Reflection on parenting these days
What does children need?
Warmth and love, and someone to listen to them.
In our advanced world children are exposed to stimuli and distractions at a time. Television commercials, advertisements in the street,in the net, at violence computer games, in their parents' smart phone or their tablet and iPad etc etc...Whther they own a smart phone or not.
I think that that one of the results is lack of concentration, and the ability to create a real connection.
I come from the Old World where Chat is something you do with someone who stands in front of you, where Like is a pat on the back of a friend, and a Comment is beeing said. To our children all that is really unclear and could even be misconstrued. They can be World champions technologyst,but will grow up to be adults who lack basic emotional capabilities. Roughly, and I'm not a professional in the field, HDAD is not a disease or disorder, it is simply the result of a culture that we have become.
One of the biggest tasks of parents today in my opinion, beyond to ensure the safety of children and providing education and good values, is, developing their ability to concentrate.
I would like a little sin of pride, when I say that my heart overflows when I see my children intently reading a book, listening to music attentively and more .. thankfully we do not have a TV at home and it's just great. There is no competition for our attention, unwanted content remains outside, and home is much more relaxed. My big daughter came back home yesterday, shocked from the speed which things on TV running . I was happy in my heart that this is so. But not relaxed about the future...
So much for my thoughts
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First of all, I have had many mistakes as a mother to learn from. Parenting is not an easy job and it was not designed to be. A parent goes through many decisions as their children are growing up. Some are successful decisions and some are failures. That is a good thing. We need to recognise that we need to fail sometimes at things when we are trying to build a parent relationship with our children in a world where every signal is exactly the opposite. You do not have TV and I feel that is a step in the right direction. Even the commercials are challenging these days. Headlines on the news are about enough. Nobody really knows what is right and what is wrong. It is all about the way you see something. That is right, we all as individual humans have different perspectives about everything. So what about parenting. It is all about what you build the foundation on. The problem with that is what is the right building material? We need to model appropriate behavior. We need to be truthful always to our children. Not even a white lie gets buy because no lie is of the truth. Kind of reminds me of the deceptiveness of this time of year. I can totally identify with it. It took me 2 years to finally quit justifying and finally admit that telling my children there was a Santa Claus was a lie. But this is the only time during the year that some families choose to get together. Get together and tell lies to children....think about it.
I am certainly not putting anyones beliefs down as they are probably doing the same thing and the same traditions that have been passed down from generation to generation, but think about truth.
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A very wise post.
Thank you for sharing this. As a father of 3 kids I completely agree with you! Spot on!
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs, my children loved the out doors and activities which I am glad to say they do with their own children, we also had boundries, family meeting were all could get a chance to say their bit about anything that was troubling them etc, good values and manners are an essential part to, it is not enough to just say we love them we need to help them grow into the best they can be