Are we ALL everybody, somebody, nobody?

Last Update: December 18, 2016

Now while this is not a rant, I would like to point out something which I do not like. To tell the truth I have noticed it so often I now feel moved to say something.

I have to admit that I have an issue with the way that some posts make general and sweeping statements about "everybody", "most people at WA", "we all" "we humans" or any of the 100 variations on this.

I ask myself how can the person writing this possibly know what "everyone at WA" thinks,? How can they know whether I belong to that group of people, agree, disagree, am for or against what they are saying?

My post is not about telling anyone how they should or should not be.( This is also something I have read a lot of posts on recently.) My belief is that the very thing we don't like about someone is what we need to look at ourselves. If I relate this to myself you might say that I use such sweeping statements myself - This is something that I make a conscious effort to avoid but not being perfect maybe I do "commit this offence" sometimes when I am not aware. I do make an effort at least not to use such statements here.

Like I said this is not about telling anyone out there how they should change to please me. It is though a plea to ask anyone using such sweeping statements to maybe consider if it really applies to all the groupings you include in the post, or whether you might not like to be a bit more specific. It reminds me of a time when I was having a disagreement with my son and I was saying "you always do....", and he turned around and said to me quite calmly, "do you want to rephrase that please, because you know it is not true!". I think that brought the message about generalisations home quite squarely.

Wishing you all a wonderful evening

Vee


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GayleneNepia Premium
Thanks for your honesty Vee, I'm reminded of a comment my mother always made: "If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
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greenvee Premium
Thank you for commenting Gaylene. I do value your opinion. I have heard that saying a few times here over the last couple of weeks. I have to say that I disagree. One reason being that I don't particularly like the word nice; to me it lacks substance and does not really say anything about the person or thing. The other reason I disagree is that although what I have to say may not be "nice" it might be helpful or even valuable to a person. So I would opt for saying what I have to say in an honest and respectful way even if it is not nice.

Be happy stay well
Vee
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GayleneNepia Premium
Growing up we were always encouraged to speak our minds and this phrase to me was really saying, "don't say anything mean or nasty". But I respect your view on this.

Have a great Christmas and New Year Vee.
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greenvee Premium
ok I get what you mean. Thanks for the clarification, and thanks for the wishes. Wishing you too a very happy and merry christmas. :)
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brooksbode90 Premium
I think your post is noteworthy.
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greenvee Premium
Thank you
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MKearns Premium
Self expression always helps in your expression Valina!
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greenvee Premium
Thanks for your comment Mike
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Tezsie Premium
Point well made, Valina. And here, here, to your son!
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greenvee Premium
Thanks Tessa. BTW I also host Helpxers.:)
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Tezsie Premium
Way cool you're a host! All good experiences, I hope?
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greenvee Premium
so far yes
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Tezsie Premium
That´s great!
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