It's Been One Of Those Days!

Last Update: March 18, 2020

Hello WA family! I hope everyone is well, wherever you may be! I wish you all the best. Never have I worked anywhere before, that had such a great community of people to engage and communicate with. I just wanted to acknowledge that upfront.


Oye! What a Day I've Had Today!

You all know from past conversations, that my sister and I take turns caring for my 86 year old mother (with dementia) when her caregiver has time off. Well now we are trying to prepare certain important information to apply for Medicaid for her.

For those who are not familiar with Medicaid it is a program of medical aid designed for those unable to afford regular medical service and financed by the state and federal governments. You may live in a country that has a similar assistance program.


Applying for Medicaid, is a very arduous task. The is a great deal of paperwork involved--you must have some records going back 5 years from the date of application. Applying also costs a great deal of money and whatever money the individual has, must be spent down. The can only have $2,000 in total assets in order to be approved.


Where Is This Going?

Okay, so I know you are asking where I'm going with this. Well I am about to explain.

My sister is my mom's executrix, has power of attorney and has applied through her attorney to be mom's guardian and caregiver, so legally my sister can act on my mom's behalf since she is unable to do so for herself. My sister is also preparing to have my mom live with very shortly.

So, today myself sister calls me and tells me she is going through some paperwork she had found at my mother's house that were needed for the medicaid application, but still needed several documents that she could not find. My sister then texted me a list of the paperwork that was still needed.

This led me to go over to my mom's to hunt for paperwork. I found just about everything that was needed except for a copy of my mom's Medicare card. Medicare is another government program of medical care especially for the aged and people on disability. If you've never heard of or seen a Medicare Card, this is what it look like.



Okay, so the problem starts when I start searching for this card. I know for a fact that it's kept inside my mom's wallet in her purse. Do you think we could find my mom's purse? Nope, not a sign of it. You have to know my mother to understand how the dementia is affecting her actions.

On any given day, my mom can be found with her purse as clutched to her as close as possible for fear that someone will take her money. Well, the ironic part about that is, there is no money in it. Her wallet is in the purse with a few essential cards (Medicare Card) and phony copies of her ID and credit cards so she thinks she hasn't lost them.

Well today the purse is missing and nowhere to be found. I spent over an hour searching high and low, wherever I could think the purse may have been put. As I am doing all this my mom is asking a million questions over and over again about what I was looking for. God help her, she didn't remember even having a purse! No purse at this moment. So I decided to call of the search because mom was beginning to panic and somewhat paranoid.





Meanwhile, my head is spinning from searching for every item my sister had on the list to find, as well as the search for mom's purse. Then, as I am leaving the house, thinking I will go get some food, I realize I don't have my wallet on me either, so stopping for food was now out of the question. I drive carefully home, so as not to be stopped by police without my license or any other identification on me. I make it home, eat a bunch of cookies and an orange I had in the house because I didn't want to go out again, and collapsed on the bed.

Between everything, we have to deal with my mom, coupled with the virus situation and trying to get paper products, I don't know if I'm coming or going! Even PW Chance, my trusted blog assistant decided to sit this one out.




So my good WA family, please forgive me for not responding to as many emails as I should or not interacting and engaging with you on a regular basis, for my mind is occupied to its capacity at the point in time. It's nearly 6 pm here in New Jersey and already I am drifting off to sleep! Need an undisturbed nap to refresh me. I am at high risk for this virus, because my immune system has been compromised by the cancer and the treatment. I need to be extra careful and take care of myself physically and mentally.

I just need a bit of time to clear my head and return my focus to Wealthy Affiliate business.


Thank you all for your support. I love it here at Wealthy Affiliate but at the present time, "Life Stuff" and family have to come first. I know you all can understand that.

I am a person of faith and I would like to offer a prayer for everyone to be safe and be well!


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JeffreyBrown Premium
I hope you got everything sorted Sis! PWC reminds me of the Blog Dogs--they tend to sit many things out! 🙄🙄
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BMcGinley1 Premium
I was able to do what I could get done, however dealing with Mom for even a short period of time is stressful and challenging to say the least. Thursday night during her bed time she called me crying because she couldn't remember how she lost her job...if she was fired or not. I had to calm her down and tried to explain to her that she hadn't worked in over 30 years. And that she wasn't fired, she was awarded SSDI for having a bad kidney.

She didn't remember that and kept asking if she had been fired or should she get up for work the next day.

Sis
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JeffreyBrown Premium
I'm so sorry, Sis! I can't even imagine! 🙏🙏 for you in dealing with this heart wrenching situation!

Brudda!
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BMcGinley1 Premium
My sister is taking Mom later today to live with her, so I will get mom's dog Molly.

Thank you for your prayers and support.
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JeffreyBrown Premium
Always, Sis!
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BMcGinley1 Premium
U da best, Brudda!
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JeffreyBrown Premium
I certainly try, Sis!

Jeff
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BMcGinley1 Premium
😊😊👍👍
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BMcGinley1 Premium
I must've been ridiculously tired when I wrote this blog post. I'm rereading it now and can see all the spelling errors and left out words, etc.

This is one of the reasons why I don't like writing when I'm so tired. I only did so to share with you my experiences if the day.

I promise I will do better next time.

Have a great day, wherever you are.

Barbara.
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heidiph1 Premium
I agree, there are times when family needs to come first and this one certainly qualifies.
Prayers to you as you help your mother and care for other life things right now!

Heidi
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BMcGinley1 Premium
Heidi,

Thank you for your support and understanding!

Barbara
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MElumir Premium
This is a very friendly community everyone is very kind.
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BMcGinley1 Premium
Yes, I know it's the best.
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