Be Nice On WA

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Some may think I am wrong for writing this, but I am afraid I am just the kind of person that likes to help others and to be Nice to people as best as I can. In my opinion, Wealthy Affiliate is the best place in the world to be for people who truly want to learn Affiliate Marketing.

The Community is awesome, but when I see some Comments given to people's questions, It Truly disappoints me and that in a way is heartbreaking. I see people trying to understand and do the best they can. Some learn this stuff quick and some learn this stuff slow. When a maybe smart person answers questions in a manner like the person needing answers is an idiot or should know better is in my opinion wrong. Even if it seems like a simple thing that everyone should know, I still try to answer in nice manner. Not in a manner like some.

Instead of trying to give individual help, some people just say do the Lessons you will get your answers. Yes, that may apply to some, but maybe try to do it in a Nice manner, but for those it does not apply to, maybe consider their question before assuming they just need to do Lessons. I just want to help New members and even ones that have been here for a while but hate asking the Community Questions out of fear of some people making them feel like idiots or Dummies when they answer.

I wish for people to Succeed as quickly as possible and never hesitate to get the help from the Awesome Community. So I guess I am wishing for anyone to never let people's harsh words or crude Comments to slow them down in asking questions and always believing in oneself that they will Succeed on this Journey.

I also wish that Members who may know everything to try and put themselves in the shoes of the ones that are just diving in the 1st chapter so to speak of building a Successful Website and try to be nice and Compassionate when helping others. I know WA Community can be and is a strong family. In many ways a better more dependable family than I have ever had.

I hope that even if I am here for 10 years that I can still be Compassionate with the ones that have only been here a week or a month etc!

I just Wish For Every WA Member To Succeed In Achieving All Of Their Goals and Then Some!

Michael

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Hi Michael, Very good words of wisdom. We really don't need
Better-Than-Tho jerks shooting off their mouths. Thing is, I really haven't seen any of that. This is really a unique community. With great, helpful folks. But again there is no place for jerks in WA.

There is definitely no place for rudeness here, 100% agree with that. I do think some people come across more blunt than others - it's not intended to offend, although sometimes is does. Floridalma makes a good point, you can't express emotions through comments very easily.

I do wish people would take the time to search the wealth of knowledge here before asking the same questions week in, week out, though. Usually on topics that have been covered in the training too. I'm sure it gets frustrating for everyone, so I can understand (to a degree) if answers start to get a little curt.

I guess some people just need hand-holding more than others, which is fine, but everyone should remember that we all had to start somewhere and we were all learners at some stage.

C

I agree to a point. I do think that many people are simply trying to be supportive without going "over and above" which many times people just have the time for during these busy times. What do you think?

Qcalvert, Yes, many times, Members only have time to help soo much. The quality of the time they do spend helping means a lot!
Michael

Very true Mike. DO you think it might be better to not respond, if the response is only going to be a cursory type of thing? Perhaps it be more time effective to "respond as if you mean it!" It takes the questioner time to click and to red as well, and perhaps it would be a little deflating to read "just do the lessons" over and over. I don't know, everyone has a certain need level.

Qcalvert, I guess I would rather not get any answers to my questions than to get answers that make me feel as though the responder is just answering as though I am an idiot. I am lucky that personally I have not had the problem because I hate asking questions, I do my best to find the answers on my own before I even think about asking questions. That is why I take so many notes and save so many things, Can't depend on my memory so I have to do something to help keep my Crap straight. LOL! I hope things are going well for you!
Michael

Hi Michael!

"It's always nice to be nice", and everyone should be treated with respect. I love to help too and hopefully in a kind manner.
When my children were young, I remember saying to them "it's not what you say, but how you say it".

Having said that, I agree with "katkatskitchen" below.
I have seen questions posted where you absolutely know they have not read or studied the lessons. Before I post a question I search everywhere to find the answer on my own!
They need to be directed to the training!

