Attack Me! Be Rude to Me! It Says More About YOU Than It Does About ME!

Have I always been overly confident, slightly cocky, bordering on arrogance, with a big mouth?

Yep, pretty much.

Have I always been generous, loving, affectionate, and tried to help others?

Yep, pretty much.

However, while the latter may bring many “fans”, the former will definitely bring many “enemies”.

As far as I’m concerned, “if you give it, you’ve gotta take it”.

And as I “give it” a lot of the time I have to be prepared to take it, in terms of others being rude to me or potentially attacking me.

Water off a duck’s back.

That being said, while I always expected to receive some form of criticism as a Wealthy Affiliate member, it does appear to have accelerated somewhat this year.

Yep, 6 different members in 2023, 3 still current, have felt the urge to send me a Private Message to tell me “what a bad person I apparently am”.

Thank You.

Now, before anyone tells me to “report this to Kyle” or indeed, Kyle if you’re reading this (I KNOW you are, Hahaha!! You’re always slightly worried about what I’m gonna say next! LOL), my lips are sealed.

That’s just NOT me.

Here’s the latest PM message I received, and this is quoted verbatim, nothing added or subtracted by me:

“You’re a douchebag, you realize that right? You have to know it but I’m sure you do, just look in the mirror, you have a douchebag face.

I wish you nothing but the worst in life.

You deserve horrible things and when you least expect it I’m sure life will come crashing down on you HARD.”

I can only guess this is due to me “not replying to a PM for about 3 weeks”, as I have never had any other interaction on the platform with this individual.

That being said, I am definitely a people-watcher and a people-studier, so even if you don't know me, it’s likely I already know you.

I tend to sit back, watch, make assumptions and judgements (yes, I realise that this is wrong of me, but it’s human nature, we ALL do it).

And every once in a while I’ll get involved in the conversation and have my say.

The person who sent this, I have watched your interactions on the platform, and I’m sorry to say, much like many others, you have a serious case of entitlement.

Now, you talk about your “condition”, but trust me, there are members here who are in much worse physical, mental, or emotional turmoil than you.

In fact, one of my favourite members has MANY more physical issues than you and has suffered heartache, and YET, is still one of the happiest (a bit Blunt every now and then., LOL) and least entitled people I have ever met.

Furthermore, there are literally millions of people in the world who would never consider using a physical, mental, or emotional condition to feel that they are “entitled” to something.

Let me also tell you something that is NONE of anyone’s business.

You think life has been easy for me?

Try that 3 people that I loved UNCONDITIONALLY with my entire heart all died in my arms.

Not ONE, but THREE.

I knew (and they knew) that they were all dying, and that they didn’t have long left.

On all 3 occasions, I made the decision to become their full-time carer.

This involved bathing each person, taking them to the toilet, wiping their backside, dressing them, undressing them, feeding them, ensuring they took their medication multiple times a day, massaging them, cutting their fingernails/toenails, carrying them around, and NEVER being off the clock.

The first person left me as a widower at the age of 28.

I’m also going to admit that this led me down a path of alcohol and drug abuse for a couple of years.

The second two (a few years later, approx. 9 months apart) left me, an only child, I guess, as an orphan.

Plus, do you know how hard it is NOT to show emotion when your mother constantly cries because she’s embarrassed and ashamed that her only child, someone that she has doted on throughout her life, now has to bathe her and wipe her backside?

BUT

At no time did I ever feel entitled to ANYTHING.

It was my choice to look after these people in their dying days, and do you know what, I am so, so, so, so glad that I did it.

The memories of those times are both horrific and yet heartwarming.

In the days, weeks, and years that followed I fell into depression, and yet I still did NOT act as though I was entitled.

So, to the person who sent the above message (and the other 5 members who have sent similar messages to me this year, and to the additional 10ish who’ve done the same over the past few years)

I urge you to look at yourself, NOT ME!

Firstly, if you’re looking to external forces to make you happy or make you successful, unfortunately I have to tell you:

You’re Doing Life WRONG!

Additionally, I’ve mentioned that I’ve watched you on the platform.

Whereas, others may not notice it, I DO.

Making excuses, feeling entitled, and basically looking for a push-button system is NOT GOING TO WORK.

I'm yet to EVER meet someone who is successful in any field who is lazy, entitled, not willing to learn, and who has a negative mindset.

Being rude to me may have made you feel better, but has it moved you any closer to success?

I do apologise for going on holiday recently, and the fact that I try to go through my PMs in the order that I receive them.

I also apologise for the fact that this business ISN’T FOR YOU - you don’t have the right mindset, but you carry on paying your membership if you want.

Paying for membership doesn’t bring success, learning, educating YOURSELF, asking for help that doesn’t come across as “whiney” and “woe is me”, building daily habits, TAKING ACTION on what you’ve learned, then FAILING, and readjusting yourself so that you learn from your failures is WHAT BRINGS SUCCESS.

Here’s something else that upsets me a little - I still have many unanswered PMs, and 4 of those are from people who I’ve known for a while and I like a lot, but for now, I don’t wish to open or even read any PMs.

Is receiving these types of messages taking a toll on me? Perhaps!

Let’s face facts, as humans, all most of us want is love and acceptance.

The entitlement shown in the above message tells me that the following is probably what you expect from me:

Those who have received help from me will know that I put my heart and soul into it.

Whereas others may quote “follow the training” and give you a few links to get you started, that’s not what I do.

I spend an hour or so going over your website, I then typically do a write up (it’s ME, it’s gonna be long, e.g. 2,000-3,000 words), I even do some keyword research, give direction, etc.

So, let’s say a bare minimum of 3-4 hours to help ONE person.

What does annoy me sometimes is when I’ve done this and I receive a reply within about 10 minutes asking more questions.

I immediately know that you haven’t even had time to read what I’ve sent you, so why the hell should I reply again?

I even know of a member who hasn’t worked on their website for 10 months now because I did the above for them 10 months ago, and they replied with more questions within about 10 minutes.

BUT

They haven’t worked on their website for 10 months because they needed more answers.

SERIOUSLY?

Do you think that attitude is going to bring success in ANY walk of life?

Anyway, let’s say that I do the above for 10 people per week.

Guess what?

That’s a full-time UNPAID job (you do realise I DON'T promote Wealthy Affiliate, and therefore have NO referrals, plus some people would charge $200-$500 for that type of "service").

Perhaps, that is what I should do, just give up everything I do to be at the beck-and-call of others.

I’ll tell you what, shall I also transfer you $10,000? Because clearly you're ENTITLED to it.

I will always try to help others, whether here or in “real-life”, that’s just me.

But, for now, I’ve kinda had enough of the PM feedback I’ve received this year.

This ISN’T about me, it’s definitely about YOU!

Thank You For Reading

Partha