The Opposing Doctors - choose carefully

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Updated 4 years ago

Deliberate Practice vs. Doubtful

Do you recall many instances from your own life?

You wanted to ask that beautiful girl out for a date. But you didn’t.

You wanted that boss-less lifestyle. But you didn’t get it.

You had an amazing business idea of making money. But somebody else made it.

You were just a step away from that promotion at work. But you didn’t make it.

Do you realise what you were missing?

Do you realize why this was happening?

There are some common themes among all those situations mentioned up there.

It is Doubt.

Self-doubt.

It is a lack of deliberateness or discipline.

Yes, what I am talking about now is doubt and deliberateness or deliberate practice.

Doubt is defined as “a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction.”

Now, let us dissect it

Feeling - this is to do with our behaviour, arising with our thoughts which I discussed in the “BELIEF” blog.

Uncertain - Not certain, unsure of

Lack of conviction - lacking own belief.

Put together - “it is the culmination of our thoughts, body language and emotions all in congruence, but working against us” on a particular task.

Deliberation is defined as “done consciously and intentionally” or “engage in long and careful consideration”

Do you remember the dialogue from a popular movie, goes like this,

“Put on your jacket, Take off your jacket… everything is kung-fu” (Click to watch)

The Deliberate Practice can be broken into four steps. Below picture depicts it clearly.

I started my real IT career in August 1992. I hardly had any background in IT training, but it was more of getting my first job and building a career out of it, so I jumped at the opportunity. Three months into the job, not much of success and no bad remarks either, just floating around. My training class had working class students whose mind bend was towards professional improvement and hence I did not face any issues.

After three months, I had to replace my colleague who went on leave to teach her classes. The students were real college/school students whose mindset was totally different and needed different psychological methods/toolset to support and train them. The management was told that I was their worst faculty member. That whole weekend was ruined very badly.

That weekend was an opportunity as well in a different way.

I found a used book copy of “How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.” The next 90 days went into practicing the skills that are taught in that book. I was lucky not to look out for resources to practice those skills. I already had the platform - the classroom and the raw materials were available to me - PEOPLE. I had to just execute plans on a daily basis on a Plan, Do, Check and Adjust loop.

I used to teach anywhere between 8-10 hours a day (not exaggerating). It used to be 6 days a week. I used to work on Sundays as well. Without anybody’s force. Hope you can sense the passion.

The results were outstanding. When I joined this training organisation, I could hardly remember people’s names. In two years time, 1994, when I left the company, I knew 800+ students by their names and face and background pretty well. I knew most of their parents as well by name and face. I was a faculty of choice. I moved to another bigger company in 1994.

I just wanted to impress upon you that, all that I discussed here is all of common sense,

1. Make time to pick your goals or purpose.
2. Chalk out a plan, step by step, (WA already defines it)
3. Execute one Action step at a time, learn from the response, adjust and repeat it.

Do all this without doubting your own selves and practicing and progressing deliberately towards your goals.

Leap to your greatness

Embrace the struggle

To your success.