What I Got Wrong About Referrals

What I Got Wrong About Referrals

(And What I'm Doing Differently Now)

I’ve been part of Wealthy Affiliate for a while now.
I’ve seen the platform grow, shift, evolve.
And I’ve made all the classic mistakes along the way.

When I first started referring people,
I thought I had to convince them.
Push them.
Point them to the site, fire off automated emails, drop links, stay visible, stay active.

And for a while, it felt like it worked... numbers went up.
But nothing stuck.

People clicked.
Then froze.
Then left.

I was giving too much, too fast, too soon.
No space. No breathing room.
No time for them to figure out what they actually wanted from WA.

What I Missed

Most people who join WA aren’t lazy or unmotivated.
They’re just confused.
Overwhelmed.
Unsure of what this place even is.

So I’ve changed my approach.

Now, I guide. I don’t push.

I created a 9-Day Tour... a simple, self-paced introduction to WA, hosted on my own site.
It’s not a funnel. It’s a map.

Each day is one small step.
One idea.
One action.. if they’re ready for it.

(You can find the first day under my profile)

What I Learned

• Don’t assume people want to build a site on Day 1. (Unles they are experts)
• Don’t bury them in emails before they even know where they are.
• Don’t treat real humans like traffic.

Start slow.
Guide gently.
Be the voice that says: “You’re not behind.”

If You’re Referring People Too...

Try this:

• Reach out personally. Ask why they joined.
• Share your early struggles. It builds more trust than success stories.
• Send them to a tour if they seem overwhelmed.
• Let them choose when (and if) to act.

We’re not here to push.
We’re here to light paths.

See you around WA,
Fleeky