Personal Development. Is it the real Thing?

Last Update: May 24, 2020


I am relatively new to personal development, starting in earnest about 6 or 7 years ago. I genuinely wish that I was aware a lot earlier. I've attended many seminars and webinars listened to tapes and audios, read countless books and listened to podcasts. I get up most mornings at 4.00, write out my affirmations and goals, write down 10 things I am grateful for and then study through to approx. 6.30.

They say somebody like me is a good candidate because I haven’t been doing it long enough to create bad habits. This what I have learnt so far.

Failure. The best feedback ever.

Since starting this journey I have made so many mistakes. The mistakes have been good. Firstly I know I am trying and secondly it gives me the opportunity to course correct. It is only through the pain and discomfort that we grow and achieve. Our struggles push us out of our comfort zones and into new experiences that we dared not try before-and so we develop.

Environment matters.

We need to put ourselves in an environment that supports our growth. Environment
undeniably helps when our willpower fails. We are very much products of the people we hang around with. The conditions and infrastructure around us drive both our good and bad behaviors, and when we acknowledge and understand that fact, then we are able to align ourselves with a favorable environment.

We also have to admit that some people are just not good for us. As much as we may love
someone negative or self-destructive, they will put us down the second we do something for
ourselves. I am still friends, but from a distance, with of a group of mates that were completely negative. The best thing I ever did.

What did I want to change?

It all starts with the mind. There is no personal growth unless we acknowledge this. We also have to recognize that we have two minds; the conscious and the subconscious-and that
our subconscious mind dictates our behavior most of the time. Therefore, in order to adopt a new behavior, we have to rebuild our subconscious mind.

Since joining WA I have learnt about blogs. The writing of blogs is a wonderful reinforcement of what I have learnt. I’ve built a new world of learning. Not as a writer but as a better student. My personal development journey has been one of new beliefs and thoughts that continues to build a new world for me. WA is a new member of my team.

Think long-term.

If we switch to thinking in the long-term, then patience and perseverance become who we
are. There is a certain inner satisfaction that comes when we take our time to do things
without cutting corners. We recognize that not everything has to happen today, but in the
back of our mind we are also aware that it does have to happen, sooner or later.

My comfort zone.

Action is required to build a new world. In fact action is a major factor in any growth. WA provides another action pathway that provides momentum to move to greater heights out of your comfort zone. It provides additional support in overcoming your fears and obstacles. At worst the work you do provides a distraction from interfering paradigms and a blast through stale pathways and behavioral patterns. There is something magical and expansive about committing to action.

Create consistency.

Creating consistency allows us to feel more content in the long run, regardless of the immediate outcome. It creates predictability which provides a supply of smaller happy moments that support our sense of well-being. WA provides that same sense of purpose through the training and even the desire to maintain or improve your rank.

Consistency allows us to become more productive without the burden of a big goal hanging around our neck.

Detach from results.

Don’t focus on your results. Do what you love. Go for your goals. But, detach from the results. If you focus on the results you will continue to get the same results. Detach from the
fruits of your actions. We can only control our actions-not their outcomes. But we should
never, never detach from our actions.

We are all different and therefore look for different remedies and solutions. The important thing is that you are genuine, you start and you maintain your persistence and discipline. If you are not genuine don’t start. Personal development tactics do work. I have grown in all aspects of my life and am a better person.

Have a great day.

Stephen.

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LMH1968 Premium Plus
I have been studying for 5 years and my life changed completely when I learned to be grateful.
If I think negative thoughts, I stop immediately and think of something positive.
My positive for covid 19 is I have been here in WA for the last 10 weeks and it has been a god send. Learning, creating and being part of a wonderful community.
Kind regards
Lisa
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sbarrow4 Premium
Lisa, thank you for your interest and involvement. Application is always the issues with those sneaky old paradigms hanging around. I try and focus on my awareness. so like you i become positive again.
Have a great day
Stephen.
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GazBower Premium
Well my first response is, may you continue to grow and develop the environment you desire and deserve.
Secondly you have been a great help to me personally. The material you sent me has started me on the journey you started 6 or 7 years ago. I can feel that something is different and a new level of optimism is growing.
After the first read through of the Wallace D Wattles book, I can see a brighter future even in the current uncertain situation.
So a personal word of thanks from me for sharing what you have learnt over the years.

Best wishes
Gaz
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sbarrow4 Premium
Gaz, thank you. You will find the journey wonderful. Remember to be honest no matter how hard it may seem at the time. Always happy to share my wins and losses. Remember to pat yourself on the back as you grow.
have a great day
Stephen.
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Babou3 Premium
Totally agree, personal development is the best way to move forward with serenity. It is by knowing ourselves better that we understand that our mistakes are also a wealth because success is made up of lots of mistakes and failures. It is those who do nothing who never fail and never make mistakes.

Ingrid
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sbarrow4 Premium
Thanks Ingrid for your support and interest. Growth is important and you wont grow until you know yourself.
Have a great day.
Stephen
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Kilife Premium
I agree 100% Stephen. I'm extremely grateful for you taking the time to share these insights into personal developement with us all.

And you know how important being grateful for things is!

Your sentiments echo my own and WA is a great place to be. Thanks to the positivity of the community I always leave this forum feeling better.

I hope you have a great day, I'm pretty sure you will.

Regards, Graham.
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sbarrow4 Premium
Thanks Graham for your support and interest.
have a great day
Stephen
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RYAJeremy Premium
Brillant work Sbarrow. I to have been studying Prsonal Develompent for a while spending thousands on Tony Robbins and so on years ago and so on. But its amazing how much Environment influnces things. I have managed to put myself in such a poor environment during coroña lockdown everything has stopped dead. Living with ex mental institutes in a horrible house.
So now I have to raise my standards, and make things happen taking massive action to get out of it and back on track. Aligning to a better environment.
It's nice having a computer there suggesting you should do things but a computer mentor is simply not good enough people and environments need to be real. Surrounding yourself with similar high achieving motivators. Not people that sleep in till lunch time.
Another reason why Church life is successful. Loving, caring givers that support one another that are real. (Unfortunately Corona has slowed that a little at the moment too.)
Thanks Sbarrow.
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sbarrow4 Premium
Thanks heaps for your interest and support. the journey is full of ups and downs. As long as you are heading in the right direction, that's all that matters.
have a great day
Stephen
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RYAJeremy Premium
Yes of course. It's interesting when you notice, learn and grow from what is going on. But of course growing takes Action a must.
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