I Don't Wanna be You! WHaa?

Last Update: November 13, 2018

I know, this is not a way to win friends and influence people but I just got to get this off my chest and to defend my position. First off, I don't know who you are but I want you to know,

"I love you!" Yep, it is true.

I like to share with you my growing up experiences I come from a family of 7. Mom and Dad, 3 brothers and a sister. Ages 9, 7, 6 and 5 years older than me, the youngest. Money was tight and my parents struggled to make ends meet.

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there was one thing I remember Mom and Dad would say to us is, "Go school and study hard."

Fast forward I'm a Dad with a daughter and she's now 13 years old. Instead of telling Lyn the same words my parents told me I told her,

"Lyn Mommy and Daddy don't care what you do, all we ask is that you do your best! We don't want you to satisfy us or try to win our approval. Do it for yourself. Be the best you can/want to be. Ah and one more condition, we are don't want you to brag to others, but feel inside of you to be the best you can be. We don't care what you want but do it for yourself but please, do it well. That is all we ask."

For some reason, it stuck with her and now at age 28, she is working a full time job and going night school for her Ph. D degree in English. Am I proud? Heck yeah!

So why all to talk about not wanting to be you!??? Well simple my friend, everybody are provided brain cells, you didn't come to this earth to shadow me. No, no, NO! Rejoice and celebrate that you can and will blaze your own path to whatever you aim to be and strive for.

Do it for yourself, because brother if you follow someone you just might regret it!

Looking back WA members my talk with her was "cheap" no other actions needed. To me, I don't understand why some parents "miss-it." Watch your kids with interest and if they're into something that appears productive and useful, 'Stay the heck away!"

Just my opinion folks, you can disagree, I understand every circumstances requires different parental choices, but this has worked for me and wife, hope it can help you too.


You have experiences, I would love to hear it!


Mahalo and Aloha and remember I love you too!


frank

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MiaL Premium Plus
Thanks for sharing Frank.
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Thank you Mia, same back to you!

Frank =)
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Happy2Learn Premium
Good on you Frank. We are lucky to have you in the community. Thanks for sharing.
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Thank you Glenys,

I am lucky to have you around, watcha talking about!?? =)

Your support and positives means a lot to me my dear friend!

Mahalo and Aloha! OHH and happy Holidays!

Frank
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dragonfly10 Premium Plus
I agree with you wholeheartedly. I chose to homeschool my child, with an accredited Washington homeschool program. The program is offered for free as any other public school. This program is in most states in the USA. The most significant difference with these programs is they run year around. The average student in the US gets 120 weeks off for summer school, over 12 years plus all the teachers days and numerous other days off. I was blessed with a child that loved to learn and went to school year round. Even with family vacations and Christmas and Spring days off, he managed to graduate by age 14 from high school. He even earned a full 4-year academic scholarship. If we tell all our children from day one do your best, it is they will amaze you. Great post.
Sandy
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Wow that is so nice to hear your son accomplished what most parents can only envy. Awesome Sandy.

I know you are so proud of your son, 14 years old and a full scholarship from a Univ./College.

Great to hear your wonderful story Sandy! Thank you for agreeing with my view. And I thought very few would understand what I experience. To tell you the truth Sandy, looking back I would've thought it would be more "complex" to direct a child to do good, then simply to tell her to "do your best."

Why I know it is true? Because this is what happened, true life story.

Thank you Sandy, I really appreciate you sharing what a wonderful story!


Mahalo!

Frank
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dragonfly10 Premium Plus
Your so welcome Mahalo, I think a lot of the problems are our schools, they do except enough of the children. In so many ways the system holds them back. It's parents like yourself that compensate for the school downfalls. And will be as excited as you when my child is working on his Ph.D. I went to school in Switzerland, so I had a very different attitude about schools in general. Congratulations to you and your daughter. Earning my Ph.D. was the hardest thing I ever did. I major in Nursing.
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Thank you sharing Sandy. I'm not sure I read this on your profile. Awesome. Your parents are so proud of you and know your son will make you proud too.

I think when I child earns that degree it;ll put a tearful smile on both my wife and me.

Thank you for sharing again Sandy! Your son will put a smile on yours too, I just know it!


Mahalo and Aloha Sandy, great story.


Frank =)
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Karin13 Premium
You got it right, Frank! We have to be ourselves. Trying to be someone else just does not work! Thanks for sharing a bit about you!

Best wishes,
Karin :)
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Thank you back Karin, y'know you and all the members have thought me a lot here, I appreciate that.

Mahalo again for being there Karin!

Frank =)
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DBlanchard Premium Plus
Great life lesson there my brother 🙂 I tell my daughter pretty much the same thing!
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Thanks Denis, btw, I been sharing the poster with anyone who needs guidance. I don't tell them I just share that poster from your post and guess what?

They love it. So far 3 have responded positively my brother.

Your words are spreading. hee hee ....nice!


Frank
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DBlanchard Premium Plus
I have printed a copy and it's now on my wall! 🙂
I just love that quote!
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Yeah, this one will not be unnoticed by anybody at WA that knows value. Watch closely to those who do videos you might find your message on their walls. lols!

Going forward, I don't think any newbie shouldn't have this on their wall.

Mahalo!

Frank
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