I Don't Wanna be You! WHaa?
I know, this is not a way to win friends and influence people but I just got to get this off my chest and to defend my position. First off, I don't know who you are but I want you to know,
"I love you!" Yep, it is true.
I like to share with you my growing up experiences I come from a family of 7. Mom and Dad, 3 brothers and a sister. Ages 9, 7, 6 and 5 years older than me, the youngest. Money was tight and my parents struggled to make ends meet.
there was one thing I remember Mom and Dad would say to us is, "Go school and study hard."
Fast forward I'm a Dad with a daughter and she's now 13 years old. Instead of telling Lyn the same words my parents told me I told her,
"Lyn Mommy and Daddy don't care what you do, all we ask is that you do your best! We don't want you to satisfy us or try to win our approval. Do it for yourself. Be the best you can/want to be. Ah and one more condition, we are don't want you to brag to others, but feel inside of you to be the best you can be. We don't care what you want but do it for yourself but please, do it well. That is all we ask."
For some reason, it stuck with her and now at age 28, she is working a full time job and going night school for her Ph. D degree in English. Am I proud? Heck yeah!
So why all to talk about not wanting to be you!??? Well simple my friend, everybody are provided brain cells, you didn't come to this earth to shadow me. No, no, NO! Rejoice and celebrate that you can and will blaze your own path to whatever you aim to be and strive for.
Do it for yourself, because brother if you follow someone you just might regret it!
Looking back WA members my talk with her was "cheap" no other actions needed. To me, I don't understand why some parents "miss-it." Watch your kids with interest and if they're into something that appears productive and useful, 'Stay the heck away!"
Just my opinion folks, you can disagree, I understand every circumstances requires different parental choices, but this has worked for me and wife, hope it can help you too.
You have experiences, I would love to hear it!
Mahalo and Aloha and remember I love you too!