Changing your relationship with money
Growing up I always liked money.
I had a piggy bank and always used to love counting it when it was full.
I always saved all of the pocket money I received and dreamed of one day owning a beautiful home.
However my family was never rich growing up.
I was raised by a single-Mother who worked as a cleaner at the local hospital.
I watched her working hard to pay off our little two-bedroom house, but I never felt that I was poor or that I was missing out on anything.
But I also heard all of these sayings about the rich and money.
If someone was perceived to be well off my Mum used to say “He’s got more money than a bull can s#$t”
It used to make me laugh, but I now realise that it definitely didn’t leave me with a wealthy mindset.
Like most people, when I left school I went out into the workforce and resigned myself to working the next forty years or so, and then to one day retire… hopefully with a few dollars saved up!
Hardly an abundant lifestyle!
Finally, when I was in my mid-thirties I realised that I was just coasting through life.
I was doing “okay” financially, but realistically I was looking at working another twenty or thirty years in this job that I didn’t like.
Even then I wasn’t sure if I would have enough money for retirement.
But then something happened that changed my life.
I read a book called “Rich Dad Poor Dad” and this completely changed the way I had been thinking about money and investing.
This started my journey into personal development and becoming financially fluent.
At first things were not exactly working.
I bought some investment properties, got into a mountain of debt, got some bad advice, made some mistakes and cash flow was becoming a real issue.
But then I realised that it was my old programming about money that was holding me back, and I was essentially sabotaging my own success.
All of this was subconscious of course.
But through a lot of personal development work I discovered that we all have a “financial blueprint”.
A certain level of comfort with the amount of money that we get to earn and to keep.
If we earn too much we tend to blow it.
Too little and we will soon start making up the shortfall.
Just like a thermostat in a room that will kick in at a certain temperature.
Eventually I uncovered my old self-limiting beliefs that were holding me back.
I started to change them and began to develop an abundant mindset.
Eventually, my road led me to WA and starting my online business.
Kyle touches on the beginnings of it when he mentions in some of the training's, that our primary focus should be on helping people instead of focusing on 'selling' when we write our copy for our sites.
Even just talking openly about this topic, may help some of us a lot to get through to 'understanding' our own subconscious beliefs. Any ideas here how to do this?
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Awareness is the first step. So many people have hangups around money and "rich people" and they just don't realise it.
Escaping our past programming is very difficult. Even when I speak to my Mother these days, I hear these negative statements coming up, but I can now recognise it, and choose to disregard it.
The only way to change is to keep working on your own personal development and money mindset by reading books, listening to audios, going to seminars and surrounding yourself with people with a positive outlook and similar mindset.
This is so important in my opinion, that it is a core element of my business.
Change your mindset and you change your life :-)
I love that you put this up for discussion. Thank you so much!
I have been trying to figure out this exact question since the "secret" was introduced. I have tried many of the 'methods' out there to uncover the 'why' or 'what' are my believes that constantly self-sabotage. So what method did you use?
My most recent attempt was a Consciousness Bars session with a local person. (Similar to Reiki). The reason I went to this level was because I feel like I have tried all of the "digging" methods out there already.
However, my daughter has always said this. You may clear your spiritual, mental, and emotional bodies of your subconscious negativity, but you must also release the negative memories from your physical body. The body itself with the Cellluar Memory stores all info.
I have felt some changes since the session but am still self-sabotaging. Any advice here?
My wife's Grandmother is 88 and recently taught herself how to use an Ipad and has even tracked down some long lost relatives. A TV station here in Australia is going to interview her.
Two great books I would recommend reading are Thinks and Grow Rich and Secrets of the Millionaire Mind.
It is never too late! :-)