Sadly Joanne that is the case and it always irritates me when I have to point somebody to the training in that manner not because I resent telling them where the training is but because I know I'm wasting my time because they won't follow it through. And you are quite right hand you say is far more important than what you say and sometimes we don't always take into account how the people may feel

Joanne, Yes, I agree some need to actually do the lessons before asking questions. There are many that the only thing you can do is ask them to do all of the Lessons in order without skipping and many of their questions will be answered, but even then I try to say it in a decent manner. Have a Great Day!
Michael

Hi Kat, I agree with you to a point, but sometimes new members don't know the mechanics of using some of the features available to answer questions. I know that happened to me. For some crazy reason the "search" box in the center of each WA page is labled something other than "search". It never occured to me that this was a great way to find info on questions you might have until someone got on my case and pointed it out. That somebody may have been you....haha. Wow, a light came on and I really don't ask that many question now. I'm sure I'm not the only one that never knew that there was a "search" box at the top of each WA page. Sometimes, some of us need to be hit in the head with a 2x4 before it sinks in. Ha..ha

It may well have been me Larry, I have often pointed it out but I never say it's a substitute for asking questions I always say something like if you want to do this real quick and get an immediate answer et cetera

It may very well have been you. Whatever, I use that search box whenever I can. If it was you, Thanks for using that 2x4 on my thick head. Haha.

How the hell do you think we can answer so quickly in chat

Figured you were just super smart. Actually, I have never gotten into the chat room. That would really take a big hunk outbox my available time. Thanks again, Kat.

I have just answered a question myself Michael with it will be clear in the lesson. However, I did go on to write several sentences which had two options.. Sometimes I feel that someone wants to ask the question in the way that they have because they want someone else to do the work for them.
Not understanding is one thing – we have all been there at some point and will be again! Being lazy is another thing entirely. I telling anybody gets annoyed when people keep repeating the same question we all understand that some people at some time (myself included) get confused over certain things and they need repetition

Catherine, I agree 100%. It is hard to help a person that does not seem to want to help themselves first. I have had some that wanted me to look at their Websites when they really had no Content as though they were hoping I would tell them what to write on their Site. Those make it hard because it takes time away from the ones that really need the help. You are so true and great Member. So glad to know you!:)
Michael
The Lazy ones truly make it harder for the ones that truly put their hearts and effort into Succeeding!

I like your post very much and agree with you 100%. It isn't always easy for newcomers to comprehend everything right away, especially when they only have used a computer to receive and send emails and nothing else. It can be intimidating to say the least.
Even doing dutiful the courses sometimes doesn't give a quick understanding of all the new terms, rules and language in how to implement the new stuff.
When a more established member will lose its cool by a simple question, than that person should be quiet and saying anything at all.
I guess, psychologically speaking, if we are here for month already or perhaps for years, having awesome computer skills etc. it can become easily for us to take on a kind of an ownership attitude, like owning WA, even though we are aware of it that we don't. We are "just" members like anyone else and this will never change.
However, having awesome skills and talents and contributing them freely here into the WA community is the essence and the heart of it.
This makes WA so awesome to me and after almost 4 month being here I still feel good and happy.
Lets make sure that it will always stay that way. It is certainly our responsibility as a community and as an individual.
Thanks Michael, for bringing it to everyone's attention.
Sylvia

Sylvia I totally agree with that losing your cool is not cool!

kiliwia62 ,Wow! Killer Comment and very Kind. Yes, Even if I am here 10 years and have achieved my Goals and then some, I hope to still be Compassionate to the ones that are where we were in the First week or month of WA. Stay kind so we can blow their Minds!:)
Michael

Great positive comment:) It does not cost to be nice. Thanks.

Thanks Michael, I surely see this a lot myself. Although I do feel like sometimes, people do not want to come off as someone who is trying to tell another person that they should know better. Maybe they do this inadvertently, without actually knowing that the other person is offended? Since we all are answering behind a computer screen you never really know whether someone is trying to convey a message in a polite or crude manner. It can be really hard to understand the intended emotion behind a comment at times. However, I digress, you are definitely right, this place is about trying to help others as best as possible, while at the same time helping your very own self as well. You should always try your best to help others in a polite and very welcoming manner. Thank you for sharing this with the community. I do notice that you put a ton of hard work into helping others and your selflessness is much appreciated. You are wonderful part of this community :)

floridajf, Thanks for the nice words!
Michael

Your welcome :D

Thank you for being NICE. Doug n Deb L

Thanks Doug n Deb L!
Michael

Hey, it might be worth being nice to your readers by splitting up that one big paragraph into several smaller paragraphs :)

I had paragraphs, but it published the wrong Draft that has many errors. Working on correcting. Thanks for the comment!
Michael

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