This Will Always Define Your Success Or Failure In Life

Last Update: November 25, 2015

Can I ask you a quick question?

What's Your Self Talk?

Well I guess I should define self talk first.

Self talk is that inner dialog in your head that you're having every single day of your life.

In short, it's your daily vocabulary?

It’s the words you constantly say to yourself, it’s the words you use when you have challenges, it’s the words you use when you ask questions.

It’s the words you use when you’re speaking to others. It’s the words you use to describe the experiences in your life.

The words you use can either help or heal. Make you cry or laugh. Create or destroy, comfort or cause pain, create success or produce failure.

You must realize the power your words have and choose them wisely. You see the words you use create emotions, and those emotions create your action, and from those actions your life is formed.

Where you are in life right now is due to your current Self-Talk, that running dialogue in your head.

It’s shaping your destiny. It’s determining how you think, how you feel, how you act and how you LIVE!!

You need to constantly be aware of your vocabulary making sure it’s pulling you in the direction you desire instead of a pulling you away from your desire.

Remember you’re in total control of your life.

So if you’re not where you want to be right now, you can change your destiny in an instant by changing your Self-Talk, which will change your focus, and this will change how think, how you feel, how you act and how you LIVE!

So how do you know what you’re current Self-Talk is and how do you change it?

Well First look at your life, is this where you want to be? If not, you need to change your focus, and you do that by changing your self talk.

Let’s go through the most common self talk, and you’ll see what I mean.

When an event or challenge happens in your life how do you react, what do you say?

Let’s start with the questions you’re asking yourself. And remember if you’re saying it out loud you’re saying it to yourself, and vice versa.

For example, maybe the question you keep asking yourself over and over again is this:

“Why can’t I be successful online?”

When you ask yourself a question using words like that the answers you get are usually something like:

  • “I’m not successful because I’m not smart enough”
  • “I’m not successful because I’m not educated enough”
  • “I’m not successful because I’m not prepared”
  • “I can’t succeed because I have no money”
  • “I’m not lucky”

And on and on…

Wow!! No wonder you’re not successful online. You’re focusing on not succeeding and you keep reinforcing that destiny with that question and getting those answers.

Remember your brain is like a computer.

“Garbage in Garbage Out”

So if you ask yourself a bad question, you’ll get a bad answer.

Simply change the words in the question.

What you want to do is ask yourself a question that pre-supposes a positive out come. And this will make you change your focus, which changes your thinking, and then changes how you feel and then you’ll change what you do.

Very simple but, oh so powerful! Remember Ask and you shall receive.

So instead of saying “Why can’t I be successful online”

Change it to:

“What changes do I need to make in order to become successful online?”

Or

“What do I need to do to succeed online each day?

What type of answers do you think you get now?

  • I need to focus on one marketing strategy.
  • I need to stop buying product after product.
  • I need to follow a proven plan.
  • I need to find a mentor.
  • I need to dedicate 2 hours a day to building my online business

And so on and so on.

Because you’re asking the right question which is giving you the right answers you’re focused on succeeding online and that will keep pulling you in the direction you want instead of pulling you away from what you want.

So remember, if you ask a better question you’ll always get a better answer.

Ok, when you’re faced with a challenge, what do you say?

Is it something like

“Why does this always happen to me?”

Or

“Why did this have to happen now?”

What kind of answers do you think you’re going to get to those questions?

  • Because I’m not prepared
  • Because I deserve it
  • It’s my lot in life
  • That’s just the way it is

And so, on….

Instead of asking that kind of question and getting those lousy answers.Ask yourself…

  • How can I solve this challenge as well as have fun doing it?
  • What is great about this challenge and what can I learn from it while I solve it?
  • What’s not perfect about this challenge, and how can I change so it’s the way I want it?
  • How can I turn this challenge around?

Again, if you ask a better question you’ll get a better answer. Better answers will always pull you in the direction you desire.

Or when you’re faced with a decision regarding your goals.

The ultimate question you can ask yourself and add to your daily Self-Talk is this:

“Will This Bring Me Closer To My Goal Or Further Away From It?”

By simply asking yourself this empowering question, and by truly answering it and taking the appropriate action.

You can pretty much guarantee you can achieve anything you want to achieve.

So once again, ask a better question and get you’ll get a better answer.

For example a big challenge for many people, is losing weight. It’s hard, but if you’re using the right self talk this challenge becomes a lot easier.

