#1 Mistake You're Doing Today That Surely Leads You To Failure

byMGaspary

1K followers

Updated 5 years ago

Over the past few days, I had been unconsciously disturbed by my awful dream. An early miscarriage. The thing is I never been pregnant and I had never had sex for more than a year with my husband since he left to return to his homeland. We're still waiting for the visa approval for months. Ugh.

Anyway, out of curiosity, I searched online. I typed in the word and scrolled down the pages that contain the information I needed. When I read more than 10 articles, they all boil down to, "Frustrated with your current situation... The sudden cancellation of a plan albeit the rising enthusiasm."

It hit me.

THE BEGINNING

I joined the Wealthy Affiliate months ago with high expectations, although I had a free account at the time. It took me months to decide to give it a go and upgrade to the Premium account.

Since then, I haven't paused building my website + content while working the whole day + household responsibilities. I worked more than 100 hours per week, friends! Literally, nonstop.

All of a sudden, I had the dream.

I asked myself why? What the hell was that?

Then, last night came.

My rising enthusiasm quickly plummeted when I backslid with my ongoing bulimia. I binged and purged until I almost collapsed. My infuriating filial situation made it really worse. It was difficult to balance everything. My marriage, the household, the business, and full-time work.

Then, the midpoint crisis hit me.

THE MIDPOINT

In fiction writing, they call this event the "Author's Midpoint Crisis." It's usually when the author suddenly stuck in the middle of the story with a blank space. It's like zoning out after writing so much until she reached the midpoint of the story.

For an author, it's like "Should I continue this freaking story or should I throw this crap?"

This was how it felt when I reached my midpoint crisis. From there, I gave myself 2 choices:

1. Go back to my comfort zone and work my whole mediocre life.

2. Fight the fear and continue working for 16 hours to live comfortably when I reach 40.

Hence, I choose the 2nd option, of course. Everyone on WA would do. The thing is, is it really your true choice? Is it really what you wanted now?

I know most of you here wanted to simply lay down and enjoy the nice day on your hammock. But you can't because you have to work so hard to make everything work.

You're building a website, making accounts on Google AdSense, Analytics, Search Console, etc. You binged Kyle's training videos. You want to learn every single thing.

E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G.

But what happens when you reach the midpoint? What will you do when you finally reach the point wherein you have to choose between work or play? Would you rather sleep or resume to work? Would you quit or continue?

THE CONCLUSION

Honestly, I wanted to sleep and relax as much as I can. But I can't because I can't sacrifice my lifetime joy over temporary enjoyment. I don't want my future to be compromised because of my poor decisions.

I may have dreamt something bad. Really bad that disturbed me for days. Dream interpretations may have answered my questions with disturbing answers.

In the end, everything lies in me.

My future, my marriage, my financial life, my life depends on how I deal with it. Instead of worrying about what happens next, I rather spend my time working on what I love.

Why?

Because I'm really sick of being poor.

Because I'm really sick of seeing my husband so frustrated over his job and compromised dreams of doing what he loves to the point he cried many times in front of me.

It hurts me so much to see my parents arguing because of money. I grew up hearing their debts piling up.

I hate it so much everyone forces my sister to get a damn job to secure her future, although she wants to build her own business. She wants to be her own boss.

I feel so resentful I couldn't support my aunt, whom I considered my second mom. Now so sick and dying. I didn't have a bill to give her for her medical needs.

But thank God, he gave me a wonderful gift.

He gave me the power to inspire people with my writing. Granted, I'll use it and work on it. This is why I choose the writing niche for my website. To touch people's lives.

After months of nonstop work, everything paid off. I had a professional-looking website with comprehensive content I could write (and brag). In fact, I hear compliments from Wealthy Affiliate because of it. A lot of things to feel grateful for.

This is why we should overcome the #1 secret ingredient of failure, FEAR.

Have a nice day, folks. I'm getting back to work.

P.S.: Since I joined WA, I worked 16 hours per day = 112 hours per week = 448 hours per month. After all the work, I got many improvements on the site. I've recently got a 50% improvement in my traffic within 7 days (70%+ within the past 30 days). Here's the screenshot of today's traffic.