NEVER Let Anyone Define You!
Don’t ever let anyone define you or tell you! I was contemplating my life the other night, and what a God send WA has become! I know how cheesy that sounds, but it’s true for so many different reasons! Right now I found myself engaging in my own personal development without being aware of what I am really doing. I think a lot about what I have done in the past about that I have allowed to define me. I have always been the foster child, a ward of the state, then a wife, then a mother.
Part of my reflections I had about who I am today goes back to the past and who I was then! The abuse my parents inflicted on me went deep, until at 12 years of age they abandoned me to be on my own! The stupid stuff I did just to survive, and how I had to grow up and become a mini adult at 8 years of age! The words they said to me then, “You will never amount to anything!” Those same words haunt me today! I am an introvert, and I don’t trust easy or get too close to people, but I always had a dream! I would show my parents wrong! The desire to step out and become an entrepreneur and successful has always been inside of me but I never allowed it to come to light because of those words ringing in my head. The fact that who I was in the past does not mean that I have to continue to be that same person.
The people who knew me as that scared little girl and then that tough teenager who did anything to survive out there in the world might have difficulties in viewing my new role as a true entrepreneur. I learned that I needed control in my life, as I never had it growing up! I made schedules and followed routines. The mentality that I had was being certain and predictable in my actions on a daily basis would give me that control that I never had growing up. As an entrepreneur, I have to put myself in a totally different role of uncertainty and unpredictability. The only thing that you can predict is that if you don't do income generating activities on a daily basis you will not succeed. I will NOT prove my parents right!
We must not let people from the past dictate who we become in the future. The fact that the people who knew me as that shy, scared person in the past does not mean that I have to present this new improved self with my head hung down. The lessons that we learn from our past, and the people who have influenced us can send us back to reflect on who we are as a person. Personal development is really something that we should continuously work on constantly. We must pay attention and listen to our heart and take action. Our thoughts are what leads to our success, but only if we act on them. Procrastination is the only major factor that may stop you from moving to the next chapter in your life. The book of life is always changing and it is up to you to be a part of the big picture in implementing these changes. What in your past that is defining and continues to define you?
P.S Sorry this post is a little more serious than my other ones!
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I understand exactly what you're saying because the message you were being given was that you're not ok. Congratulations for learning to overcome your own obstacles and making a place for yourself
Because I grew up with a disability during an era when society didn't recognize its disability community. For me, it was like waving a red flag in front of me and daring me to prove them wrong
The only difference I'm an extrovert and talk to everyone and make friends easily. I had friends that gave me the encouragement and support that I didn't get from home.
By studying Psychology and Mental Health I learned to overcome many obstacles on my own and then when I couldn't find gainful employment I struck out on my own and made my own opportunities
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This is an awesome post and truly from your heart, I tell you often, but never often enough I am so proud of what you are doing here at WA. Terry you will succeed, I know it, because you have the drive and desire to do so, just don't get discouraged along the way. Much Love. -Carl
awwww..thank you Carl!! That means a lot! :)