For instance, let’s say you’re grocery shopping and you’re doing all the right things by buying the right food, and then it happens, you have to pass through the bakery section, there’s no way around it.

All those mouth watering, sweet filled oyey goyie, treats, that you’re not suppose to have too much of, what’s a person to do. You find yourself standing in front of the counter eyeballing a double chocolate, cake with a white chocolate frosting topped with chocolate shavings.

And you’re seriously thinking I want that whole cake. Ask yourself the ultimate question:

“If I eat this cake will this bring me closer to my goal of losing 20 lbs or further away from i?”

And by truly answering it and taking the appropriate action. You’ll be fine. I never said it would be easy, but if you are truthful and honor yourself you will be fine.

Then, say to yourself, once I reach my goal my reward will be one small piece. And then every time you go grocery shopping you can now use that chocolate cake as your continued motivation to reach your goal.

Here’s another example of how the right Self-Talk will empower you.

Let’s say someone is having a bad day, and you have the joy of running into this person.

And this person is more then happy to dump all over you and your day because they feel it’s their duty to ruin yours and everyone else’s day. You know the saying “If I’m having a bad day everybody else is going to”.

Plus they’re not looking for advice or help they’re just in full blown bitch mode.

Because of my Self-Talk nobody gets to decide how my day is going to be but me.

Now if it came to the point where I had to say something to this person because I could not avoid them any longer, I would say:

“I understand you’re having a bad day, but I don’t get involved in other people’s drama and I refuse to allow negativity into my life, I wish you the best with sorting out your day and if I can help I would be more then happy too, but until then I can’t be around you”.

And then I would walk away. Remember people can only treat you the way you allow them to treat you.

If that’s my self-talk do you think I’m going to have a bad day just because someone else is?

If someone is so hell bent on having a bad day let them, but you don’t have to.

Why would you want to be a passenger in your own life and allow other people drive and determine what you’re going to experience?

Here is some of my daily Self-Talk:

“Helping people achieve their goals and dreams using no agenda and expecting nothing in return. Will allow me to achieve all my goals and dreams”

That one was inspired from Zig Ziggler.

Find one successful event in each day”

How does that set up my day compared to other people?

“Being truthful each day is the best gift I can give myself and others”

I think the boy scouts are onto something.

“I will not get involved in other people’s drama and I refuse to allow negativity into my life”

This is why I have no drama or stress in my life.

If all you do is fill your mind with empowering words and phrases you’ll attract everything you want in life.

You’re still going to have to work for things, but you’ll be working towards your desires not away from them.

Also when you make a statement with the words, not, don’t, won’t, no, can’t … you actually give attention and focus to what you don’t want.

What if I said to you, “Don’t think of the color blue.”

You’re now thinking of the color blue, 100% for sure.

Your conscious and unconscious mind edited out the word “don’t”.

So when you hear or say to yourself… Don’t worry. Don’t smoke. Don’t forget. This won’t hurt… you just give more attention to what you don’t want.

Avoid using these words. Instead of “don’t” use “I prefer”, instead of hurt, use bothered, instead of depressed use, not on top of it, instead of failure, use learning.

The Power Of Words

Once you understand that the words you’re using are determining your destiny, and you see your current self talk is not pulling towards the goals you have, then simply change your focus, change your self talk.

Fill your mind with empowering vocabulary and you can do this by reading inspiring and motivating books.

Hang out with like minded people, if you’re hanging around negative people all the time that’s going to transfer to you.

If you hang out with people that are motivated and inspiring that’s going to translate to you as well. Hey if you want to know how make a million dollars, associate and learn from a millionaire.

Let’s say all your friends currently make between 40 and 50 thousand a year and they have been making that amount of money for the most of their lives, they would be the perfect people to ask how to make 40 and 50 thousand a year.

But they are the last people you would want to ask how to make $100,000 or $200,000 a year, because they have never made that kind of money before.

If you want to know how to make more money then you’re currently making never talk to someone who makes the same or less then you do, always talk to someone who is making more then you.

And the same goes for your destiny, if you’re not where you want to be in life, then you have to take a hard look at where you are and where you want to be and then be willing to make the appropriate changes to make it happen or it’s never going to happen.

There is a great little book out there called The Ultimate Secret To Getting Absolutely Everything You Want.

And you know what that secret is?

