Overcoming Fear

Last Update: November 25, 2020

My first memorable fearful moment happened when I was tall enough to answer a knock at the door, what I saw was so scary that I slammed the door shut and ran screaming. My older sister asked what’s wrong and who’s at the door? I was in such shock that I could barely answer her, I just pointed at the door and said “a man”. The person I saw was tall with what seems like a very black painted face and bright blue eyes, and white teeth grinning at me. He looked like someone from the black and white minstrel shows but he was dirty very looking.

My sister bravely walked to the door and opened it; he was still there. She looked over at me and said in a very gentle and comforting voice “it’s only the coalman”.

Back in those days, coal was delivered to houses which was then used to make fire and to keep warm. Actually, the coalman would throw the coals down a grid in the front of the house, which lead to a cellar, then he would knock at the door to collect his money. I’m not sure how often this process was done, but it was my first encounter with a coalman, and to be honest I don’t think I’ve seen one since.

Fear of success can be just as crippling to an adult, most of us thrive for success not knowing that we may be subconsciously blocking our own success, by being are afraid of the amount of work success takes.

Also, fear of success can be about anticipating how others will react to our achievement; this fear is sometimes called achievement phobia or success anxiety.

Here are a few ways that I intend to help myself overcome this crippling condition call fear.

I’m going to:

Always encourage positive thoughts

Keep reaching out to WA community for support when needed

Practice stress management technique such as deep breathing and visualization

Keep learning with Wealthy Affiliate which is a great program to do just that.

If you have any more tips on overcoming fear of success, please feel free to share them with me.

Thanks for the read.

Melanie

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JosephC00 Premium Plus
I find visualizing success helps to overcome fear.
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DMelB Premium
Wonderful idea, I will do just that.
Thank you for sharing, it means a lot.
Melanie
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LMH1968 Premium Plus
Thank you very much for sharing. I try hard to stay positive, but it’s not always easy.
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DMelB Premium
You're right LMH, staying positive can be a challenge especially when there is so much negative daily news. I try to always look on the bright side.
Thanks for your comment, it means a lot.
Melanie
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RoseLee2020 Premium
I don't have fear of success but I'm afraid of the work that success takes... Overwhelming at the same time crippling... It still gets on my nerves from time to time... Like you, I want take those steps above to overcome that fear and keep myself going towards achieving my goal!

Thank you for sharing this Melanie!

Hope and blessings may fill your way to success!~^

Rose 💕
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DMelB Premium
Thank you RoseLee, your input means a lot. May you overcome your fears and go forward into achieving your goal. We can do this!
Kind regards,
Melanie
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RoseLee2020 Premium
Thank you Melanie!~^
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GeoffreyC1 Premium
I had forgotten about how coal men used to look lol They came to our door too. That's for memory.
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DMelB Premium
You're very welcome Geoffrey, yes those were the good old days.
Melanie
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Newme202 Premium
Melanie, I really enjoyed reading your post. The part that stated that fear of success, of how others will relate to our achievements resonates with me.
I look at fear has an emotion that has the ability to control me. Ftom the initial onset of that emotion, I reversed it by practicing positive thinking at all times. Fear of the unknown is also a positive element especially when we are working towards a goal and we are unsure of what the outcome will be. Brilliant post. Thank you for sharing
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DMelB Premium
Thanks Simone, you're right fear of the unknown is definately a big one that most people can relate to. Keeping positive is a must, though sometimes challenging. Thanks for you input, it's very much appreciated.
Success,
Melanie
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