Pondering Thoughts of Growth

byFireLite

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4 years ago

Having to overcome the long term effects of abuse is the most complex of all issues of abuse. It takes a very strong personality type to have the ability to move forward in any positive way without self sabotage. When things start going good I used to cut myself off from being able to keep moving in the right direction, it's insaine how chaos becomes normal. To us, nothing and no one can be trusted and trying to figure out what's right and what's wrong becomes a chore that nobody wins.

I have spent a lot of my time pushing people away that wanted to help but not being able to tell the difference in people is one goal the abusers want first of all, then they have no fear of loosing what they want most, control.

I have learned most of these people can't control their own life and gaining control over another human gives them the feel of accomplishment, to make one feel worthless gives them feeling of being your hero when they "save" you from the hell they just caused you.I have personally seen the effects this has on some and the outcome is not pretty, some women are never the same again. Depression quickly takes over all aspects of your life.

I wish I could do more but the fact is when a person sees domestic violence they usually turn away, ignoring the womans cry for help. Not wanting to get involved is doing more harm than good, it is saying it's ok to dicipline your spouse. That is not what is happening in most cases.

It takes a team of therapists and medication to get the person who has suffered through abuse to start to function on a normal level and even then trust is non-existant and everything and everyone get's pulled over the coals for examination.

All we really want is to feel safe and loved and we tend to make this the hardest thing of all to achieve because now our mind always thinks something is going to happen and we are never able to relax and be comfortable in our own skin when around anyone.

In closing remember this, if you see something say something. If you hear somebody needing help, don't turn away. Look for the signs of abuse, things that don't fit the picture will usually say something is wrong.

Step in, step up, let's help one another and become a more peaceful world to live in.