In order to accomplish something you must be willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish it.

So if you want to succeed online you must do what it takes.

If you want to lose weight you must do what it takes to accomplish that.

If you want a great relationship you must do what it takes to accomplish that.

It's not complicated. It's not easy, but it's not complicated.

Ok time for some homework, I want you to write down the dis-empowering words you use on a daily basis, and then replace them with words that will empower you.

For example change:

I Hate to I Prefer
Frustrated to Challenged
Irritated to Stimulated
Overwhelmed to Busy
Disappointed to Underwhelmed
Fearful to Curious
Terrible
to Different
Rejected to Misunderstood

I also want you to write down at least 5 self talk statements that you’ll use to replace the des-empowering self talk you’re currently using.

So some of your self talk could be how you feel. Maybe you're feeling "ok" or "I feel alright" or the standard one "I'm fine"

Sure these are good words, but these are not the most inspiring or empowering words you can use.

So for this example let's change these from a good word(s) or great word(s)

I'm feeling ok, alright, fine to I feel superb, fantastic, outstanding

Once you have done that put them where you can see them and read them out loud to yourself at least twice a day.

Next write out 5 morning questions and 5 evening questions you’ll ask yourself each day.

Your morning questions set you up for success each day as well as giving thanks or being grateful for the things that you have in your life right now, and the evening questions allow you to recognize and honor your success for the day.

To get the balling rolling for you here are the morning and evening questions I’ve been asking myself for years:

Morning questions

  • What must I do to take one step closer to my goals today?
  • What am I really jazzed about in my life right now?
  • What am I really grateful for in my life right now?
  • What am I currently excited about in my life right now?
  • What am I currently committed to in my life right now?

My Evening Questions

  • Did I take the necessary steps today to move closer to my goals?
  • Am I happy with my achievements today?
  • Did I live with honesty and honor today?
  • What did I learn today?

My success in life is due to my Self-Talk, and yes and hard work. But my self talk keeps me focused and on track and allows me to create the destiny I want.

Now it’s time for you to create your destiny, remember you’re the driver in your life, so choose the route you want, don’t be a passenger.

I believe in you
Leo

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Stella45 Premium
Hi Leo
Normally I have a positive attitude and self talk, telling myself my cup is half full and will soon be over flowing. The hope is always there but I never questioned it.... thank you for making me realise the importance of it!
The replacement words and thoughts are emporering and inspiring.
Thank you!
Stella
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leoemery Premium
You're welcome, developing a positive self talk is like any other new skill that needs to be learned. It takes time and practice.
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buildyournow Premium
leoemery...what an excellent article and so inspiring. Most people, I've discovered, really want to be more positive in their life's challenges but simply don't know how to. Hopefully your blog will inspire them to erase the negative thoughts and seek a more positive direction for their lives in order to enhance their ultimate success in the online business particularly. Thanks so much as I've learned a thing or two myself after reading your post.
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You're welcome glad you enjoyed my post. It all starts with your mind set -
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LJacob Premium
Leo, what a great writer and one who inspires others. You have stated the truth about life that what we say affect us and went on to give insight of how we ought to say things to achieve our lives goals. Thanks for this great inspiration and I pray that you will be filled with more knowledge to help others the more achieve their goals. i want to seize this opportunity to say you touch a soft part of my life with this write up. Self Talk is very important to every individual but may not know its effects. Thank you once more.
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You're very welcome - and thank you for the kind words.
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Tbarlow1 Premium
Thank you so much for the insight. I am immediately changing my "Self Talk" I do tell myself some of those negative ways of looking at things, but never realized how to change them. Now I know, and have written everything down, so I can refer back to it, and follow the positive self talk, and keeping my goals in mind. This helped me in a tremendous way, so I thank you very much for sharing, you have changed the way I approach my minds dialog!!

Best wishes in all your endeavors!!
Tracy
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You're very welcome - I'm so happy to hear this post helped you out
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Tbarlow1 Premium
I have started with today, and this morning I started my day off with the morning questions, and it got me focused, and ready to accomplish reasonable goals that are attainable for today. I need to learn to break things down more, and not get overwhelmed by thinking about everything all at once. That can make me feel overwhelmed. So today was a great way to start. You have helped me in a huge way!!

