The Means And Ways of Winning in Life

When things go wrong, really wrong!

What will you do? Everyone may have their own experience. You see, the threshold of one is different from another. People who have just cut their finger and blood oozes, for others they just shout and panic. Others, it is nothing. A cockroach for one is a horrible sight for another it’s just an insect. Now what about when we lost everything in our hands? Do you just give up and lose control and feel horribly helpless? Do you panic? In my life I have faced many challenges so unbelievable at least according to my own perception. What will you do when you lose four of your businesses all at the same time because of the treachery of your business partner? Do not panic, be calm. Think and look for clarity. If I may relate my views on this, the means and ways of winning in life. Let us start

Face it!

When it is beyond your control learn to have acceptance and see it in the perspective of real life. Because the real world is bad! The real world will rip you off! The real world is never fair. Yes, life is never fair in this realm. Nothing will happen if we use our anger. Anger will only worsen the situation. There is a righteous anger yet there is a very thin line from being right to being wrong. It is by nature destructive. I have a high degree of acceptance of life. I do not depend on any man since a long time ago. I depend on God. What happened has happened. I knew it. But trust alone cannot stand the test of time in business. We need to have something in solid footing. That is we need a solid contract not just a contract between you and your sponsor. Trust and confidence is OK but we need proof of everything. Proof of expenditure, proof of capital outlay. Proof of documentation that is done in due process. We need due diligence in everything.

All things shall pass

No matter how big the problem, they will pass. That is exactly life is everything will pass away. I remember the story of a rich man. His name was Job. He lost everything not only his properties but his children, all of them and not only that he had a kind of disease that covered all of his body. It was like scabies. It was itchy and truly uncomfortable! What did he say? God has given, God has taken them away. Praise be His name, in effect that was he said!

What is the point?

In order to stand strong in this wild, wild world we must have an anchor we can depend. You must believe or do not believe at all. Just like trust, trust must be 100% otherwise there is no trust. Job trusted in God 100% and I reckoned, my weakness was to trust people more than they deserved. And I trusted the wrong one. I am not into religion, I just wanted to make a point.

My point is have an anchor. It could be your belief system, it could be your spouse, or your best friend whom you fully trust.

And do not panic. Do not feel helpless. Do not be angry. Do not act in haste especially when you are agitated.

Realization

I realized, with the help of my wife, we need to calm down. Genuine grit is the ability to face real issues confronting our very future. It is important to see all in the right perspective. Count the cost of your actions, what will be the consequences. And then take your time. Do not make any decision or utterances when you are angry. Be introspective. Meditate and listen to your trusted friends what is wrong with you? Have an open mind and assess your character. Sometimes we think we are alright but then something in us maybe stopping us from not only getting our financial freedom, but the more important one, having a joyful and a peaceful life as well. Only true self-analysis, humility and right-thinking can anyone arrive to the answer.

Handle the problem as challenges

Most of our problems are exaggerated. Our mind create a giant from an ant because we panic, we worry and we doubt our capacity to solve the challenge. That is not the way to think. We should be mindful of our thought processes.

I also reckon we must be well ahead of the game of life. In our WA journey, I look ahead and saw it will take time. I know my capacity and I know I can make it. I look at others to learn. I do not compare myself. I just try to be a better version of me every time. We should determine the course of our actions.

3 Fundamentals in life

There 3 fundamental principles we should always take with us as we go on living in this world and it is also applicable in our own online business or any business for that matter. They are: 1. Grace under pressure, calmness in the middle of the storm of life and when there seemed to be no hope, and 2. Fortitude, resilience to go on and adapt to the changing situation of life, it is the innate quality of survivor. And 3. Vision. We must look ahead. A man without vision will have many tragedies and struggles. When you have vision. You see the unseen. You feel something is wrong and take precautions from an impending grave challenge. It is called gut feeling, or intuition. There is no harm in preparing to something unexplainable so as when it happened you are prepared.

Preparedness

The most important preparation is emotionally and mentally. Money will come and go. But we need balance. We do not identify our life to things. We identify our life to integrity of our character and the faith we keep within.

Look at life as series of ups and downs. We should not only be strong when the going is right. We should also be strong, even stronger when the going is wrong.

Here is our life: problems are only in the mind, affirmed by our action which resulted into why we are in the predicament of grave situation. Illusion of grueling pain and struggle due to challenges are relative, it is how we perceive them to be.

But perception must be based on truth. All problems are part and parcel of our sojourn in this world. You don’t want problems don’t create one.

For circumstances beyond our control I found out this is very true as I testify on experience and faith, Prayer is better than action. So pray first before taking action. No offense to those who do not believe in God. But I know there is God who make thing happen and allow things to happen.

In order to stop unpalatable things to happen – pray! There is no substitute from being with

faith and knowing the truth. To anything, you can find in this world. That is the way and this must be the life we should lead. The secret of life is already before our eyes but we are blinded by the set of limiting beliefs we have imbibed and became ingrained in our system.

Have an open mind

An open mind is the only hope. Prove all things so that no one can take you for a ride anymore. Be strong and make thing s happen. We can only do that if we first help ourselves to be on top form in every facet of living - from transforming our life into the renewing of our conviction to live a better life.

To have a better life, many will incorporate money which is partially correct. To have better life is to have a happier and more balanced life. Not only financial but more importantly physical (health) mental and spiritual. And social and personal aspect. Accept yourself whatever you are or you might have been, what you are or you might be. Be happy. That is the main thing.