Lost For Words

byCasimir77

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Updated 4 years ago

Recently my friend's son pass away in death, she was so devastated, I just did not know what to say to her, she said that no one should call her or text her she just wanted to be left alone.

I was devastated, I was lost for words, I know she was hurting and that was not her talking, but rather the pain, But because of Covid19 we where not able to go over to her house to encourage her and give her the comfort I know she needed, in other to maintain her strength.

So I did a little research and found a few article on helping those who grieve, after I finish and I send some information to her, I apologies to her, "am sorry for not respecting your wishes but you where on my mind too much, and we love you and miss you and wish we where able to be closer to you to give you more help and comfort."

The next day she called and thank me, for the words of comfort and let me know how she had been benefited from the article, she was happy that I did not listen to her.

So I decided to share some information. Because of the Covid19 so many families are losing love ones and they are lost for word, as to what to say to their love ones, to make them feel better. Or themselves, what they can do to cope with it.

One of the article publish in The American Journal of Psychiatry state that "death is the most obviously permanent and extreme form of loss." Faced with the unbearable pain such a loss brings, one who grieves may wonder; 'How long will these feelings last? Will I ever be happy again? How can I find relief?'

Though we can't take the pain away, we can find ways to lower it. The intensity of grief does not last forever; but little by little the sharp pangs of grief soften, though it might resurface at certain times like anniversaries, certain memory may trigger it, eventually most people come to a point of emotional balance and focus once again on life activity, with the support of friends and family.

Some guidelines are cited, are frequently used by grief counselors and some are found in the Bible.

At times, you may want be alone, that is normal.

But do not completely push friend and family away, you may need their support in the future, that is where balance is needed.

A year ago my friend lost her daughter, there was not much I could say to her, that was her only child, she was devastated, I said a few words of comfort, let her know that she is in my prays and she can come by any time.

She came by the store every morning and just sat there, we did not speak much, but when she wanted to talk I listen, when the feeling overwhelmed her, she despaired in the back I could not do anything at that time but just let her cry, and as time went by her visit was less and less.

Short walk and other form of exercise can help, drink plenty of water, along with a balance diet. Sleep is always important when you are grieving, grief can bring extra fatigue, so by sleeping it helps the body to be able to be energize.

Be flexible, remembering that each one grief differently, Expert have various opinions as to weather ones's feelings are important in the way each one expresses themselves, while others find that expressing some of their feeling helps, others find that crying helps.

As the bible in Proverbs 14:10 "Each heart knows its own bitterness, So learning new skills, or engaging in recreation can be helpful, it could be part of the healing process. Resuming a normal routine for sleep work, and other activities will help in gaining a sense of normalcy .

Avoid Making Big Decision! Try to avoid making important decisions, like discarding your loved one's belongings, moving, changing jobs, in that way you may not have regret later on.

Help keep memory of your love ones alive it could be therapeutic, so by collecting pictures, Momentous will help you create stories you want to recall of them, stores items that trigger good memories is great, because you can always go back to them when you feel the blues coming on.

Even a brief change of pace and scenery, visiting a museum, helping others, they can can give you renew joy and a sense of purpose.

"Better to go to the house of mourning than to the house of feasting, for that is the end of every man, and the living should take it to heart."--Ecclesiastes 7:2.

So by reading this article, am I hoping you can store some information for yourselves or to help comfort love one.

But most importantly remember you are never alone, even Covid19 want to make us feel that way. Your creator is only a heart beat away, just call, yell if you have to he will be by your side.

Much Love