Are you compatible with me?
The Compatibility Factor
It is usually taken for granted for too long. You have perhaps also overlooked its foreseeable powers and always forgot to read the signs on the road. That road you were planning to travel along with your partner has again become foggy and doesn’t show any sign of clearance. And everything you have experienced so far is a farce and a mistake.
It is human nature to forget emotional beatings from past relationships, put aside the anxieties one has been through and erase the feeling of dysfunction and inadequacy as one moves from one relationship to the other wishing a better result and more stability. It’s understandable you want to start fresh from ground zero. But are you the fly which enters the trap of Venus flycatcher thinking it can escape from it unharmed?
You must be crazy to think that way.
Learn from your past and take the necessary precaution before taking the first step. No body gets away with the ups and downs of a new relationship
. You have experienced it before but every time you look for a partner you put down your guards and land up in the same place. Grow up; haven’t you got your share of drama queens? Uncaring guys using you like a ball? Codependent individuals who are unable to sustain them and drag you down along with their life?
How about hooking up with someone who really cares about you? Can you visualize spending time with someone who respects you and takes part in your daily activities? You would love to live with someone who blindly believes in your vision of the future.
It does take time. No one can give you a hundred percent guarantee that you will find someone with cent percent compatibility. We must first understand that none of us will reach that perfection ourselves where we can sit and expect some one that perfect. Let’s face it; a perfect soul mate doesn’t come in a Cracker Jack box.
Compatibility issues are common to a lot of relationships. Too many people take the plunge without realizing that their relationship is on a blink. A lot of them forget to communicate with each other and collectively stay patient to make it work. Compatibility issues often deal with arguments about simple things.
Attitude problem and negative emotions form an impenetrable wall of silence. You must have the desire to stay or walk out. Your desire of staying together is most important.
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My wife and I make it a point to ask each other how their day went or going. Unfortunately my wife works nights so our time is critical especially when you have children. My wife usually works 9 PM to 5 AM, I work from 6 AM to 5 PM, so you can see we don't have a lot of time together.
Communication is key and if there is none then there is no relationship. I come home my first action is to go and give my wife a hug and kiss and let her know I've missed her. After that of course are the kids, doing homework, having dinner, family and getting ready for bed. all in 4 hours time before my wife leave for work.
Unfortunately I work one weekend a month and my wife gets one weekend off a month, so even our weekends we have to plan out for the us and the kids.
Good article and thanks for sharing,
Robert
Thank you for reading. It is hard to juggle it "ALL". But a wife or husband and family are the most important thing, after God of course. Good luck to you in all you do!!
Thanks for the post. One of the practices I developed years ago has stood well by me, not just in relationships but in all aspects of my life. When I wake up in the morning the first question I ask myself is "Is this the life I want to be living?" If the answer is yes, I spend the day making that kind of life continue. If the answer is no, I work to figure out what I don't like and spend my time changing it. Because of this one practice, which has become part of my morning meditation, my attitude is almost always positive.
Susan
Thank you for reading. Your morning ritual is a very good one. Hopefully more people do the same. It is very important to make yourself happy. I think if you do this first, you will suceed in other areas of your life.
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