Is Your Child or Someone You Know A Bully?

Last Update: August 22, 2018

There are two sides to bullying... the one being bullied and the one doing the bullying.

I am very aware that oftentimes adults or those in authority of a child are the ones doing the bullying. But, too many times that bully is just a child himself.

Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. Both male and female. There is no definite look that makes a child a bully. But there are signs and symptoms that we have to be on the lookout for.

In many cases, when a child is displaying the signs and symptoms of being a bully, it is really an very loud cry for help. A child who is a bully doesn't need to be hated, he/she needs to be helped! Statistics show that a child who is allowed to continue on his way as a bully will often times turn to drugs and alcohol abuse, get into more trouble with unlawful behavior, and often end up in prison.

So, what are the signs to look for in our children and grandchildren?

  • Difficulty controlling anger
  • Justifying bad behavior
  • Getting into trouble at school
  • Strong aggression towards siblings
  • Behavioral problems such as being hot-tempered, easily frustrated, impulsive, prone to fighting, lack of empathy towards others, brags about fighting
  • Manipulative and controlling of others and situations
  • Consistently blames others for his/her behavior
  • Refusing to accept responsibility for his actions
  • Exceedingly competitive; absolutely has to win or be the best
  • Someone who witnesses explosions of anger in other people

You may be asking, what can we do to help? It is never easy to see and acknowledge that our child may have a problem. But, if we do see our child displaying several of these signs, the most loving thing we can do is admit it, address it, and possibly seek help from a qualified professional.

Please remember the suicide statisitcs that I gave you in yesterday's post,

Is Your Child Being Bullied?

It is much easier to confront a problem head on while there is still a chance to fix it, rather than do nothing and wait for tragedy to strike our families.

Let's fight the good fight of keeping our children happy, healthy, and strong!!


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kpercival55 Premium
Thanks Wendi!
This is a tough situation no matter which way you’re involved.
I know it has been happening as long as there have been children but seems to have gotten out of hand in recent years.
Good to know the warning signs to resolve before it goes too far.
Bless you for addressing the tough subjects.
Kyle Ann
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WendaSue Premium
Thanks Kyle Ann. This one was tough.
All the best,
Wendi
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LloydNelson1 Premium
Thanks for an excellent blog.

Lloyd
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WendaSue Premium
Thanks so much for taking the time to read it and leave a nice comment. I really appreciate it.
Wendi
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LloydNelson1 Premium
You are very welcome WendaSue.
Lloyd
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MojalefaR Premium
Children are just too precious to lose to such behavior. We have to be vigilant and, as you say, accept the behavior if it is from our own.

Awesomeness!
Mojalefa.
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WendaSue Premium
So true. Thanks so much
Wendi
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lesabre Premium
Thanks for the share. Read something similar about a week ago.
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WendaSue Premium
Yeah, this one is a Part 2 to the one I wrote the other day.
All the best,
Wendi
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MKearns Premium
Have gone through it with my 17-year-old grandson. he is surviving and pleasantly interacting Wendi!
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WendaSue Premium
That's wonderful news, Mike. Sounds like he had a great support system at home. Good job. So happy for you guys.
All the best,
Wendi
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