Your life is beautiful even if you don't believe!
Last Update: Mar 15, 2022
Hi y'all, I'm Melissa & totally new at this but, what I want is to help people who can't seem to find it anywhere else. I know from experience that it's very hard to find the right help inside your home community or hometown when your either to scared or just simply to embarrassed to ask someone because you'll be turned away or worse, told on. I know the internet is already full of the resources with information but when you finally get the courage to get out you get put in endless circles and then just feel like giving up. I know I did, please never give up hope because if I would've I wouldn't be here today to help even with the smallest story or advice on how you can do this. Everything will be baby steps at first but those steps will lead to amazing things later. Just remember to keep your head high and there's always someone that truly understands what your going through. Thanks for listening & never give up, always Melissa.
i feel like giving up....every time i ask a question or ask for help with something on here i never get a response
Hi Conner, sorry to hear that, I'm fairly new here myself and getting my feet wet learning as much as I can through the awesome training. I'll try to help you if I can. Don't give up , this is the best platform that I have found.
If I can help I will certainly give it a shot :-)
@GConner1, idk what your going through but if I can help with your question or if not I'll try to help you
i have a disability call SLD meaning psychological processes involved in understanding or in using language spoken or written that may manifest itself in the imperfect ability to listen think or read
i have had this all my life and that is one of the reason im on disability
Is there anything I can help you understand better about what you have read & didn't understand.
Don't give up, Gary. W
So sorry you didn't get any response to your questions.
How can we help you?
I'm idk how to, I'm sorry. I've only been here a few days myself n still learning but you can me if you'd like
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Thanks for sharing a very important topic. Because you are right it is very hard to find the right help sometimes. There is a load of people specializing in support services, but a lot does not necessarily still have the expertise to help.
I think reaching out like you have and giving strength to others is a commendable thing to do.
Sometimes, an active listener is what is needed.
All the best with your online ventures,
Thank you so much Erica, I just hope I can make it work, not only for the 1's that need it but for myself as well. Maybe I can learn more about the abuser from the victim so I can see any sign or signal that others may not care to see and do more to help more victims in need. It's been something I've been very passionate about it since the 1st day I found a way out & to my freedom from my abuser. I was only 17 when my abuse started & it went on for a yr & a half, even though I didn't think I would ever get away I know how scary & alone it is in that situation & no one deserves to go through any type of mental, physical or sexually abuse. I really appreciate your insight & I hope others see what I'm trying to do the way you have! Have an amazing morning, Melissa
Thanks, Melissa for sharing some things so personal and close to your heart.
I think there is an insight into the abuser's traits from a victim's point of view, absolutely. I believe this awareness comes to full light once the victim is in recovery and in freedom.
It would be a helpful service to help others see perspective in other people's contacts. I do think there are definitely ways to offer help coming from a lived experience.
Keep researching your passion and write your strategies to put forward.
Come to Wealthy Affiliate daily or as often as you can to blog your journey.
I hope you have an amazing weekend.
Your very welcome & I have to admit I was terrified at first because I wasn't sure how any of you here would react to my real life nightmare. For the longest time I was in the denial stage & blamed myself for everything that happened to me & how I couldn't see it coming. When I was older & decided I would learn how to look up things about what he had done to me so I could try to be a normal female again, I realized it wasn't my fault & that he had to be ill to do such ugly things to someone he "claimed" to love & found out that a mental disorder was definitely something to consider. Ik he definitely has made my mental health breakdown something that broke me completely from anxiety to panic attacks & phobia of the dark(actually to this day) another reality. I still won't let myself give in to any type of weakness & if there could be a type of thank you for what he done I would not be the woman I am today, in a way I guess I can say he gave me something no one else could've, my strength & power to tell my story & help as many others that I can that has similar abuser's or worse monsters than I & help them find their inner strength to do something about it, or maybe now people will pay more attention to their surroundings & the company they keep. It's still a day to day process but it's my process & I've gotten better with it. I really appreciate your advice & kind words. Keep encouraging others Erica because you helped me today. Stay beautiful, Melissa
You show incredible strength and courage to be able to talk about the trauma you endured.
Trauma can be trapped in the body and mind, and there is the build-up of emotions that can easily be triggered to set off things like anxiety, phobia and panic attacks. And to the survivor, it feels like the trauma happening all over again.
I found being conscious of thoughts, journaling, listening to meditation and deep breathing very helpful tools to help maintain healthy mental health. But also finding support, for even what seems a little thing to achieve, someone cheering you on.
I am a survivor of domestic violence. I continue every day to use self-help strategies and over time, with a lot of support I manage to embrace a new life.
You can do anything you set your mind to Melissa.
Thanks also for your encouragement and your generosity of words.
Thank you so much Erica, I just hope I can get my project off with the right resources & viewers to need t only help them but I think it'll truly be helpful for me as well. I'm sorry you had a monster too that you had to learn from, idk what we did to deserve such ugly ness like we had but to me at least it was me & not a young child. Not like there's not enough nasty out there now but ik they probably would not have came out the way we both actually have, I think our paths met for a greater reason than we know but what ever the case I'm glad😘. Always love who you are, Melissa
Thank you also, Melissa.
I am sure you will have the persistence to get your project working.
Yes, I agree paths are met for reasons I believe.
Nastiness is everywhere. The thing I think about is adding to the light, the happiness of others.
Message me anytime you want.
I was under the impression that after my starter time was up I couldn't ask anything of anyone anymore, truly confused lol