthy Affiliate is with you too.
Hi Carlos. Your advice made me teary. The realization from what you said went deep into my heart as I now remember those times that I missed with my two oldest kids.
Thank you so much. Without a doubt, I have and need to stay with my kids as those are precious more than anything else.
Appreciate you. Take care.
Nida
First and foremost Nida, I would present my problem with her. Y'know that driving is such a problem and say, "I DON'T THINK I CAN DO IT. SURE WOULD BE NICE TO SEE MY CO-WORKERS BUT IT'S NOT WORTH IT."
This will get her thinking, like maybe she can make some concessions. Y'KNOW WHAT I MEAN NIDA?
Let her solve your problem. Since you still had an open door with her that you said, "I MISS THEM, BUT MY TRAVEL EXPENSE ETC. IS A PROBLEM.
Let her think about it if she is so desparate.
My guess is she will solve your problem. LOLS! I LAUGH BECAUSE IT SEEMS SO CLEAR TO ME.
OF COURSE NOT YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE IN THE REALITY AND MAY NOT SEE IT RIGHT OFF.
BUT I DO!
My take Nida, hope it helps!
frank
Hi Frank. Your take is very sensible. Love it. On my end it's very blurry as I was coming from a 16 year of work relationship and a great passion for my profession.
But you are right, at this point in my life...It is not worth it anymore.
Thank you so much. Take care now.
Nida
Nida,
As a nurse you are being made to feel guilty returning to a job you
did not want to do anymore - stress can cause more than
just to not care for a job but serious health consequences.
Are you happy now? Financially are you doing alright? Is it really necessary that you go back to your old job? If you can answer
these questions truthfully to yourself then I think you have your
answer and do not need anyone else telling you what to do ::))
Good luck with your decision and best wishes,
Susan
Thank you Susan. You are right..Guilt was a part in it as I felt that my profession was given as a way to serve. For one second I dismissed the idea of taking care of myself and family also.
I appreciate your input. Take care.
Nida
Keep in mind your reason for leaving in the first place. How would you feel if you return knowing that you will miss those growing up years with your last two daughter? Is it worht it?
Then you have to consider what returning will contrubute to you financially as opposed to staying at home.
And since you are here, will it be an advantage to you and your loved ones?
With prayer, you can come up with the best solution/answer.
Hi Russell. Without a doubt, what you have mentioned is true. Would I want to miss out on my two daughters? Certainly not..
Thank you so much. Take care.
Nida
This story is so close to my heart as your story is virtualy identical that of my girlfriend who is a nurse. Despite my efforts to get her online to explore ecommerce and blogging, etc. I know, as you well know, that she needs to do something to maintain her sanity! I have another plan for her for now, but will show her your post and hopefully it will inspire her. Thank you so much!
Yes, show her my dilemma. I think the caring for others becomes second nature to us that we forget ourselves.
I hope I can inspire her. Thank you for dropping by.
Take care.
Nida
Hi there:
If you can afford it stay home with your children. You cannot go back and recapture the time you will lose with them. Work on what you have going here at Wealthy Affiliate.
Sounds like you are going to have a lot of stress and traffic to deal with.
I am 78 and I had no choice but to work while my children were growing up. I missed out on many things that I can never go back and redo. You only get so many years with your children until they are grown up and out on their own. Make the most of this time. I believe you will be glad you did.
My best to you whatever your decision.
Mary
Thank you Mary. I appreciate your advice. I needed this. I know now what to do.
All of what you've said makes sense. I can't bring back time. Thank you so much again.
Take care.
Nida
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It sounds to me as if your mind and body are already telling you what your choice should be, but.
As you know as well as I do, there is the logic of choice.
I dearly envy your skills as a nurse. Wish I had such important knowledge as you do.
With that being said, your query of advice seems redundant to me.
If you have reached your financial comfort zone with a business online?
Along with all the pro's of being with your family more, time to enjoy your children growing, and the freedom to live life as you are willed to.
The real question you should be asking yourself is,
Do you really want to go backward?
Hope this helps you, and don't sweat the small stuff.
Be Happy and never give up!
Catherine
Love it Catherine. You are so direct and to the point..just what I needed. Thank you so much.
Nope I do not want to go backwards!
Thank you so much. Take care.
Nida