The Difference between Helping Others and Doing the work for them

As a fellow member of the Wealthy Affiliate Community I always seem to be questioning myself about this topic. It is evident that receiving help from others is definitely one of the great aspects about WA, but what happens when you get so much help from a specific person that you are personally taking time out of their schedule, and even obstructing them from focusing on their selves and moving forward? How far would you be willing to go when it comes to receiving help from others?

As you can see, this is definitely a touchy topic. You definitely want to avoid irritating or causing any sort of tension among any members within the community because in all honesty, WA is a place that avoids any sort of confrontational behavior, so you do not want to cause any trouble by drawing the line when it comes down to asking a particular person for help. In my opinion, there are certain degrees to asking others for help, and you definitely don’t want to go past that particular imperceptible line. Here are my top 5 No No’s when it comes to asking someone for their aid:

No No’s

1. Never ask for someone to do all the work for you, especially if you know that he/she is a very busy person. While some members may help you out to a certain extent, they are never going to do things that involve doing all the work for you. They may point you towards the right direction or even show you how to do some things, but they will never do things like add content to your site, or anything that involves your own effort and not theirs. If you are someone who is just lazy sometimes, I suggest that you hire someone who will do the work for you for pay.

2. Don’t Manipulate People. Just don’t do it, it’s not okay. This is definitely a characteristic that you do not want to possess yourself, it is just not going to help you out in the long run. I really don’t have to explain what being manipulative is, because I sure enough know that a lot of people know what manipulative qualities are, but just to be clearer, this is the definition that I found for “Manipulative” on dictionary.com -“influencing or attempting to influence the behavior or emotions of others for one’s own purposes.” I’m pretty sure this is clear enough. Even the most clueless person out there can tell when they are being manipulated, so please do not do this with other members, because you are only ruining both their experience and the communities experience here at WA as well. Remember we want to keep a positive atmosphere.

3. If you do get help from someone personally, try to avoid doing things like sharing personal information or asking for favors when you don’t even know the person very well, or know that the person would get offended by this type of question. Honestly I suggest not sharing personal information at all, but for some instances it may be necessary, just not here at WA!

4. If you have received help from someone and wish to share some of their insights or works always be sure to check with the person who helped you so that you do not make it seem like you are infringing on their copyright guidelines, and to avoid possibly offending someone.

5. Do not EVER disrespect someone who is offering you help, even if it’s outside WA, this is just not all right and is more than frowned upon in many places. Be sure to express your gratitude, you don’t want to make it seem like the help you are getting is being taken for granted. Everyone always appreciates a warm welcome and acknowledgment.

Now, please note that I’m not asserting that one shouldn't ask for help whenever they are stuck, I’m just saying that maybe sometimes you should research things yourself beforehand, just to assure yourself that you are not getting what you are looking for so that you could then ask others for help.

So guys always be sure to be thankful and to not take advantage of others who are taking time out of their day to help you with your particular situation. Even though it is kind of an aspect of WA, that still doesn't give you the right to manipulate it to your advantage. Receiving help from others is one of the biggest blessings that exists within mankind, so don’t take it for granted, because even though it may seem like it is granted sometimes, it really isn't.

We are all human beings, and we can only try our best. And if I may add, sometimes returning the favor for someone who helps you out, really helps you out a lot in the long run, even if the person doesn't need the favor at the moment, it is always great to offer and is a great sign of acknowledgment. Hope I wasn't too hard on anyone, I just get frustrated when I see that people aren't playing nice. Please don't beat yourself up too much about it if you find yourself doing some of the things I listed because, like I said before, we are all only human beings. Wish you all the best, and I really do hope you become successful members here at WA, because that is ultimately the goal. Would love to hear some of your thoughts or feelings on this, or any of your personal No No’s. Please leave them in the comment section below.