Beating the competition!
Hello everyone! I've been reading as many posts as I have time to as well as seeking out new members to follow. There are soooo many good people here with I don't know how many more joining each day! Many are hopeful to get rich while others are wanting to share their experiences or find friends. Still others are looking to earn an income in a world where it is becoming increasingly difficult to earn a living the "traditional" way with a 9 - 5 job. To those of you who have come to WA seeking a better life and to help others live a better life . . . I solute you!
I just joined WA a couple of weeks ago, but I have received so much from members already, and now it is my turn to offer what I can.
I would like to address the issue of dealing with the competition. This is something that I have a good bit of experience in, and so would like to share what I've learned.
William Shakespeare wrote, "This above all, to thine own self be true."
We all have some things in common, and one of those things is a sense of competitiveness. Everyone is competitive. It's human nature. Naturally, we humans look to the abilities of others to gauge (or judge) how we ourselves are doing. Again . . . this is only natural. Even if we deny it . . . we all do it. However, I have found the flaw in that method. You see . . . when we compare ourselves to others, we will always have a false sense of who we are and of how we are doing. There will always be someone faster, slower, taller, shorter, smarter, dumber, lighter, darker, heavier, lighter . . .
By comparing ourselves to others, we will either have a false sense of superiority, or more likely . . . a false sense of inferiority. Why is it that we more often feel that we aren't good enough, or at least not as good as others rather than feeling that we are better?
It doesn't matter. The question is a moot point. We can never be what someone else is. and they can never be what we are. Competing with others only leads to a life of insanity.
So . . . what is the answer?
This I've learned from my students: that the fear of not being good enough and the consequential responses that fear brings, such as trying too hard or not trying at all, steals away our joy and our success.
I am seeing the same thing in many members here at WA. The fear to get started is stealing away your success. There is good news! The answer is simple, and you can change your life to a very successful life right now.
Like I've stated, and you know to be true, humans have a competitive spirit. We can't stop or change that. However, we can change who we are competing with. Again, when we compete with others, we will always have a false sense of ourselves. So, the person you MUST compare yourself to is the person YOU used to be . . . 5 minutes ago . . . 5 hours ago . . . 5 days ago . . . By honestly comparing yourself to the person you used to be, you can improve constantly, and this "constant improvement" is the definition of success.
We all want to be successful, but what does that mean? I have discovered that we can't have things that we don't know about or understand. So, what is success?
Earl Nightingale said, "Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal."
Let's break that down into bite sized pieces.
"Progressive" - Easy. Progressive is always getting better at something.
"Realization" - A bit more complex - Think about this - everything begins in the mind. This writing was created in my mind. The computer that I am using - and all of it's peripherals - was first created in someone's mind. Everything we see, touch, or feel was created first in someone's mind before being "realized". The "realization" of something is the process of getting the idea from inside the mind into a tangible object that can be shared by others.
So, the "progressive realization" is always getting better at taking your ideas out of your mind and materializing them so that others can enjoy what you have created. Doing this takes education and experience. That is the one great thing that I love about WA. We are part of a community of people sharing knowledge and experience that empowers each other to express ourselves fully.
"Worthy" - To be worthy is to be something of value. But not just monetary value. It must be useful to others to be truly worthy. And even more than that . . . it must be worth our time. Time is the one thing we have only an instant of. The only moment that counts is this one.
"Ideal" - What is "ideal"? What is your ideal career? Ideal companion? Ideal vacation? It's the best of what you can think of.
To summarize, success is always getting better at taking the very best of your ideas out of your mind and presenting them in a way that is worth someone's time to experience them.
I once had a student who said that their idea of success is to be a "somebody". That is to say that they wanted to be somebody important . . . like the president or the Pope.
In my experience . . . if you truly want to be a "somebody", be a somebody to somebody else. Stretch out your hand and touch the lives of as many as you can. Let them know that they are worthy of the most precious thing you have . . . your time.
Before I sign off for now, I just want to say that I hope this little message helps you to realize that you are worthy. Don't hold it in. Let people know who you are. Have fun in the sharing. Don't worry about how you compare to others. Just keep doing what you are doing and you will get better at it. If you get stuck . . . stretch out your hand and ask for help. We are here for you!!
Peace - William
Education is all about self discovery,
learning about who you are,
what you know
and what you need to know
to be the person you want to be.
It enables a person to express themselves
freely and completely without frustration.
We must have sufficient education
in order to
our innermost desires.
- William E. Hearn©