A affair of the heart.
Anybody that know,s anything about me here would probably say I am quite open.With that said I was wanting a little advice,maybe some of you guys has been in a similar situation,before anybody gets on the high horse and tells me that this is really not the place to air your personal life,it is a bit of advice I am after.I don,t see that I am doing anything wrong.
My story is I was asked to play the piano at a school concert,my old primary school.Although the teacher Mr Irwin is a pretty good pianist,it leaves him free to conduct the children and keep the correct with their words,well with me having been in the gay world along time ago,I found myself slightly attracted to him.Now let me explain my nephew goes to the school and is taught by Mr Irwin,he comes to our house on Wednesday and I wanted to pick him to see if he knew anything of his teacher.I asked Rory did he know where he lived,he told me Bangor but I found it through face book that he lives in Portaferry,that is a lot closer to the school.My friend Heather also works in the school as a cleaner and would be friendly with Mr Irwin,she is almost certain he is single,I have to say that by looking at his face book page it does not give his status.
I suppose to him I could just be the guy who plays for music concerts and is thinking of nothing else,for all I know he could be in a relationship or could be married.I did connect with him on face book and he said he was happy for me to chat with him,sometimes people like to keep things professional but he said it was ok to chat.I suppose all I can do is chat with him when he is online and take it one step at a time,what I do know is he does keep things professional,chatting about school or just general topics but I know I am excited when he is online and was let down the last two nights because he was not.
I,myself would be quite insecure and this is a typical trait of a lot of gay men,I do know I am attracted to him but I am kind of feeling that I may be looking up to him because he is good to chat to,and also he is well grounded.It,s kind of like that warm feeling you get inside when you once dated,I have not been dating for a long time and I think sometimes that is what I am lost for,I feel that I want something meaningful but I am not sure whether he is it.
I would imagine that more women will reply to this message as it is more up their street.Is there a way to show I am keen on him,I don,t want to blow it so I don,t want to jump in with both feet.A little advice from an experienced person might help.Many thanks for reading.Mark..........
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gosh Mark it is a delicate matter for sure, I take it he is also gay and if he is perhaps you can suggest a meetup for a coffee to discuss about music or something you share in common be the friend first and see how it goes, perhaps there will be a guy who can give his view, I have a brother who is gay so kind of know that is can be difficulty for you
Hi Katie.Thanks for replying,he is not interested in me in that way.He said that he values me and because he teaches my nephew he thinks it best for us all to get along.I have to respect his decision,he,like myself am a lone wolf but at least now I won,t be getting too excited when I see him on face book.At least I can put my thoughts and energy into something,else.I just wanted to know how I stood,to see if they were any chance.Oh by the way I did ask him was he gay,I should have told you that at the very beginning,he said whether he was or not should not matter and then he started to talk about keeping it professional.So that,s it,thanks again for replying Katie.Hope you are well.
I am sure there will be someone that will come along when the time is right, take care and I wish you well
I am glad he said he wants to keep it professional. It would be a shame if you spoiled your opportunity to play at more concerts or possibly teach some children from the school the piano.
And Katie is right - someone who is right for you will come along...
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Nice post, listen to katie.