Thanks so much!!
Tracy
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You're welcome and that's fantastic to hear - I'm so glad my post has helped you out.
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MiaLambert Premium
Wonderful! Thank you!
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rmathare Premium
I love this post. It hits home on so many levels.
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I'm glad you enjoyed it
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gs1954 Premium
Great blog post Leo, you are a great motivator.
Cheers
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leoemery Premium
Glad you like it and thank you
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Techiescot Premium
Thank you, Leo. I absolutely agree with your blog post here. Improving my Self Talk was the single best thing I did for myself (and for those around me) this year. Changing that changed everything.
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leoemery Premium
Like you this was the beginning of every positive change in my life.
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deelilah Premium
Again, thank you, Leo. for an excellent article. I knew I shouldn't be calling myself a dumb-ask, because I'm really kinda smart--and I, more or less, stopped doing it, which absolutely turned some things around in a positive way-- but reading your article has reinforced and solidified my resolve to use good and productive self-talk.
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leoemery Premium
I don;t think people really understand the power of words - you keep telling yourself something every single day - and you will soon believe it - and it makes no difference if you're empowering yourself or dis-empowering yourself
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LouisaB Premium
Leo, thanks, so much to learn from. I will bookmark this.
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RisingAbove Premium
Leo this is a real eye opener for me. Thank you sooo much for sharing. It really does make me "think" and will also help to push me along.

Marsha
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Rosdy Premium
good one LEO.. :)
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Thanks
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womo2015 Premium
My 1 STEP - Create proper mind set - Done 01/15/2016
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womo2015 Premium
Your BLOG is just BEAUTIFUL.
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Thank you
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AL13 Premium
Leo, your blog just jacks me up! Happy New Year!
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leoemery Premium
Thank you and a belated happy new year to you as well
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RowanAsh Premium
You nail it in a nutshell "You see the words you use create emotions, and those emotions create your action, and from those actions your life is formed." and then go on to give some great examples and inspiration for taking steps on improving our own self talk. Thanks Leo!
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JAZZmom41 Premium
That's a terrific blog, Leo! Thanks. We certainly can't expect a diffierent outcome if we don't change anything. :)
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Markenneth Premium
Wow Leo thank you for so much "food for thought" and telling me so much about myself. Now I realise where I am going wrong LOL. I do come across many negative people every day and I know I feel sort of depressed each time i come away from them. I know that the secret is NOT to try and "fix" them as that gets me down but in one case (one person) I have to put more effort into it. At this stage I don't know how to do that. Anyway it should not hinder my efforts at WA and I will use your tips to "fix" myself. Many thanks Leo.
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Dmorrow Premium
Not just great info Leo; actually great training. So many times we hear think positive, etc, etc, but you actually told us how to get there! The medical community has done studies related to this and that results show that patients with positive attitudes almost always do better.

I have a good friend this might really help.

Blessings,
Debby
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Thanks for the kind words, and as for your friend I know it can help- all the best
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Harrysastar2 Premium
As ever Leo, full of pearls of wisdom, thanks for sharing.

PROMISE YOURSELF
Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace
of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel like there is something in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism
come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and expect only
the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are
about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on the greater
achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living
person you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no
time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, and too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
- The Optimist Creed
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You're welcome , and thank you for sharing
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Tbarlow1 Premium
I love the inspiring words with such optimism. This is great. Going to read it every day.
Thanks for sharing
Tracy
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You're welcome, glad you enjoyed it
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gooddogpoky2 Premium
Leo: Nice piece but this is the 2nd post I have read in WA today that talks about finding a "mentor." Hell, I need a mentor. Then I stop and think "ya but why do I need a mentor when I have MarionBlack, You, and Bert (ignorant) to help me along. How do I answer this self-chat? These people are all really talented people that can help on occasion but they can't help me ALL the time (they all have their own lives and their own on-line businesses). So I am back to my question, leo, how does one find a mentor? What do they cost? Please give me a couple of ideas on how to find a mentor. DAN
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It depends what you're looking for in a mentor, is it for self growth, is it for business, relationships, etc.

To find a mentor look in the areas that you are looking for mentoring. Do your due diligence, talk to people that have used the mentor you're interested in.

For me it took a while to find the right guy that I clicked with, but once I did I never looked back.

I can say without hesitation everyone I know who is quite successful credits other people for helping them get there. They credit mentors, coaches, key relationships, bosses, partners, they credit PEOPLE!

