A Time of Reflection
So lately, I've really been trying to not resist this onslaught of bad events that has been happening to me, and I'll admit, I've been somewhat unsuccessful. I just need to keep in mind that I'm not fully out of this state of complete and utter failure.
You might be reading this and not fully comprehend or understand what I'm even talking about. It has to do with my beliefs, and my beliefs aren't very popular but it's because everything I believe in goes against pretty much any mode of self-help that there is. My beliefs are pretty simple, I believe that there is a God, but I don't believe in a God as an actual being, but more or less a collective conciousness of beings like you and I. Essentially, I believe Source or God is seeking God. In other words, the whole reason for our existence is to know more about ourselves basically (since we're each a "part" of God).
So in saying that, I also believe that our physical, mental, and spiritual are all the same. Sure, the spirit and the physical reside in different dimensions, but to look at this from say a 5th or 6th dimensional perspective, you'll see that all of who we are is one complete entity instead of the seperation of such.
I also believe in following your emotions, because it's your emotions that are like that of a guidance system. They will lead you to happiness, but you have to know how to follow them the correct way.
I've been having a hard time lately, not just with my relationships but with Wealthy Affiliate in general. I've been having a hard time at work, and I've only made 17 cents on WA so far. My latest post on my website, as controversial as it was, I had to post because I don't believe in posting something for the sake of drawing my audience necessarily. There are certain tactics I use to draw my audience, and sometimes I'll talk about stuff most people would keep quiet, but for the most part I'm very transparent to my readers. I think I would do my readers more of a disservice if I posted something that was a commonly held belief then to just be upfront and honest with them about how I felt about things.
I checked my Google Analytics not too long ago, I lost a lot of traffic, and it's probably all due to this one stupid post. It's just infuriating is all. But I know what's going on.
What's going on is, I'm not in alignment with myself. I've created this negative part in my life, and it hasn't manifested itself till now. So, in order to undo the negative, I have to literally become that negative emotion till it goes away on its own. Don't get the wrong idea I don't do drugs or pop pills or anything when I'm in this state. No, instead I become the very emotion that is with me now. Right now, that emotion is failure, and as much as I don't want to be failure, I have to be failure.
Something most people don't understand is how my spirituality works. Whenever I'm feeling down, instead of doing what most people do which is to try to replace the negative thought with a postive thought, if a negative thought occurs, I instead sink with it. And why you might ask? Because trying to replace a negative thought with a positive thought is a form of resistance. It's no different then running away from a hurricane. Sure, you might be safe for a little while if you try to resist from being unhappy, but eventually that same issue is going to pop up again, and in some cases it'll be more pronounced. I've built up this negativity for so long, so instead of trying to run away from being a failure, I now have to become failure. What this actually does is, not only does the negativity leave, but you will no longer attract people who consider themselves failures.
When we go through hard times, and we become the very emotion we don't want to be, we are going through a state of purification. We're purifying ourselves so that we can become one with ourselves again.
Things might be rough right now, but if I let my emotions take me to whereever it is I need to go, I know I'll eventually get to where I need to be.
Just needed to talk about it. Back to being a failure
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Hi Jake. I looked a little bit at your relationship website and thought that it was very nice. I wish you good luck on everything.
I guess it is like when someone is brokenhearted they listen to sad songs, and look at old photos and rehash everything that was ever said, or should have been said or could have been said and seem to just keep tearing the scab off over and over. They do it until they don't feel it so much anymore and can move on. We all deal with things in our own way. Here is a present for you for when you are ready: “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” - Henry Ford
The only way you can fail is to quit, and anyway you have to look for the brighter side of things when things don't go your way I mean everything happens for a reason we don't always know just what the reason is just embrace it and learn from it.
Failure is what makes us better...Shake it off...move forward! Everyone gets down every now and then! You should see what has happened to me in the last 3 months. Believe me I have took a lot of hits as well.
Hi GreatTimes 52,
Telling someone who is in a negative mood state to "shake it off" and "move forward" is the worst advice you can give to anyone. I know you mean well, but don't say things like this to a person who is experiencing negativity in their lives.
To give you an example as to why what you just said doesn't help someone is this. Let's say you have an issue, whether it be trouble at work or home or whatever, but it negatively affects you. By trying to "shake off" that issue, you are resisting that issue. "What resists persists." If you are resisting that issue, sure, it might leave, but it'll come back even stronger and more worse than before.
That is why if someone is thinking negatively it is in their best interest to go into the eye of the storm rather than run away from the issue at large.
Rayne....man. :P Sorry couldn't resist.
I read most of your blog, and then skipped to the last summary sentence. You need to let go of that negativity, Rayne. :)
Failure is relative. Mistakes are what we need to learn from, and mistakes - sometimes called failure - actually help us grow. SO take courage, because every mistake can be learnt from and taken advantage of.
In regards to WA, well, who are comparing yourself to? I haven't earned a cent yet. But I haven't failed. I've read success stories of people not making a dime for months. This is not a get rich quick scheme. Building a reputable business and gaining traffic takes time.
You certainly haven't "failed" yet. :) Just keep going.
I hope you feel better in the coming days. All the best, Jake. :)
Elsie
elsie,
And the only way to truly let go of the negative is to actually go towards the negative emotion then to try to escape it. Do you know what goes on when you try to escape an issue?
I want you to try to picture something for me. Picture this, you had a really crumby day at work, you come home to your significant other and they get mad at you because they're going bankrupt, etc... Do you think that the advice "let go of the negative" or "think happy thoughts" is really going to get rid of the issue?
No, in a matter of fact, you'll find the same thing will come back to haunt you over and over again. The same issue will come crawling back, alot more worse than it did before. It's like saying to someone whose had a loved one die "Oh I wouldn't worry about it, they're probably in paradise now."
I never ever encourage anyone to "just think happy" or "don't worry about it," because that's such a false sense of security. They're mad or upset for a reason. When a baby gets mad or upset, do you just leave the baby in their crib crying without doing anything about it? No...when a baby gets mad, it's because they're genuinely mad about something.
Happiness should be a preference more than a want.
I completely agree. You need to face your negativity then to deal with it and let it go so you can function to your fullest. However you do it, just do it.
All the best Jake,
Elsie
Oh...I'm sorry, maybe I misunderstood what you were trying to say. Thank you Elsie, and I hope you have a good rest of the day/evening, whereever you're located within your timezone.
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Hi Im Anna Charlene Bee, I read you spoke of God, thats really neat! and his real name is Heavenly Father he is creator of Heaven and Earth, the Sea and all that in them is, And God gave his only begotten Son Jesus Christ and whosoever believeth in his Son Jesus Christ shall never perish but have eternal life, I hope you get better. Kyle and Carson will answer any questions you have. Here is a little message I saw on Church sign not to long ago, "You will never fail as long as you never quit" And how true it is!! Have a Great Day!!