Growth & Certainty

bykunalk269

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2 years ago

Remember when we used to believe that sun revolves around the earth, but now we know that it’s the other way around. That’s scientific growth. Don’t you think same can be applied to use. I strongly believe that our personal growth is a scientific process too, an iterative one to be specific. Here is how: We take actions based upon our values about what’s right and what’s wrong, what’s important and what’s Not. These values are our hypothesis based upon our previous experiences and whatever we have been taught and learned. The actions we conducted are our experiments, and the result of our actions is the data which will be stored and used for next situation depending upon whether the result was good or bad. And may be some of the actions that worked now might not work in the future. So basically there is nothing “completely right” or “Completely wrong” about anything that’s happening now. The only take away is what’s relevant in the moment and what’s not.

There is no perfect ideology, no perfect strategy. We just move from being wrong to be slightly less wrong. And still, we are so obsessed with being right about everything in our life that we forget to actually live it. We try so hard to be certain about our future that we try manipulating it by lying in our present. We try to do everything “Right” that we block any possibility for a change. And where there is no change, there is no growth. The truth is- there is no truth except the one you already know. Nothing is certain until its already happened. That’s why jordan Peterson always say that “you should not lie” instead of “Always speak the truth”. Or sometimes he use “you can try to speak what you known to be true”. Because nothing is absolute. You know what has been taught to you. Same goes for other people. Now I am not saying you shouldn’t try your best. But I am talking about the fear of failure, or rejection or anything that’s hurtful. Think about it: has it ever happened that in your past whatever you initially assumed as negative in that moment turned out to be most transformative or motivational event of your life. It might be switching a job, or running a marathon or anything difficult. And the vice versa is also true, whatever seems enjoyable in the moment turn into most distractible and demotivating in the future, like drinking alcohol or drugs or anything hedonic.

If its supposed to south it will go south, all you can do is put in the effort. You cannot control the results. Allow yourself to be wrong, to fail, to be rejected. But never allow yourself to settle for that, learn, Improvise, adapt and overcome. Thankyou.