As for cost well that ranges from person to person, for example my mentor who is for making money online charges at the low end $5000, I think in the new year that will be $10,000 and at the upper end $100,000.

And with each level of mentoring there is a different level of interaction (personalization), tools, resources and so on.

I can tell you a great mentor or a go-to-person is someone that will "tell you what you NEED to hear" and "what you need to do" and what you need to fix... or need to change... to be successful.

Not tell you want you want to hear, my mentor is a tell it like it is kind of guy - he pulls no punches, and because of that he has helped me triple my income in one short year.

Hope this helps
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Thanks Leo. DAN
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ImaDesigner Premium
Short videos and long blog posts. And both are F A N T A S T I C. As you like to say lol. This is really an eye-opening, encouraging and very motivating, especially for newbies like me.

Thanks for this valuable lesson Leo.
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Thank you and you're welcome
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HappyRaven Premium
Fantastic blog. I have started to use positive self talk and I am getting better. Thank you, Leo.
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JewelCarol Premium
Excellent, I am going to bookmark, thanks very much, Leo. Happy Thanksgiving!! ;)
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You're welcome
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Judy-B Premium
Yes, words are powerful. This was an amazing post. Took notes and will use them. Thank you for sharing. :)
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AllyJay Premium
Wow, a truly inspiring post Leo, might just be the first of my "new years resolutions!". Thankyou for sharing such a great reminder to us all about the words we choose on a daily basis. Much appreciated :)
Ally
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leoemery Premium
You're welcome and why wait, start right now
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kiliwia62 Premium
Awesome post Leo, and I agree 100%.
Something else I like to add. Exchange the word, so many people use on a daily basis like I SHOULD......into I Choose.
You will feel a shift immediately.
I.e. I should lose weight into I choose to lose weight
I should write some new content into I choose to write some new content.
It changes the dynamic of what we have dreaded at first (I should) into a new more lighter perspective, a new outlook when using I choose.

Sylvia
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Thanks for sharing
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Mike-Writes Premium
Awesome post, Leo! Simply awesome.
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Thanks
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JohnnyMark1 Premium
Very good, Leo. Thank you.
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You're welcome
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2Al Premium
Very true. Leo, thank you for the advice.
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ssiws Premium
hi leo well said. fantastic article. i have a self talk every day but it seems to go in one ear and out the other but with a positive attitude we experience pleasant and happy feelings. and is beneficial to our feel good factor, thus allowing us on a subconscious level to gravitate towards positive people who are more disposed to help us if we are positive. negative thoughts words and attitudes create negative and unhappy feelings. this is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment. thanks for sharing.
paul.
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KatieMac Premium
Just what I need thank you Leo for the positive advice and I will be reading that book, you are right we need to use the right words with ourselves and we around positive people
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Darwyn Premium
Thank you for sharing this Leo. I self talk to myself every hour of every day, sometimes positive, sometimes negative. I am going to try harder in asking myself the 'Right' questions! Great post.
Cheers
Darwyn
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leoemery Premium
You're welcome, and it does take a focused effort to have the right self talk, but like anything the more we do it the better we become
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Darwyn Premium
I self talked myself into taking advantage of the black Friday Yearly Leo. Partly because of this post my friend. So for that I thank you!
Cheers
Darwyn
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leoemery Premium
That's fantastic, look forward to hanging out with you all next year.
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Darwyn Premium
Thanks a lot Leo. Looking forward to it.
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rossky Premium
Great! Life changing stuff! Thank you, Leo!

I have not accomplished that much in my life but I'm trying to improve its quality constantly. The control over the focus of our attention is hard to overestimate. Not in general terms, literally I had to learn how to pay attention. And, most importantly, I learned to wake up. Most of the time, our self-talk is same as day-dreaming. So, make sure you are awake while you are awake when you do your Self-Talking!
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You're welcome, glad to hear you like the post
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TechniSmart Premium
Thanks Leo. I wholeheartedly agree with you: Self talk will surely be a determining factor of our success at WA.


--Michael
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leoemery Premium
Not just in the WA, for every aspect of our lives
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TheGrizzly Premium
Self talk is a big deal I've read a book on it. Mind opening. When we have an awareness of what self talk is and how it affects us we are better equipped to reform it and make it work for us.

Thanks for sharing.
-Evan
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You're welcome
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EKautz Premium
You know self talk well Leo!

You're one of my kind!

