The meaning we give to things

What you must realize is that so often you give dis-empowering meanings to things that could be empowering. You see a failure to close a deal as a loss instead of an opportunity to get the better or more relevant deal. You see being in debt as a painful reality instead of the motivation to get you out of debt.

It doesnt matter what happens, it just matters what meaning you give to what happens.

The reason we do this is to avoid our own challenges and to fill our ‘memory bank’ with hundreds of reasons why we cannot succeed. Reasons out of our control. It just becomes a vicious circle.

What we need to understand is that it is our choice as to what meaning we give things. This power of choice is profound beyond measure. You can instantly take control of your life by adjusting the meaning you give to what has happened and what will happen in the future.

I believe it was Maslow who said, "no matter how thin you slice it, there are always 2 sides". Stop looking at the dis-empowering side and ask, what is the other side? What is the blessing in this problem or failure?

Practical Steps:

If you want to transform your life instantly, do this:

1. Write down all the challenges and negative circumstances that have happened or are happening to you right now.
2. Then look at each one and ask how this can serve you instead of hindering you. Write down as many reasons as you can how this will benefit you or others.

I know some of you will read this and think it does not work.. You will allow your little voice in your head to convince you that whatever happened to you cannot serve you and you have no control of it.

So let me end by asking a simple question, if you have no control of what happens to you, who does? Think about it? Are you willing to surrender your life to ‘others’ control or are you prepared to take control back.

All you have to do is change the meaning you give things.