Considering a Partnership - Try My Personality Detector

• Did you know that the global divorce rate is 41%.
  
• Perhaps you knew that 80% of the business partnerships that get off the ground crash and burn.
  
• Nearly 50% of new hires fail within 18 months of being hired.

One of the hardest questions that you will face is whether a relationship you are about to enter into will work. Given the relationship and business stats above it would seem that finding the right fit is a lot harder than it may first appear.

Since I am still working in the laboratory on my ‘Human Match Detector’ I thought that I would share with you 5 methods that I utilize to better determine if a ‘match is made in heaven’ as they say.

I believe that when these methods are combined they could provide a tremendous improvement in choosing the right partner which will ultimately lead to having a longer lasting and better relationship.

My five suggested questions you can ask to ensure relationship success ere,

1. Do they keep their promises?

• I will come over to see you tomorrow
  
• I’ll pay you back the money that I borrowed next pay check
• I will call you right back

If you are persistently being let down by your partner then you may want to question their commitment to you or the business. If you typically end up being a low priority then you may need to check how important you are.

A repeated inability to live up to promises, in light of no apparent plausible excuse, clearly signals that the person is unreliable. Listen to these signals because you do not want to have to depend on someone like this in big moments.

2. How they treat people below them

Does your new report tend to say hello when she enters a room? How about when a colleague gets in to an elevator, does he say good morning to everyone? Does your new boss in a lunch meeting shout at the waitress?

One surefire way to be able to judge character is to observe how others are treated by that person. Even more so when that person is a stranger and cannot impact your partner.

If your partner tends to be rude or obnoxious or uppity to servers or persons of lesser station, it normally is a clear signal how that person might one day treat you.

I remember a boss of mine attending a late night board meeting instructing her driver to remain in the lobby till the meeting was over. At 11pm, 6 hours later, she trots down the stairs with boxes of food, not a bit concerned that her driver had not eaten since lunch. It told me a lot about her in that instant.

3. How is the car kept?

Years ago, I went out on a blind date. When the date was over I escorted her to her car. When she opened the door it looked like the morning after a wild fraternity party. Cups, wrappers, old paper. It was a complete and utter mess.

It wasn’t the usual level of disorder but a level of unkemptness that I could not overlook, since I prefer clean, tidy and organized. The condition of the car gave me a good idea of what kind of person she was. `Needless of me to say that I did not see her again.

4. Will they flare up at every mistake?

No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. However, it is not so much that you make a mistake but more what action you take after. What I typically look for is

• Some level of remorse and acknowledgment that the mistake is being owned up to
• An excuse or an apology admitting the wrong
• That they are not throwing anyone under the bus in a bid to shift blame
• That they are not trying to push the entire incident under the rug

5. Will they do anything to get their way?

Some people will say and do anything to get ahead. If they want something they are quite prepared to break the rules or conduct themselves in an unbecoming behaviour. For these people success is more determined by how much money they have, how much power they can exert and how much privilege they can access.

These type of people can be clearly seen by the way they get ahead by ‘rubbing shoulders’ , kissing ass’ or ‘brown nosing’. And they only put on their “Mr(s) Wonderful Self' when they’re around a person they like, they adore, or they want something from.

I believe that if you apply these five simple tests you will have better success in selecting a partner or a member of your team.

If you enjoyed please hit like and share what other ways we could better assess someone's personalty and character.

Hugh

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