ROCK ON!
E
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leoemery Premium
Thanks my brother
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You're welcome brother!
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kvimont Premium
Hi Leo, fantastic article on positive thinking, you brought back my memories of Wayne Dyer's books that I have read starting with his first book Erroneous Zones.
That book set me down a great path in life and any time I'm having a bad day I think back to those books and by the end of my day all is good before retiring for the night. Thanks for sharing with us.
Kim
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leoemery Premium
I have a bunch of Wayne's books, shame he has passed away this year.
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janourish Premium
Good article Leo. The power of our thoughts can build an empire or destroy our lives. Goals and focus are a key indeed. Thank you for sharing and helping others along the way.
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You're welcome
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MaryESS Premium
Leo, You should be writing a book! Thank you for all your helpful blogs. This one was outstanding.
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leoemery Premium
Not sure about the book thing - just sharing what I have learned from my mentors - glad you liked it
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Loes Premium
Veryvery true Leo :) Love it!

I would only change one thing
What MUST I do to take one step closer to my goals today? into
What CAN I do to take one step closer to my goals today?

Delete the verb MUST totally outof your dictunairy because it is loaded with negativity and replace it with CAN

Everything what comes outof your mouth will make you more often ill then the things you put into your mouth:)
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leoemery Premium
Thank you.

For me "must" gives me a sense of urgency and purpose - no negativity at all, it works for me.

But of course if you need to change it - by all means do what works best for you
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rossky Premium
Loes is a sage!
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leoemery Premium
She sure is,
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Loes Premium
Thank you both:)
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olivingstone Premium
Very inspiring Leo. Gratitude is my power tool. Olive
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mjdimarco Premium
Leo, You are spot on with this.
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Thanks
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Linda-777 Premium
Love this, thanks for sharing.
It's exactly the thing I try daily to get into people's heads, you drive your life by what you say and think (and listen to). Sending out negative vibrations is NOT going to bring success and positive things into your life. It's the same as the law of gravitation, whether you believe in it or not - if you speak and think negative - that is what you get.
Like in Napoleon Hill's book you become what you think of most of the time.
My self talk when I struggle:
1st, I realize what I have to be thankful for, like this awesome computer I'm working on right now. I feel a deep and strong gratefulness towards the computer for being here. And then I tell myself "I can do all thing through Christ who strengthens me."
And before I know it....things are running smoothly again.
Be Blessed
Linda
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leoemery Premium
Thank you for the sharing - and you hit something right on the head, so many people are not grateful for what they have now, they usually wait - wait for what?
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Papi Premium
Thank you Leo.
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You're welcome
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SamiWilliams Premium
Thank you for reminding me of what I already knew. Also thanks for the new words to work with!
Sami
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leoemery Premium
You're welcome
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AlexEvans Premium
Wow just dined out at the Leo's restaurant, the menu was excellent. Many will benefit from reading this, I know I did. I have been working on cutting down the self talk for a number of years. Mite just have to crank it back up, in a positive way. Thank you for creating this post Leo.
Alexander
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leoemery Premium
You're very welcome and I hope you're not tOo full, more to come - dessert if you will - lol
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DouglasNolan Premium
Leo. What an awesome post. I'm not sure any of us truly realize the affect our words have on our lives. This is one I will bookmark AND print out so I can reference in days to come. And as they say in church...Brother that stuff will preach! Thanks for your insights.
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leoemery Premium
Thank for the kind words and you're very welcome
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dickw Premium
Hi Leo,
Looks like you and Pj have gotten into the book writing business. This is a good book . I know that self talk works, I've used is for years. And it worked so well, I forgot to use it. I just need to use it more.
This post has a lot of good stuff. Hope everyone reads. Thanks.
Speaking of helpful books, here is a great one on self talk.

"What to Say When You Talk to Yourself" by Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D.
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leoemery Premium
LOL - just sharing what I know and live by.

Yep I've read that, that's a great book.
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DouglasNolan Premium
Dick, I have Shad's book on my bookshelf (along with many others along these lines). I've read it several times. I highly recommend it. I think anyone truly interested in changing their life should read it. Thanks for bringing it to our attention.
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JudeP Premium
Great post, thanks so much :)
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leoemery Premium
You're welcome
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rufat Premium
Word can help and word can kill too
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leoemery Premium
Very true
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vhfan1957 Premium
Right on my friend!
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leoemery Premium
Thank you
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